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Created by: FlirtAway Original Starting post for this thread:
When we got into this, we were only looking for single females. That is ridiculously hard so I figured it would be easy when we decided to meet couples. The problem is, we aren't super picky but we do have some standards and each our own attractions. I keep seeing profiles where there will be a great looking woman in her mid 30;s with a man in his mid 40's that looks like he is in his 50's. Or a decent looking male with a not so good looking female or some similar mismatch. It is SO hard to find a couple that both persons are similar age are similar in looks. We aren't THAT superficial that looks are all that matter, but we have to be attracted. I don't want either of us to take one for the team, but it almost seems like one of us has to jump on the grenade to let the other have fun And we aren't into the club scene or house party scene, random partner thing. anyone else have this issue?

Created by: FlirtAway
Original Starting post for this thread:

When we got into this, we were only looking for single females. That is ridiculously hard so  I figured it would be easy when we decided to meet couples. The problem is, we aren't super picky but we do have some standards and each our own attractions. 

I keep seeing profiles where there will be a great looking woman in her mid 30;s with a man in his mid 40's that looks like he is in his 50's. Or a decent looking male with a not so good looking female or some similar mismatch. It is SO hard to find a couple that both persons are similar age are similar in looks. We aren't THAT superficial that looks are all that matter, but we have to be attracted.

I don't want either of us to take one for the team, but it almost seems like one of us has to jump on the grenade to let the other have fun And we aren't into the club scene or house party scene, random partner thing.

anyone else have this issue?

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User Details are only visible to members.	Okay, yeah, I get what you're saying now. And you make a great point about single guys, I have heard endless complaints that swinging is much tougher for couples than single guys on this one point alone. There is a lower demand for single sausage; however, there is enough demand to keep me in the game and it doesn't take 4 people to all be attacted to everyone, just 2. So it is a lot easier in that regard. The couples situation is compounded by the tendency of guys who couple with females on looks and women who couple with guys because of income. Naturally, you get fugly dudes with good-looking females (and to some degree, the other way around). It's not always easy for single guys for sure, tougher in some ways. But I would think it's easier than getting 4 people to click. That's a little rough. Taking a 0, 1, or 2 in those tight spaces would entail having to be super horny that night I guess,lol. I'd probably do a 3 depending on the overall vibe just because I'm a horny pig 24/7, but I'm not doing some 300 pound chick. But then I would know that before we all met anyway, I mean that's the point of the profiles.
Saint Clair Shores MI			Username hidden (228 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Spanky, I definitly get what you are saying. We really aren't even that picky, but what I am talking about is the couples where it's a 2 and an 8 together. I'm saying we would take a pair of 5's home but I sort of use a similar scale, but the total of both needs to be closer to 12 or 13 at least, lol. Think two number 4 twins equals an 8 plus the bonus for getting two girls at once, easily makes it a 10! Your a single male. Unless you are into dudes, you only need to worry about one person. As a couple it's twice as difficult. I would never expect her to be with some dude who looks dirty and scuzzy and 10 years older than his stated age just so I can bang his hot wife, but being single that's not an issue for you. My whole point was the amount of couples out there that are this varied. 1's with 10's, 3's with 8's. I would have thought the numbers would be closer.
Grand Blanc MI			Username hidden (143 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Okay-here is my thing: When I'm scouting for a hook-up, I immediately bypass the "must be super hot/must be super hung/must be...etc, etc." I'm pretty nice-looking and have a very nice cock and all, but I can already tell from the tone of their profile they're not going to be happy no matter how hot I am and that they/she probably spends a lot of time sitting on the sides and wasting a lot of peoples' time waiting around for absolute perfection. Of course I want perfection too. But first and foremost, I want to fuck. When I read profiles, if she's under 200, looks decent from her pictures and writes and communicates like she's got something between her ears, that's basically going to work for me. When a profile has disclaimers such as "don't expect sex, if the chemistry is there it might happen..." or an arrant warning of "wife is super picky..." or similar effect, I'm already being put on notice that there's a pretty good chance we're not going to be fucking even if I'm perfect looking so I'm not going to bother. I've got friends that never get laid because they'll only fuck 8s, 9s or 10s. And there are people like that here but I'm not going to waste my time (and the time of others) by passing off a 5 (or even a 4) because she's not as hot as I think she should be. I've got standards and have already weeded out the 0, 1, 2s by screening the weight and getting a facial picture so I know it's going to work before we meet. So I guess my advice to you would be it's okay to have standards but if you agree to meet a couple/individual, you already have an idea of what they're like based on that profile. As far as "taking one for the team", you might want to consider doing just that. After all, if you agreed to meet them, they could not have been so awful to begin with. Last minute pickiness is frustrating to everyone and you'd be surprised, some of my uglier fucks have been some of my best.
Saint Clair Shores MI			Username hidden (228 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	KD, don't forget to look us up when you're back up in PA. Afterall, we're fairly close to you. Dave
Quakertown PA			Username hidden (1831 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"Typically it is only one member of the couple who is disinterested but their partner is all in and ready.......so they go along, convincing others they're really into it when in fact the fantasy drives them but the concept is greater than the desire." ----- ...yea, i don't know if i can know this yet. it's only been about 4 months, and even tho it is my hubby who is the partner 'all in and ready' since day one, it was my idea to pursue the lifestyle. but with very limited time to get out, and living in two different states through out the year, 'timing' has been an awful problem to meet up with people that we are in contact with online and still in the same state they are in! we've only been to 1 club and 1 meet and greet, and met up with 2 females, and only once we did we have the opportunity to play but him and i both were not interested. so even tho it's going slowly i think i need to give it some more time before i assume or decide the concept is greater than the desire. ....plus he tends to meet real wackadoo's online and i'm just not doin a wackadoo! ...lol ...and i do get the whole 1st time expectation thing, i just don't want it be with anyone because we were impatient, or i just did it for him or any other wrong reason... i gotta feel something. we'll see...
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"omg...my poor husband was singing songs tonite about how 'we are swingers but we'll never swing'... lmao! " Kind , Understandably the 1st time is a big deal and you need to find people you are comfortable with but I caution you that the higher the fantasy/expectation you have the more likely it is to fall short. I'd liken the whole experience to 1st time sex when you were a complete virgin......exciting and new but filled with perils and sometimes disappointment. I also would question yourself if you are truly wanting to find the perfect couple or if perhaps you just aren't ready and thus subconsciously find no one lives up to your expectations. Not a criticism at all just some food for thought. In our years of experiences we've found "swingers" who NEVER seem to swing who claim they never find anyone they're attracted to but as you get to know them you come to realize that they want to be seen as swingers, hang with swingers, fantasize about swinging but really truly have no desire to actually have sex. Typically it is only one member of the couple who is disinterested but their partner is all in and ready.......so they go along, convincing others they're really into it when in fact the fantasy drives them but the concept is greater than the desire. Not a thing wrong with that, to each their own and all and they're is a place for anyone who wants to be part of the swinging community . I am not saying this is YOUR issue but perhaps something to thing about for anyone in your place, just starting out but still haven't gotten their feet wet so to speak. Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4078 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	see... i learned from many of you! :) ...thank you! ....plus i spend more time in the forums than out swinging! lol. i actually feel very experienced already! omg...my poor husband was singing songs tonite about how 'we are swingers but we'll never swing'... lmao! i'd rather wait longer for a possible more rewarding 1st playdate then to carelessly chance it to be one of the many unfortunate playdates people have. hubby's worried we won't live long enough tho... lmao... oh poor baby... :(
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	KD, I agree with you as well! I think people tend to think the sex will always be great and I really don't think that is the case. While it is new and exciting, as i seen someone post the other day, the grass isn't greener on the other side. Like you said "within reason", says it perfectly. Some people seem SO picky, that it makes me wonder if they ever even play with anyone. Others are all about the sex and that's it, but at the same time they are die hard "won't take one for the team". I have met very few women that I couldn't find something attractive about them. I have had bigger girls that were just amazing people, smoking hot skinny girls who sucked, a butter face girl who blew my mind, quiet girls that were freaks, girls I thought I had nothing in common with that I ended up having amazing sex with. Ya just never know and that is half the fun of it.
Grand Blanc MI			Username hidden (143 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	KD, you are fairly new to all this, but i have to tell you that you seem to have a better understanding of what really makes sense in this lifestyle, than some who've been in it for many years. i think you guys will enjoy yourselves.
Port Canaveral FL			Username hidden (3472 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	yea i think it's very hard to for a couple to be equally attracted to another couple and visa versa... hopefully their personalities can pick up the slack so to speak... lol we are also seeking alot girl on girl play, and my husband and i are attracted to VERY different women. there has been alot of threads about 'taking one for the team', and i would imagine one of us will -not 'take one for the team', but instead, pretty sure ...we may have to take turns on who's going to get exactly what they're seeking tonite! ...we don't mind doing that (within reason of our comfortability of course) ...we both want to see each other very happy! :)
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

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