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Think we're pretty much on the same page. We don't have face pics on our public profile but people can see what our body types are. We keep our face pics in private pics that we open if we're reaching out or folks open theirs for us when they reach out.

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I understand the frustration of the "four emails" stuff, vabeach. Honest. Been there, done that. But if, say, we were to email you with interest, saying "our face pics are open to you", would that be enough? That's my point. Maybe we're discussing two different subjects. I don't have a problem with full body shots of myself (including Mr. Happy;) but the subject hasn't come up. For us, at this point anyway.

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I'm not talking about faces or dicks. I'm talking about being able to have SOME kind of idea of what the guy looks like.

If haven't the slightest idea of what the guy looks like from his pics, I'm giving a "no thanks" if they email us, and I'm not contacting them if I see them. I'm tired of the bullshit of 4 emails, finally we get a pic - and he's a dud. I shouldn't have to put in that much work. And then they think we're jerks, when really if they had SOME kind of honest pics up front we wouldn't have had to go through this.

Look - you can tell by this pic that I'm not fat, I'm not short, I'm white, I don't have a 3 foot long beard.... etc. That should be enough for people to guess as to whether or not I might work for them. Is that too much to ask?

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The reason a lot of couples (including us) don't post face pics on public profiles, if that's what we're talking about, should be obvious, but I get the drift about not posting pics of the male half.

I (male half) am the "screener" here as well, and see that most of the profiles of the folks who contact us only have pics of the woman. If interested, I open our face pics and ask them to do the same so that we can both check them out. We certainly don't expect their faces on the public profile. A lot of people here have family and career considerations, as do we. And a lot of them are in small towns or have other privacy considerations.

If we're talking about guys' cocks, and the female half of the other party wants to see that, we can of course provide those pics. So far, that hasn't happened. Our profile is accurate and there's no BS about our "dimensions", so we just rely on the other couple to trust us. Naive, maybe, but that's how we do it.

A well-written profile, a sincere email, and halfway attractive pics are enough to pique our interest. Quibbling about "his" and "her" pics generally doesn't enter the picture.

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Hear ya on that VAbeach. Don't understand why more couples don't post at least a few pics of the male half in their public profile so you can get an idea if they may be worth reaching out to.

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I'd just like to bellyache for the zillionth time about this. I (the M half) do nearly all of the "shopping" on here. And while I am completely straight, I NEED to see the male half to at least make some kind of guess as to whether or not these people might be for us. I'm not making contact with people when all I see is some hottie - with what, exactly, in tow? I have a wife I love and I have no interest in sticking her with toads so I can bang their hot wife.

Arrgh!

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With us, Diane has the final say if we meet and/or play with another couple & if she's not feeling it for the male half, then it's a no go. More than once I've been ok with the female half of a couple but Diane wasn't into the male half. Can be frustrating but we agreed long ago that neither of us would take one for the team. We've been on the receiving end as well once in a while where one half of the other couple may not have been feeling it for one of us. It happens sometimes.

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We would never say no to an attractive couple, but we WOULD say no to someone who thinks just because they're in good shape we'd want to be with them. Some of the best people we've met in the lifestyle are the ones who don't "flaunt" their looks, and some of the most obnoxious have been the ones that most here would consider 9s and 10s.

Of course, this type of behavior isn't exclusive to swinging - happens if you're single as well.


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Mrs. Like2 will not take one for the team, nor would I want her to...the males appearnce is important to us....Like Trooper said, it can make it tougher but we are not hear for quantity...

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its a major factor for us. I don't care how good looking the woman of the couple is, I won't be playing with her, I will however be playing with the man so he better be HWP and good looking. So finding couples to swap with is hard because so many times we find one or the other not suitable.

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