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"it was no ones business but mine and hers. "

WRONG!!! It's also the business of the couple with whom you want to play. THEIR morality standards are as valid and applicable as yours.

We refuse to play with married men unless we have met and discussed the issue with their wives.

Jim

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DandJ you are right in that you are NOT the marital or morality police for other married adults. We do not play with married men who are cheating. But again like I have said, we rarely play with singles so it has only been an issue once and we turned him down when he said that his wife didn't know he was here. Every time I talk with couples that do play with married men I always wonder this...I always enjoy your posts so I just have to ask you. Don't y'all ever worry about an angry wife contacting you? I would be scared that some angry ass wife would walk into my office or something. Shell

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Many here are intensely concerned with cheaters. Since we meet guys for threesomes, we have extensive experience. About 90% of those who contact us as guys are married. We always ask because we like to know and if they can't be upfront, that is a deal breaker. But we aren't the morality police, so it's not a deal breaker if they are married. Their business is their business. I know that many get all shook up about those guys, but we've met some nice guys who were married and didn't let their wives know the situation. Each situation is different, so rules never cover them. We've never liked rules and would rather judge each person individually.

There are single men playing. There are married men playing with permission. We've enjoyed both. And there are many sad, sorry marriages. Been there ourselves. One thing we do tell all is that if your wife contacts us we will not lie for you. Never had it happen yet, though.

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As experienced swingers know, the problem with married men playing alone is that the vast majority of them are just cheaters.

Not all, though. But we would likely not take a chance unless it was with someone we knew well and whose wife we also knew and with whom we had confirmed the agreement they have.

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"my question is, would you believe my profile or not? Seriously, just wondering if I am viewed as legitimate or a cheater."

Anyone who thinks you are a cheater is a judgemental moron without a clue - don't give such opinions a second thought. You have an excellent profile.

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Wow, this topic has generated a lot of discussion. I am part of a couple that plays together WHEN we are in the same zip code. However, I travel for work and keep a single profile with her full knowledge. So, my question is, would you believe my profile or not? Seriously, just wondering if I am viewed as legitimate or a cheater. Hadn't really thought about the fact that I may be viewed that way?

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Hi, WOW!! Some of you guys get pretty intense. I do not attemp to mix religion and sex. In 6 days we will have made it to 31 years being married and selectively "swinging" over 28. We are more secure in our relationship than ever. We were in love almost 32 years ago so I guess you would have to say we are MORE in love now and I didnt think that possible. I am the female and I pick who I think I would like us to play with. The one "rule", if you will, between us is that if either of us dislikes something that is the end of it. At one time I would have say there was somthing wrong with anyone attached swinging alone but now I think it depends on the situation. I had gotten sick that led to an operation. I was "out' for a pretty long time and actually set it up so my husband could play two times. I know what a man needs and after the fact really wanted him to say how great it was. He said it was ok but I wasnt there so never wanted to do it again. We have had 3 ladies live with us(one for 4 years) and he would NEVER touch them sexually if I wasnt there. The main reason I normally choose NOT to get involved with an attached person is simple and not based on ethics, morality, or religion. I do not want to be involved in the baggage as it is too complicated. I LOVE SLS, my husband, and swinging. I have many friends and family that know we swing(concerning the post about telling) but some I choose not to tell and I feel that is my right. If someone finds out and didnt like it they could live with it--or without me. We are soul and life mates and as long as we are happy that is what is important. Some do this to have fun but we like to make rocking chair memories. I hope you guys can have half as much fun as we have. Be cool, be safe, be good to each other, and have a blast.

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RK, You are right in the sense that there is a double standard with certain couples. Yes, some couples are so desperate for a unicorn that they don't care if she has 3 boobs and blue hair lol. Well, thats over dramatic but you know what I mean. They have tunnel vision on what they want and thats it. However, I have found that most couples feel the exact same way about cheating wives as they do about cheating husbands. Now, I know that there are spouses who DO play with the complete consent of their husband or wife. However, I know that unless we have met you as a couple at a meet and greet or house party and know that we know that your wife is cool we probably won't play with you. Just being honest. I just don't have time to investigate. And I do not need an angry or crying wife to be calling me. Shell

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From Wikipedia: Although the definition of "adultery" differs in nearly every legal system, the common theme is sexual relations outside of marriage, in one form or another.

For example, New York defines an adulterer as a person who "engages in sexual intercourse with another person at a time when he has a living spouse, or the other person has a living spouse."North Carolina defines adultery as when any man and woman "lewdly and lasciviously associate, bed and cohabit together. "Minnesota defines adultery as: "when a married woman has sexual intercourse with a man other than her husband, whether married or not, both are guilty of adultery".

Adultery was known in earlier times by the legalistic term "criminal conversation" (another term, alienation of affection, is used when one spouse deserts the other for a third person). The term originates not from adult, which is from Latin a-dolescere, to grow up, mature, a combination of a, "to", dolere, "work", and the processing combound sc), but from the Latin ad-ulterare (to commit adultery, adulterate/falsify, a combination of ad, "at", and ulter, "above", "beyond", "opposite", meaning "on the other side of the bond of marriage").

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P and I don't agree on this. I don't feel comfortable about having a married man over for mfm if his wife doesn't know. She feels that if a man is cheating on his wife it's THEIR problem, not ours.

What do we do when we disagree about anything in swinging? As always, the one least comfortable gets to exercise veto power.

Jim

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