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TOPIC: Meeting Preference: Couple To Couple or at a Club-Meet N Greet-Party
Created by: PittCouple412
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Like many here, we have extremely busy schedules, so we usually only have one day per week (if that) that we can meet new people in the lifestyle. Just wondering what others' preference is - do you like to find another couple and set up a two-on-two meeting with them somewhere (restaurant, bar, whatever), or do you prefer going to a club/party/meet n' greet and just introducing yourselves?

We have had issues with both. If the couple to couple meeting doesn't have any chemistry (we've had a LOT of these...more recently, which is odd since we feel like we're more comfortable about meeting "newbies" now), we feel like we've wasted our time. On the other hand, we think it's MUCH harder to meet new people at clubs/parties/meet n' greets, as they tend to be very "cliquey" and we wind up spending time with people we already know.

There's no "right" answer here, of course...just wondering what others' experience has been and any advice you might offer.

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Hehe, we noticed if you replaced "couple" with "guy" or "girl" to all these comments, the discussion would be identical to that of normal dating. Go in expecting good conversation and consider anything more a bonus. Dating is like capitalism, not socialism, you're not guaranteed a piece just for attending.

We do think it's harder obviously, and the effort can be a barrier, especially when we have so much fun ourselves. As sort-of-newbies, she likes parties because there is less perceived pressure (pressure being that she likes to make people happy and wants to excel at everything).

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Our first choice is to meet couple to couple over a drink and/or bite to eat. It's easier to talk without the noise & distractions of a M&G, club. We never feel it's a waste of time if we happen not to click all around since we don't usually play on the first meeting. We've met couples at M&G's & clubs too, but most were pre-arranged through an e-mail exchange through SLS. Some people swear against meeting through SLS via e-mail but we've had pretty good success. We have a good method of screening out fakes & wannabees.

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We've been on SLS and tried a couple of other sites for 6 years now. in the beginning we could and did meet some couples (couple to couple) via these web sites and at the occasional meet & greet. It now seems, 6 years later that the ONLY way to meet another swinging couple is to pay large amounts of money on parties, meet & greets, etc. in order to meet other couples simply because no one meets via the web site for couple to couple. We don't mind the occasional meet & greet, party, etc. but what happen to the alternative?

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"However, usually after attending a m/g party, we get a liot of messages here from people who met us at the party. Then we can set up a dinner date or meet for a few drinks. We've already met them, and now can check out their profile, so usually we have a idea of how they are before sitting down with them for more isolated conversation.

Same here. You already know if there is a physical attraction so no unpleasant surprises from less-than-representative photos. You just have to read the profile to see if they may be 'play' compatible.

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We don't really have a choice where we live. There are no clubs and very, very few M&G's. So far, there have only been 2 M&G since we started in the LS and they were very poorly attended. Total bummer.

So, we are left with only one-on-one meetings with couples. Not ideal, but it's what we have to work with. Most of the time, the meetings are a bust and hubby and I end up going out afterwards. LOL

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We like both, and find that one really helps out with the other.

At the m/g parties, we meet alot more people, but we end up having a difficult time disengaging ourselves from full swap couples in order to spend more time with bifem couples. So, we usually just end up on the dance floor more.

However, usually after attending a m/g party, we get a liot of messages here from people who met us at the party. Then we can set up a dinner date or meet for a few drinks. We've already met them, and now can check out their profile, so usually we have a idea of how they are before sitting down with them for more isolated conversation.

Anyways, it seems to be working for us.

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we prefer couple to couple. if we meet and we don't click for whatever reason it's not a waste to us because we already know you cant click with everyone and we are not just looking to jump in the bed.

Key West FL
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We find that the meet and greets are an excellent way to meet people. It's fairly easy to weed out the pretenders, and you have the opportunity to meet many couples in the same setting. It's difficult to land a 2-on-2 date, even more difficult to land one where everyone cliques. Even if you go to a club and don't play, you can exchange SLS usernames and have a better chance of private follow-up dates. We have never attended a club and not found people to play with that night.

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We are somewhat of a "newbie couple" as we did some swapping a while ago, but family priorities took over and now we are back and loving our new freedom with each other. We decided to join the SLS site to try and connect with the right people to enjoy together, but we too have found issues with actually making the connections. We are open to M&G or house parties, but would really like to connect with others one on one, to hopefully make new friends if the chemistry is not sexually right, or to have things go sensual if the chemistry is right. We are very open minded and flexible but we just need to find that right avenue. If anyone is local to us, we are looking to connect with clean, fun, couples who are interested in a friendship with sexual pleasure sharing.

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We've been in the lifestyle about a year now and have used both methods for meeting new couples. You have to remember that a few couples are against meeting at a meet and greet for privacy reasons; others aren't crazy about the "cliqueness" of some of those get-togethers. We don't really have enough experience yet to be considered a part of any clique, anyway, and most of our meetings have been one-on-one after a few emails and phone conversations.

We don't go to M&Gs expecting to find another couple and play the same evening, but if it should happen and the chemistry is there, that's fine. We generally shoot for meeting couples and perhaps arranging another meeting, again if all seem to be on the same page. Bottom line is that there probably isn't any difference in the way people meet; it's up to the couples involved.

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