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TOPIC: What percent of couples on sls are real
Created by: jandact
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as in what percent of couples have actually swapped with another couple? We finally got exasperated with people who have no certs so we changed our profile to say if you have no 'real' certs then you have to convince us you are serious. By 'real' certs we mean certs that say 'we met this couple and actually played with them' and not the 'we met so and so at a meet and greet and had a nice chat' variety.

For what it's worth we searched for couples in our area and of the first 200 who came up 55 had certs or 27.5%. We did not look at the actual certs people had to try to figure out how many were 'real' but we are sure that some of those couples have the 'we met and chatted' variety meaning probably closer to 20% of couples here have what we consider 'real' certs. So one out of five couples are serious swingers??? Is that right???

Now we understand some people do not give and accept certs but we doubt that they would change the number very much.

After we get some feedback on this post we are going to suggest to sls that they split certs into two categories with the second being certs that say 'we met and played with this couple.'

Thoughts?

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We are in N California and have been swingers since 2002. We belonged to a private group that was the only private group of full swap swingers in the San Fransisco bay area.

The requirements to get into the group was to play with one of the member couples have a good time and play at the first party you where invited to.

The San Fransisco bay area has 10 million people..the largest party we had was 35 couples which filled the house..we had a member ship list of around 350 couples.

The group now will have parties of around 10 to 15 couples at the most.

Very few couples are into full swap out of any population, our experience with SLS is around 5 to 10% of the profiles are real and about 25% of those are people we would play with...the reason why is i am married to one of those rare straight women in the lifestyle...most of the couples seem to want a bi woman as part of the couple.

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You can't always tell what kind of health problems someone has by looking at them. I had a stroke at 36 years old at 128 lbs. my grandfather ran a 4.5 40 yard dash the year he had a heart attack. He void have been an Olympian when he younger.

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we dont play with people if they are in that bad of shape...lol

Ukiah CA
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PLC, welcome to the forums!

i would say it's probably a bad idea to hand a cialis or viagra to anyone that it wasn't prescribed for. a really bad idea, IMHO. way too much potential for things to go wrong health wise.

YMMV, and that's ok.

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I feel your frustration, we have all had to deal with many persons that never follow through for what ever reason. We choose to not have certs as we both have very public careers. We might be able to explain the profile if someone discovered us and wanted to harm us in some manner, but it would be much harder to explain certifications. So as a matter discretion we choose to not allow certifications to be posted. Over the years we have "ran" into persons we work with or know at local events. Our choice to be cautious. BTW- the people we have ran into have never been a problem:) PLC

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For sophiasays69 and others who have had to deal with newbies with men who could not get it up..bring Viagra!!!!!!!!

Have the guy chew 50mgs and he will be hard as a rock in 15 minutes. Great for group play and for men who are seeing their wife with another man for the first time. That is the most beautiful erotic distracting thing a man can see..kills his erection.

We have been playing for 12 years and that happened to me to first time....and the other woman was drop dead sexy.

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We have been on this site for a few years, we also believe that about 20% is actually being a bit generous. But its not just because there are people on here that arent real, you have a mixture of "chat bots" (computer generated profiles) or other people get into a click, they dont want to deal with anyone outside it. I wish SLS had a feature where they can just hide their profiles....wait there is one...I wish they would do it.

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"However, as an earlier poster pointed out, we were raised to respond politely to polite inquiries, even if only to say 'no thank you'. That seems to be a dieing trait on the 'net. "

I don't think it is a dying art on the net at all. Since when was there any kind of protocol necessitating responding to emails for products or services you are not interested in. Why people want to bitch and complain about non responses is beyond me. Lets say your looking to get new windows and siding for your home. You might even go to a Home show just to look around, next thing you know your mail box is being filled up with all kinds of products being offered trying to sell custom paint, a new house maybe, a complete home remodel or even if your lucky just the windows or siding you are actually looking for . Do you email them all back and politely tell each of them that although you are in the market for siding you have no interest in a new home, custom paint job or even in the siding they are offering?? Why on earth anyone expects the experience here to be any different is beyond me. You're here either buying or selling or maybe even both . If someone is interested in what you're selling they'll be all over it if not Que Sera, Sera.

All this BS about fakes and flakes, respect and manners, expectations and judgments is ridiculous and the fact that anyone lets it bother them says far more about THEM than it does the non responder. How many people do you pass on the street, in the subway or coming in or out a door that you don’t even look at never mind acknowledge and yet somehow you send out an email to a complete stranger and expect a response and judge them if for whatever reason they don’t respond?

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Savandwin: You're assuming that we 'shotgun' inquiries indiscriminately. Not so. We read profiles and if we don't fit their (stated) age preferences and other desires, they never near from us. We're in a large metropolitan area and have several hundred LS types who aren't far. Of those, some state that they're open to people of our ages, though as you point out most are not. Those who are not get a 'note' on their profile reminding us to not contact them..."Only interested in 25-45, do not contact", etc. My point was that even those who express an interest in people of our ages and interests refuse to acknowledge or respond to inquiries. Yes, I'm certain that there must be some attraction to establish a relationship. However, as an earlier poster pointed out, we were raised to respond politely to polite inquiries, even if only to say 'no thank you'. That seems to be a dieing trait on the 'net.


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Trying to meet people on a website is a bit like fishing,dangle the bait, hope to get a nibble /anda fish that you don't have to immediately throw back in the pond.

If you send out an emailand areply comes back, great! If a reply doesn't come back...it's like the fish that ignored the bait and got away. He ignored it because he wasn't attracted to it, plain and simple.

We seldom email othersanyway and we alwaysreply to polite emails, butwe view no response to any we do send as no interest, and just move on. Attraction must be mutual after all, and if they are fake or flaky...I am glad they didn't reply.

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