Hey guys the husband wrote our prob and I'm just getting to read it! Thanks for the advice! I will work on that tonight! We've had such bad luck with people we know! One was a friend of his fathers who told his step mom.... One was a doctor that my sister worked for who actually showed her our profile....then a teacher I had in High School! Completely akward! Then we have people we don't wanna be rude with who are constantly so wanna have Sex Sex Sex Sex thats the conversation! I really wasn't trying to be rude but just put it out there!

H & W, It is totally understandable that you are not interested in simply talking about sex right off the bat. However, sex is the main reason most people are here so you might want to consider re-writing your first paragraph in a more friendly manner. You can get the same message across without coming across as angry. Perhaps you could try using a little humor to get your point across. The part of your profile that would make me personally not contact you is the picture issue. We all have jobs, families, etc.. I think it's safe to say none of us would advertise to the world we were on a swinger site. For you to expect others to provide you with face pics and to chat with you before letting them see you is not fair. Personally, If I email someone or initiate chat, I open my pics first and expect the same. You can also put some public pics up that will not allow others to identify you. I'm sorry you have had some bad experiences but I think if you continue to be so rigid you will not find many people willing to get to know you. Good luck to you and I hope your experience here gets more positive :) M

Fun is spot on in his constructive critique of your profile. It doesn't make me want to exactly run screaming in the other direction, but it's close.

It screams out fear, anger, and selfishness (YOU take all the risks because we were burned once.). If you discover someone you know, I am sure that they have just as much concern of being outed as you; which cracks me up, btw. Outing you would automatically out them.

Definitely post some public pics and rework the tone of your profile.

great advice Fun...

i do think if you want to elaborate on ...why you dont share pics first, maybe you can put it in the last paragraph to explain it a little...

Good Luck and Welcome to the Forums

H&W, welcome to the forums. Hope you look around and make yourself at home. About your profile, please take this as constructive advice. You really need to start over from scratch. The entire first section is supposed to describe what you're looking for. It doesn't. It's very negative. I can't imagine much of anyone looking beyond the first 2-3 sentences. Your self-description also doesn't describe you very well. Certainly not in a real positive light. As for photos, I understand your concern. But it wouldn't hurt to put a few body pics in your public pic gallery. Cut off or blur your faces if you want. A profile with no public pics at all isn't likely to get much interest. If you re-write it, re-post here and it can be looked at again. Good luck.

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