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TOPIC: Meeting Preference: Couple To Couple or at a Club-Meet N Greet-Party

Created by: PittCouple412 Original Starting post for this thread:
Like many here, we have extremely busy schedules, so we usually only have one day per week (if that) that we can meet new people in the lifestyle. Just wondering what others' preference is - do you like to find another couple and set up a two-on-two meeting with them somewhere (restaurant, bar, whatever), or do you prefer going to a club/party/meet n' greet and just introducing yourselves? We have had issues with both. If the couple to couple meeting doesn't have any chemistry (we've had a LOT of these...more recently, which is odd since we feel like we're more comfortable about meeting "newbies" now), we feel like we've wasted our time. On the other hand, we think it's MUCH harder to meet new people at clubs/parties/meet n' greets, as they tend to be very "cliquey" and we wind up spending time with people we already know. There's no "right" answer here, of course...just wondering what others' experience has been and any advice you might offer.

Created by: PittCouple412
Original Starting post for this thread:

Like many here, we have extremely busy schedules, so we usually only have one day per week (if that) that we can meet new people in the lifestyle.  Just wondering what others' preference is - do you like to find another couple and set up a two-on-two meeting with them somewhere (restaurant, bar, whatever), or do you prefer going to a club/party/meet n' greet and just introducing yourselves?

We have had issues with both.  If the couple to couple meeting doesn't have any chemistry (we've had a LOT of these...more recently, which is odd since we feel like we're more comfortable about meeting "newbies" now), we feel like we've wasted our time.  On the other hand, we think it's MUCH harder to meet new people at clubs/parties/meet n' greets, as they tend to be very "cliquey" and we wind up spending time with people we already know.

There's no "right" answer here, of course...just wondering what others' experience has been and any advice you might offer.

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User Details are only visible to members.	"However, usually after attending a m/g party, we get a liot of messages here from people who met us at the party. Then we can set up a dinner date or meet for a few drinks. We've already met them, and now can check out their profile, so usually we have a idea of how they are before sitting down with them for more isolated conversation. Same here. You already know if there is a physical attraction so no unpleasant surprises from less-than-representative photos. You just have to read the profile to see if they may be 'play' compatible.
Hampton VA			Username hidden (52 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Well I personally like a place where we can talk so no clubs or crowded spots. We have been to hotel lounges which are nice, quiet and intimate. Funny thing is the bar tenders can spot swingers a mile away. I hate eating I front of people I just met so I prefer not to do a restaraunt. A strip club? hell yeah!!! Swingers club, most def! Meet N Greets are cool also. We like to keep it simple when we meet. No movies, no dining. Let's have a conversation over drinks or a beer.
Fairburn GA			Username hidden (54 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We don't really have a choice where we live. There are no clubs and very, very few M&G's. So far, there have only been 2 M&G since we started in the LS and they were very poorly attended. Total bummer. So, we are left with only one-on-one meetings with couples. Not ideal, but it's what we have to work with. Most of the time, the meetings are a bust and hubby and I end up going out afterwards. LOL
Wailuku HI			Username hidden (440 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We like both, and find that one really helps out with the other. At the m/g parties, we meet alot more people, but we end up having a difficult time disengaging ourselves from full swap couples in order to spend more time with bifem couples. So, we usually just end up on the dance floor more. However, usually after attending a m/g party, we get a liot of messages here from people who met us at the party. Then we can set up a dinner date or meet for a few drinks. We've already met them, and now can check out their profile, so usually we have a idea of how they are before sitting down with them for more isolated conversation. Anyways, it seems to be working for us.
Chesterfield VA			Username hidden (43 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	we prefer couple to couple. if we meet and we don't click for whatever reason it's not a waste to us because we already know you cant click with everyone and we are not just looking to jump in the bed.
Bronx NY			Username hidden (89 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We find that the meet and greets are an excellent way to meet people. It's fairly easy to weed out the pretenders, and you have the opportunity to meet many couples in the same setting. It's difficult to land a 2-on-2 date, even more difficult to land one where everyone cliques. Even if you go to a club and don't play, you can exchange SLS usernames and have a better chance of private follow-up dates. We have never attended a club and not found people to play with that night.
Baton Rouge LA			Username hidden (4 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We are somewhat of a "newbie couple" as we did some swapping a while ago, but family priorities took over and now we are back and loving our new freedom with each other. We decided to join the SLS site to try and connect with the right people to enjoy together, but we too have found issues with actually making the connections. We are open to M&G or house parties, but would really like to connect with others one on one, to hopefully make new friends if the chemistry is not sexually right, or to have things go sensual if the chemistry is right. We are very open minded and flexible but we just need to find that right avenue. If anyone is local to us, we are looking to connect with clean, fun, couples who are interested in a friendship with sexual pleasure sharing.
Linglestown PA			Username hidden (2 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We've been in the lifestyle about a year now and have used both methods for meeting new couples. You have to remember that a few couples are against meeting at a meet and greet for privacy reasons; others aren't crazy about the "cliqueness" of some of those get-togethers. We don't really have enough experience yet to be considered a part of any clique, anyway, and most of our meetings have been one-on-one after a few emails and phone conversations. We don't go to M&Gs expecting to find another couple and play the same evening, but if it should happen and the chemistry is there, that's fine. We generally shoot for meeting couples and perhaps arranging another meeting, again if all seem to be on the same page. Bottom line is that there probably isn't any difference in the way people meet; it's up to the couples involved.
Tempe AZ			Username hidden (83 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I have been meeting at events and clubs only for years. I have a great large group of like minded and happy friends. The one on one meetings got tiresome and boring, at a club when the attraction isnt there you have not wasted getting dressed, putting your best foot foreward.
Spring TX			Username hidden (1844 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Most meet & greets are a waste of time with the cliques you find there and the people who are always looking to trade up to a hotter couple while they are talking with another couple. Also, meet & greets are full of pseudo-swingers who never actually play with anyone. We always like to meet couples one on one and if a couple looks like their pics when we meet them and has the same personality we saw when we chatted (as we do) then we are willing to 'invest' the time in them when we meet them to see if we click enough to play. In addition, we try to 'pre-qualify' couples to see who is really full swap before we agree to meet them and doing that at a meet & greet usually takes a lot of time and usually results in our going home alone. Bottom line, if you are wannabes or pretend swingers meet & greets are the way to go. If you are serious and really do want to play with people get to know a couple through chat etc and then meet them one on one.
Stamford CT			Username hidden (39 post)

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