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Scotty...you flirting wit ME? (first time! )

I really think there has to be a LOT of communication for this to be a "comfortable" thing to do, but I still don't want to be with a deceptive married man. I don't want to be with anyone deceptive, so that rules out several kinds of people...the ones w/ fake pics, the ones with phoney profiles, the marrieds who are posing as singles, the singles who are posings as couples...and the list goes on.

Will I rescend that someday? I don't know. For now, there are plenty of fun, sexy, open and honest singles an couples, so we don't have to really worry about lack of partners.

Borrow away, what do you have for collateral? Gina

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shell,

I'd play wiht you however you want to.

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I agree completely with bicpl; if the wife in a couple knows the husband is playing with another woman and has given her consent (and vice versa of course) I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. As I have said before, Jay and I are considering this. Although we are still in communication and discussion about this the one thing we have both insisted on is that the other knows who we are with and have given complete consent; if one of us does not like the potential partner we say no and there are no arguments, no questions asked. I know that we have found that most people do not play with couples that play alone unless they already know them; this is because you simply don't have the time to investigate and make sure that this is really someone playing with their spouses consent and not a cheating husband or wife. Shell


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Gina,

I don't want to make you mine, I just want to borrow you for 2 or 3 hrs.

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Adultery is defined as extramarital sex...swinging is within the marriage, and you are not coveting the other person's mate (wanting them to be your own, for example and having the person's mate knocked off, as did King David to get Bathsheba).

Frankly, anyone can justify anything they feel they are doing "wrong." We don't think we're doing anything wrong. If we felt we were, then we wouldn't do it, as it would be hurtful, not only to others, but to ourselves.

It's what your intentions are, not what your deed are, that are of importance in this area. My spirituality is VERY personal and private and it corresponds nicely with my sexuality...they're all about myself as a loving, giving person. I am at my most mentally, emotionally and physically pure when I am having sex.

Those may be seen as mystical, confusing, contradictory statements, but I do know myself well enough to "know what I'm talking about" in reference. Gina

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we can and it's not adultry... we're not married. Easy enough huh?

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There have been a lot of good points made here on both sides of the coin. However, can anyone reconcile swinging with religious beliefs? Can anyone, in clear conscious, have sex with another woman/man and not call it adultery? This is a question that I have not ever heard anyone answer.

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Mars, I agree with the fundamental nature of your post. However, I disagree. I understand that alot of women lose most if not all interest in sex as they get older. Alot but definately not all, but I agree with alot. And I see your point when you say isn't it better for a man to discreetly get what he needs, it makes him happier at home, whats the harm...however I do disagree. Lying to your wife is not okay. I know that its frustrating when you want to experience sex and she or he is not interested. But I honestly think that its better to sit down with your spouse and discuss your needs vs. sneaking behind their back. Shelly


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I apologize I really took the time now to fully try to understand what you all wrote. I believe or hope most of you were writing to one person in general although your statements are easily misinterpreted. Some comments were "we don't play with married partners swinging alone cheating is cheating", I don't think you meant it exactly that way or at least the way I took it.sorry

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2for,

What you're doing involves no deception. If we decide to entertain a single, be in male or female, and they tell us they are married but it's ok with their spouse we simply ask to meet both of them in person to verify it. Then you get the "well she/he isn't available."

We're not going to help someone cheat on their mate.

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