I like both sweetjzabelle's comment and Deseos' response (yes, I know that both posts are from 2 years ago). I prefer that certain aspects of my life remain segregated and would mostly want "swinging" separate from "not swinging." That is not to say that there is never a "Wow, s/he's hot!" moment outside of the active "swinging" searches; that happens quite often! :) But I don't want to be doing volunteer work and have someone come hit on me, or ask my waitress when she gets off work, or have one of my neighbors say, "You know, we've been eyeing you two since you moved here." Sometimes I just want to shut off. Finding potential playmates may not be the easiest thing in the world, but clubs and sites certainly give us plenty of options, without having to figure out how to approach that cute couple at my local park.

If that were you two in the bar I would have told my date I had a headache and taken her home...after slipping you a note telling you I'd be right back!

lol

So your date may not have appreciated it if you had taken the approach I mentioned. Hey, win some lose some. LOL

I took a (vanilla) date for a nightcap one evening and there was a couple sitting at the bar. The guy smiled and the woman (who was dressed very sexy) looked straight at me and smiled. I smiled and nodded and she continued to hold eye contact. I noticed the guy was looking at my date but she was oblivious to the attention. There were some raised eyebrows and a slight nod in my date's direction and the woman continued to look straight at me and even turned in her stool to face us. I can't say for sure they were swingers but the body language seemed to indicate they might be trying to pick us up. lol Since my date isn't into that, I just smiled again and gave a little shake of my head then turned my attention to my date. They left after a few minutes and waved on their way out the door.

i'm thinking it's not boring after you two arrive. kate also has a shirt that says, "it isn't cheating if my husband joins us" which seems to get a little attention, especially at daytona bike week. LOL

Why has nobody ever asked us that question? Suppose we're going to boring bars.

"excuse me sir. would you mind if I lick your lady?"

if he doesn't start chasing you around the bar with a broken beer bottle, either they are swingers or you are seriously fucking hot.

LOL

I liked the handshake bit. Kind of like my girl's philosophy... grab their boobs and the swingers always grab back.

most people don't want other people to know they are swingers.it makes you a target of straight people. it can be really bad with all kinds of weird people walking around. at lest in the club or house party everybody know why they are there.........just my thought,,,bubububye

If the people are talking and excited, don't you think they are interested? I just try to get to the point without saying to much to people who are just "curious." To them I say "stay curious." really when we first started in the lifestyle I met a woman at a party who was so excited her nipples were hard. She rubbed her thigh repeatedly. Asked lots of pointed questions a bout both of us. Heard a lot of answers and then said no she would never do a threesome, or foursome. I have had to set my limits and move on.