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TOPIC: What percent of couples on sls are real

Created by: jandact Original Starting post for this thread:
as in what percent of couples have actually swapped with another couple? We finally got exasperated with people who have no certs so we changed our profile to say if you have no 'real' certs then you have to convince us you are serious. By 'real' certs we mean certs that say 'we met this couple and actually played with them' and not the 'we met so and so at a meet and greet and had a nice chat' variety. For what it's worth we searched for couples in our area and of the first 200 who came up 55 had certs or 27.5%. We did not look at the actual certs people had to try to figure out how many were 'real' but we are sure that some of those couples have the 'we met and chatted' variety meaning probably closer to 20% of couples here have what we consider 'real' certs. So one out of five couples are serious swingers??? Is that right??? Now we understand some people do not give and accept certs but we doubt that they would change the number very much. After we get some feedback on this post we are going to suggest to sls that they split certs into two categories with the second being certs that say 'we met and played with this couple.' Thoughts?

Created by: jandact
Original Starting post for this thread:

as in what percent of couples have actually swapped with another couple?   We finally got exasperated with people who have no certs so we changed our profile to say if you have no 'real' certs then you have to convince us you are serious.  By 'real' certs we mean certs that say 'we met this couple and actually played with them' and not the 'we met so and so at a meet and greet and had a nice chat' variety.

For what it's worth we searched for couples in our area and of the first 200 who came up 55 had certs or 27.5%.  We did not look at the actual certs people had to try to figure out how many were 'real' but we are sure that some of those couples have the 'we met and chatted' variety meaning probably closer to 20% of couples here have what we consider 'real' certs.   So one out of five couples are serious swingers???  Is that right???

Now we understand some people do not give and accept certs but we doubt that they would change the number very much.

After we get some feedback on this post we are going to suggest to sls that they split certs into two categories with the second being certs that say 'we met and played with this couple.'

Thoughts?

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User Details are only visible to members.	I'm not certain, but I think only paid members can give/receive certs. Those certs evaporate when the giving member leaves SLS (happened to me.) I've definitely had an easier time meeting people here when I've had at least one Cert. They show that I'm serious about my intentions. Likewise, when I see a profile with Certs, I take them a bit more seriously. I believe they are real, and serious.
Gilbert AZ			Username hidden (14 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We removed our certs because we had so many people cherry picking and people running their mouths. It was a privacy thing. But on the other hand it is a nice way to tell if a couples for real. I guess it's a catch 22.
Portsmouth VA			Username hidden (8 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We have been in the lifestyle and this site less than two months. We have met 8 couples, one house party, went to one club event, played 'really soft' at the house party because that was all that was done, and less soft at the club. We full swap/group played with three couples. We have no certs. Two of the couples we full swapped/group played with had mechanical issues and well never mentioned the existing problems before they met us or agreed to play with us. A SM was going to meet us for a MFM and at the last minute invited a female from a couple we sorta played with (her boyfriend couldn't get it up, anxiety issues) and then she needed a ride (she was two hours away). He went to get her and then after we arrived at the place agreed to at the time agrred too, he was still two hours away from us because she changed her mind. WE never met him that night, we went on to other people that night. All the folks (couples and singles) we met and/or played with including the parties and club event all have certs. None have certed us. We can't be more real, less drama free, and more willing to play and have put up with their dramas and still no certs. Our experience demonstrates that certs mean nothing really. It does not mean you are drama free as you state. It does not mean that you can play when in the moment, those pesky mechanical issues. It does not mean that your profile is truthful, if it was, we would have known your age is a huge lie (11 years wrong), your weight is significantly more than you stated, you have ED, and you make other arrangements that fall through and still expect us to be waiting, and you still showed up thinking we wouldn't notice? I know the big thing on this site for some people is CERTS ARE THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS or 'no cert, it didn't happen'. But you know what, that isn't true. Certs don't make a person tell the truth, be real in person, or really anything other than someone gave them one for whatever reason, maybe to get one in return. I look at it the same as twitter followers and facebook friends and like, just something to collect but really has no bearing on me as a real person. Sophia
Hendersonville NC			Username hidden (510 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	nothing like a 4-way telephone conversation on Google voice to separate real couples from the deceivers and fakes.
Charlotte NC			Username hidden (54 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We’re cynical optimists here. As many have said, the gut feeling in a lot of cases is the couple you were emailing and making plans with—but suddenly had to cancel at the last minute—aren’t what they seem. But we’ve always expressed the benefit of the doubt and, just like a lot of other activities that conflict with dispassioned logic, enjoy the feeling that ‘maybe this one was real too!’ After all, how many of us buy the occasional lottery ticket despite knowing the odds are against us? So in each case, we hope it really was the one in ten/hundred couple that is as real as we are but just couldn’t make things work. Perhaps we’ll see them at a party or get together at a later date? Another way of looking at it is how much fun was it to believe in Santa, and what were the jaded years like before you had kids and re-believed? It’s your choice, I guess. Now, if there’re any elves out there that want to play this week... ;)
Middletown NY			Username hidden (5 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I'd say a majority of people who are paid members with certs are "real". I've only been on here 3 months or so but I've met alot of great couples so far as a single guy and all went very well! Have also played with some free members who can't leave certs. When it comes to free members, some of the profiles seem kind of shady but I'm assuming it's because they didn't put much effort into their profile since they just wanted to check the site out.
Toms River NJ			Username hidden (446 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	My husband and I have had a number of meet ups with SLS couples and have swapped with a few. No one offered to give us a cert, and I think only one of them had a cert. To me it means nothing other than giving a way for others to see who you've been with or met. Not a fan of kiss & tell.
Fishers IN			Username hidden (1 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Funny but really true to life topic lol . I assume anyone on the internet is a frustrated wanting-sex male whether married or young boy . I'm sure many people who read my profile assume that is what I am . When they meet me at parties that's what they tell me anyway lol. Bottom line , if you use this as the only means to meet people you are taking your chances . If you really want to meet people you need to put yourself out there in some other way . I can't give you percetages , I'm sure that varies by region , Be brave and good luck
Allentown PA			Username hidden (242 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We've met a number of "real" couples here who had no certs.
Dallas TX			Username hidden (16 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We've played with a few couples that are free members, so they can't leave us a cert.
Toledo OH			Username hidden (1040 post)

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