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TOPIC: Meeting Preference: Couple To Couple or at a Club-Meet N Greet-Party
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We find that the meet and greets are an excellent way to meet people. It's fairly easy to weed out the pretenders, and you have the opportunity to meet many couples in the same setting. It's difficult to land a 2-on-2 date, even more difficult to land one where everyone cliques. Even if you go to a club and don't play, you can exchange SLS usernames and have a better chance of private follow-up dates. We have never attended a club and not found people to play with that night.

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We are somewhat of a "newbie couple" as we did some swapping a while ago, but family priorities took over and now we are back and loving our new freedom with each other. We decided to join the SLS site to try and connect with the right people to enjoy together, but we too have found issues with actually making the connections. We are open to M&G or house parties, but would really like to connect with others one on one, to hopefully make new friends if the chemistry is not sexually right, or to have things go sensual if the chemistry is right. We are very open minded and flexible but we just need to find that right avenue. If anyone is local to us, we are looking to connect with clean, fun, couples who are interested in a friendship with sexual pleasure sharing.

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We've been in the lifestyle about a year now and have used both methods for meeting new couples. You have to remember that a few couples are against meeting at a meet and greet for privacy reasons; others aren't crazy about the "cliqueness" of some of those get-togethers. We don't really have enough experience yet to be considered a part of any clique, anyway, and most of our meetings have been one-on-one after a few emails and phone conversations.

We don't go to M&Gs expecting to find another couple and play the same evening, but if it should happen and the chemistry is there, that's fine. We generally shoot for meeting couples and perhaps arranging another meeting, again if all seem to be on the same page. Bottom line is that there probably isn't any difference in the way people meet; it's up to the couples involved.

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I have been meeting at events and clubs only for years. I have a great large group of like minded and happy friends. The one on one meetings got tiresome and boring, at a club when the attraction isnt there you have not wasted getting dressed, putting your best foot foreward.

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Most meet & greets are a waste of time with the cliques you find there and the people who are always looking to trade up to a hotter couple while they are talking with another couple. Also, meet & greets are full of pseudo-swingers who never actually play with anyone.

We always like to meet couples one on one and if a couple looks like their pics when we meet them and has the same personality we saw when we chatted (as we do) then we are willing to 'invest' the time in them when we meet them to see if we click enough to play.

In addition, we try to 'pre-qualify' couples to see who is really full swap before we agree to meet them and doing that at a meet & greet usually takes a lot of time and usually results in our going home alone.

Bottom line, if you are wannabes or pretend swingers meet & greets are the way to go. If you are serious and really do want to play with people get to know a couple through chat etc and then meet them one on one.

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As you can guess there comes a point where one hates to view things relative to their age, but there aint a damn thing we can do about it except quit and that just is not going to happen. We pretty much limit our outreach to those over 50. Sometimes we get surprised but 50+ nonetheless. Clubs seem to be filled with younger couples and don't often allow extra males. Couple to Couple from the SLS site quite often turns out to be a miss, as many have experienced. House parties (not hotel) of 50-60 people, that allow a one to ten ratio of extra males is by far the easiest for us. However the house parties are hard to find. Though there is a huge amount of vetting, us to the single male has yielded some delightful results

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we have done both club meet and greet and house parties they are both good its just depends if you score the only drawback on clubs they start partying late after midnite where house parties by eight its on

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We have the same problem but with a twist. If we have a free weekend we are almost always in a strange city due to work. Like you, we have found that meeting with individual couples can be very hit or miss. We have had much better luck with parties (not so much m&g's). We sign up as soon as we know we are free that weekend. We also put up a hot date listing saying we're going to be at the party and open our private pics to anyone on the list we think we might be interested in. Even if we don't end up playing, we always have a great time dancing and meeting other fun couples.

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Like many here, we have extremely busy schedules, so we usually only have one day per week (if that) that we can meet new people in the lifestyle. Just wondering what others' preference is - do you like to find another couple and set up a two-on-two meeting with them somewhere (restaurant, bar, whatever), or do you prefer going to a club/party/meet n' greet and just introducing yourselves?

We have had issues with both. If the couple to couple meeting doesn't have any chemistry (we've had a LOT of these...more recently, which is odd since we feel like we're more comfortable about meeting "newbies" now), we feel like we've wasted our time. On the other hand, we think it's MUCH harder to meet new people at clubs/parties/meet n' greets, as they tend to be very "cliquey" and we wind up spending time with people we already know.

There's no "right" answer here, of course...just wondering what others' experience has been and any advice you might offer.

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