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Trying to meet people on a website is a bit like fishing,dangle the bait, hope to get a nibble /anda fish that you don't have to immediately throw back in the pond.

If you send out an emailand areply comes back, great! If a reply doesn't come back...it's like the fish that ignored the bait and got away. He ignored it because he wasn't attracted to it, plain and simple.

We seldom email othersanyway and we alwaysreply to polite emails, butwe view no response to any we do send as no interest, and just move on. Attraction must be mutual after all, and if they are fake or flaky...I am glad they didn't reply.

Shelly

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"The inquiries are universally ignored anyway, so why bother? We'll attend MG's and house parties and expand our circle of friends there. SLS has become useless as a resource for that purpose. That's the reality."

No offense intended but are you sure your ages are not a large factor into the lack of responses? The percentage of folks in your age group is rather slim, add to that the need for attraction and it seems logical things would be slowing down for you.

We were never ones to mass email folks and therefore had very little experience with lack of responses. We pick careful who we believe we are compatible with and also make damn sure we are meeting their compatibility desires.....after that it is easy......either we're all attracted or we are not. If they ignore us, clearly they're not interested....nothing fake or flaking about that at all.

I get a kick out of the whole "Everyone is fake or a flake" theory ...what an easy out to blame others for your lack of success instead of taking a hard look on how you yourselves might be contributing to the problem in one way or another.

That's my 2 cents.....keep the change!

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We've been swinging for about seventeen years and on SLS for quite a few years too. We've metsome very nice people on SLS and can guarantee that they're For Real. :-) Having said that, it seems that the online community in general, not just SLS, is having real issues with civility. We understand that the anonymity offered by the net helps to shield people's identities and protects their privacy. It also offers unparalleled opportunities for totally uncivil behavior without consequences. Fakes and Flakes can flourish, rude responses are easy, and ignoring polite inquiries is the norm. In theory, LS sites like SLS offer the LS community an easy means of expanding our circles of friends. In practice, the behavior that we've seen over the past several years is a Total Turnoff...to the point that we've entirely stopped even bothering to introduce ourselves to other members and express any interest in making their acquaintance. The inquiries are universally ignored anyway, so why bother? We'll attend MG's and house parties and expand our circle of friends there. SLS has become useless as a resource for that purpose. That's the reality.


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Our experience with meeting people from sites like SLS has been really good. When we do give our numbers out it is usually after a few emails/IMs back and forth. If one of the cpl..usually guy..doesnt have a pic we will ask for at least a body shot of one (clothed). If they start coming up with excuses..red flag.. but once our numbers are out we try to group text with everyone.. we understand the others may only use one phone... We usually voice verify and then talk to both

..precautions

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We put some value in a cert. I really don't care if it says "this couple is awesome at..." (which is none of my business, i'll make that call on my own) or it says "we met them at a meet greet". I just like to see one that would indicate that it is a genuine couple that isn't too scared to show thier face and not one of the other possibilities. Single male, married male, HS kid jerking off, etc,etc.

We have run into people too paranoid to show thier face someone posing as a couple.

Weather they have the intent on meeting people or if we are at all compatable is another thing but the later is kind of fun to figure out.

We have only run into a few that weren't as advertised, More that there just wasn't a connection.

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Based on our experience over the past 10 yrs we'd have to say thst no more then 25% of the couples here are real.

Sylmar CA
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I think that most of of them are real, others are looking into it ... but they get scared after first mail.. either because their expectations ... or your too good looking... gotta go with your age and weith range and look...unless one is taking one for the team.."taking one for the team is never good unless the other take one back fast"...joke lol

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We've been fortunate tonever have a no-show in our experience. We've met couples at MG's, clubs, or one on one. We voice verify to make sure we're dealing with a real couple before we meet. Several times after exchanging afew e-mails pics, agreeing to meet,when we bring up the phone call, we don't hear from the "couple" again. Most likely a single or married guy running a scam or a poser couple.

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After a couple of years here, we seem to be having more luck meeting other couples at meet and greets and parties. There are a fair number of no shows when arranging for a one-on-one meet, so if we arrange a meeting at a group event, and the other couple doesn't show (which has happened), no big deal.

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My husband and I have been swinging for more than 7 years now. We have been off and on with different so called swinging sites. We were most recently at SDC when we lived in Miami and had well over 30 certs at one time and dropped the account and started over and so on. And now live in Charlotte. The reason I bring this up is that certs or validations can be deceiving and as we travel through the profiles here we see a lot of certs by people who have met at a party or event ("It was nice meeting Bill and Nancy, hope to talk to them again.") That's not a swinger's validation. We've been to clubs and events and seen couples sitting around playing grab ass and wanting you to think they are sexually mature. Frankly, I have been to vanilla parties and had more sex than at some of these meet and greets. And if you follow the thread between all the connected certs we find that most here, at least in the Charlotte area are not swingers, even soft swingers.

After many years of trial and error as well as frustration and a lot of hard work we don't believe that 10% of the couples profiles are either genuine or truthful. Many are married men that are wishful thinkers, many are single men that put up a bogus couple's profile in hopes of exchanging photos or fooling a couple. After 5 years of being on SDC in Miami we knew exactly who the swingers were and who the fakes were. It may have beensomewhat skewed in Miami but we think in both ways. There are a lot of latin swingers in Miami but we noticed the Miami Velvet affect. It was advertised as a swinger club but mostly filled with posers and many of these people posted profiles for attention. These were the hot little latina/macho boy couples that liked showing off but there was no way in hell that she was going to be allowed to touch another man. So they did have "real" profiles, however they were not swingers.

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