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TOPIC: What is wrong with Married men swinging alone
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Since posting below a few replies ago, my playmate and I have had our own discussion about playing 'outside the lines of swinging'. He says he won't be in a relationship where he couldn't take advantage of getting laid if the opportunity presents itself but would also extend the same to the woman to enjoy. So we're still talking about if that includes hunting here on SLS where I would expect to be informed of what he's doing or just a happenstance of standing in a checkout line at the grocery or Home Depot.

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Hello Austin Guy. Hope you are well. In regard to the thread its a hard call really whether the goings on of another marriage are or are not your business...I just really get concerned because a single female friend of ours was freaked out when the fiance of her play partner called her up on her cell phone. It really freaked her out in a big way which of course is understandable. Shell

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To answer you we've never been contacted by a wife yet. If we were contacted we'd tell her the truth and refer her to her husband. We tell the guys that if their wife contacts us, we won't lie for them. We're not the moral police and we don't lie. If anyone wants drama they can go elsewhere. We're not going to respond to drama and will end it rather abruptly if someone decides to try it. One sided drama doesn't get very far.

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BadWolf says, "My $0.02 worth (Male half). We play separately and are content with it. Not saying it works for everyone, but it does for us. I am always up front with the people I talk to about being married, and never lie about it. I understand if you are not comfortable with it, and we go on our separate ways. My wife is happy to talk to anyone that tinks I'm cheating.

On the other hand, there are women on the site as singles, just as there are males, who are not really single. Most have been up front with me about it, and tell me there husbands don't know. That is one game I'm not playing. That is drma on the highest level just waiting to explode, and I don't want anywhere near it.

We have no problem with playing separately as long as everyone is up front and open about it from the start, and everyone is on the same page of understanding."

Sorry...but I have a major problem with that. My playmate and I have discussed this as a hypothetical projection. He says he'd be willing to let me go off with someone who caught my fancy. No way...I'm not interested in anyone else...just him. I think that's just a reason for a 'tit for tat' game - you got yours, I want mine now. As I explained to him the other night, swing is supposed to be two people enjoying a bit of strange now and then and a committed couple that has the love and respect of each other goes home together knowing that it truly is just sportfucking. That's the whole security of it.

Though I would admit I'd probably have a time swallowing the idea of him with someone else in the same room but as long as I knew and approved of her, would feel ok with it. But certainly no solo expeditions by any means. Nor would I request one even if I knew he didn't care enough to say no. That's what it amounts to in a nutshell....do you care enough to say ..no - we do this together or not at all?

But you're right...you're way isn't for everyone. I do know my playmate has a wandering eye (and cock) so my eyes are open.

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"it was no ones business but mine and hers. "

WRONG!!! It's also the business of the couple with whom you want to play. THEIR morality standards are as valid and applicable as yours.

We refuse to play with married men unless we have met and discussed the issue with their wives.

Jim

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DandJ you are right in that you are NOT the marital or morality police for other married adults. We do not play with married men who are cheating. But again like I have said, we rarely play with singles so it has only been an issue once and we turned him down when he said that his wife didn't know he was here. Every time I talk with couples that do play with married men I always wonder this...I always enjoy your posts so I just have to ask you. Don't y'all ever worry about an angry wife contacting you? I would be scared that some angry ass wife would walk into my office or something. Shell

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Many here are intensely concerned with cheaters. Since we meet guys for threesomes, we have extensive experience. About 90% of those who contact us as guys are married. We always ask because we like to know and if they can't be upfront, that is a deal breaker. But we aren't the morality police, so it's not a deal breaker if they are married. Their business is their business. I know that many get all shook up about those guys, but we've met some nice guys who were married and didn't let their wives know the situation. Each situation is different, so rules never cover them. We've never liked rules and would rather judge each person individually.

There are single men playing. There are married men playing with permission. We've enjoyed both. And there are many sad, sorry marriages. Been there ourselves. One thing we do tell all is that if your wife contacts us we will not lie for you. Never had it happen yet, though.

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As experienced swingers know, the problem with married men playing alone is that the vast majority of them are just cheaters.

Not all, though. But we would likely not take a chance unless it was with someone we knew well and whose wife we also knew and with whom we had confirmed the agreement they have.

Jim

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"my question is, would you believe my profile or not? Seriously, just wondering if I am viewed as legitimate or a cheater."

Anyone who thinks you are a cheater is a judgemental moron without a clue - don't give such opinions a second thought. You have an excellent profile.

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Wow, this topic has generated a lot of discussion. I am part of a couple that plays together WHEN we are in the same zip code. However, I travel for work and keep a single profile with her full knowledge. So, my question is, would you believe my profile or not? Seriously, just wondering if I am viewed as legitimate or a cheater. Hadn't really thought about the fact that I may be viewed that way?

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