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If it make every one happy then go for it.

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We have been in the lifestyle for years,and love it. one night on the way home from an evening of swinging in both, same and seperate rooms, my wife told me that she considers one of the men she played with as her Lover. She had been with him on numerous occasions, but it got my attention when she refered to him as her lover.. Up to that time, all who we played with were thought of as playmates like us, having a good time with each other.The three of us know each other, he is a fine and gental man, and does not live with us. But her thinking of him as her " Lover " took me by surprise. I have been with countless women, but never thought of any to be my " Lover ". We are still happy in the lifestyle, and nothing has changed in our relationship, and I didn't think either of us would find a " Lover ", but only good fucking friends.

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I am completely turned on when my wife plays alone or takes the reins in arranging our hook ups. Our rule is that she has full permission to play with anyone she wants and at any time, but that it can never be behind my back. She always has to let me know.

After hooking up with one guy without me, she told me that he was different than any of the other guys she's played with. For the first time, she felt that she was emotionally connected with one of her playmates.

My first question was whether we were ok. We have a family and kids. Was she throwing that all away for this guy?

No. We had a very in-depth discussion, and determined that she truly cared for this guy, but that she absolutely loves me and she's completely happy in our relationship. She just really likes this guy on more than simply a physical/sexual plane, and wants to be able to be with both of us.

That made sense to me, and I agreed that she could continue the relationship as long as it was good for her and it never detracted from us.

Long story short, it turns out that the geographical distance between us and her other lover prevented their relationship from ever becoming the regular thing that she was hoping for, but it was a definite wake up call to both of us that she has poly amorous tendencies.

More recently, she hooked up with another of her boyfriends once while I was on a business trip. She'd been with him three times before: twice alone and once as a threesome with me. This seems to be a little different than the other guy because although she says she really likes this guy, it seems to be more of just a real friendship with this guy. She says that they're good fuck buddies who are also just good friends.

Fine with me, as long as she and I are also rock-solid as I know we are!

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Losamantes? I laughed out loud at that!

Ocala FL
 
 
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Can I apply for the car wash position? Then we can negotiate the whole mortgage/rent thing.

;^D

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Oh yeah, and washes the cars.

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If he starts paying the mortgage and the bills you've got my attention.

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We have been in the lifestyle for many years. We started with MFM play, then went to FMF play and eventually MFMF play. We fully enjoy all three settings. However, I'm not sure we or for that matter very many couples could handle a full time second male or female living in the same house in a "Threesome Marriage" setting.

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So when it comes down to it. Ill gladly play the inferior role if she wanted to in the bedroom. But in real life, I work, I pay bills, I provide for my family, Im not a sissy or a wuss, and I sure as hell wont take a "real life" back seat in my marriage.

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Ive read a lot about this. It can be dangerous. In my opinion, for some people it may work, but for most its probably better keeping it a fantasy.

I love when my wife meets someone on her own and they end up playing. I get a big thrill when its "behind my back" or "without my knowledge"

But those are carefully controlled scenarios that are part real and part role playing.

Its the thrill of another man seducing my wife and having his way with her and she going right along with it thats a huge turn on. But once you mix real feelings in beyond just sexual play you are playing with fire.

For me to take the "sub" role and her to be with a guy who is hot, with a better body, and a big dick is thrilling.

But we're able to turn that off after its done and put it away until next time.

To actually bring another person into the relationship as a real life partner, I cant see where it will work for all but a very small minority of people.

I can get into all that type of role playing. But to take it beyond role playing into real life.....No way

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