If your wife is ok with your playing with others And Willing To Say So In Person or On The Phone, then I'd suggest you state so right up front in your profile. If you can't do this, then you're a married cheater, antithetical to everything that we believe and ppl will avoid that sort of drama.

JnD

Not necessarily...swingers have an issue with married men cheating on their wives, not married men who play alone. There is a HUGE difference between a man like my husband who, if he and a playmate want to hook up, is okay to do so....and a man sneaking out behind his family's back getting a booty call. The only thing is, most of us just don't have the time to investigate such things...so really, its easier just to steer clear.

There is nothing wrong with married men playing alone! Hell there have been times my wife paid my way to a gang bang, just as there has been times when she wanted to just play with the girls bi herself (excuse the pun). If you are one of those persons who has a problem with it then just steer clear. I have a problem with overweight women but I don't hate on them I just don't play with them. Its ashamed that people who call them selves open minded should get so hung up on someone's marital status.

We are all grown ups and should be able to make our own decisions, if we want to play with married women and vice versa so be it, its no ones business

It has less to do with looks than it does the potential drama of the last sentence in your profile.

Most people avoid words like "permission" and "allowed to."

Good luck,
G.

If your profile is as a couple then that is what most couples look for. Single men do have a hard time in general meeting couples and SF. But if your a guy that has permission, to most it doesn't mean a hill of beans. You are new to this site and I also noticed that your profile does not mention the fact that you're SM friendly. If you don't invite SMs to your profile what makes you think other will. Anyone who is SM friendly doesn't want the male that has permission to play because of the potential of drama. it's got nothing to do with being ugly it's just the comfort level others have.

I have permission to play alone just can't find any takers I cant be that ugly!

The other side of this is the married woman who just wants some discrete fun

With his wifes knowledge and consent, nothing at all.

Earlier in this thread the question was posed by wives who enjoy setting up solo dates for their hubbies how to let the other people know they actually approve of this activity, and that its not fake: easy answer, record a quick video of you both, where the wife voices her opinion on it. That way, it comes straight from your mouth, he's present in the video, and pictures of the two of you on the profile should validate that you are who you say you are.

As for me, I'd rather be there with my wife, becuase if i want to hold her hand or kiss her, it's just easier that way.