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Created by: newbeginnings76 Original Starting post for this thread:
I've read plenty of discouraging information about how hard it can be to find a "real" couple on SLS. All we get are pic hunters that quit writing when they find out we only have PG face pics and photos (done intentionally) We get folks who are nothing like what we are looking for. (didn't read the bio) And silence from the folks we like and decide to write to. ARGH!!!!! I'm beginning to wonder if we aren't also shooting ourselves in the foot with our profile. We want our bio to be exciting and interesting without being misleading. We want to start with soft swing, but if it goes well, full swap is a real possibility when we get past the first few encounters. Check out our profile and tell us what we could do better. Thanks!

Created by: newbeginnings76
Original Starting post for this thread:

I've read plenty of discouraging information about how hard it can be to find a "real" couple on SLS. All we get are pic hunters that quit writing when they find out we only have PG face pics and photos (done intentionally) We get folks who are nothing like what we are looking for. (didn't read the bio) And silence from the folks we like and decide to write to.  ARGH!!!!! I'm beginning to wonder if we aren't also shooting ourselves in the foot with our profile. We want our bio to be exciting and interesting without being misleading. 

We want to start with soft swing, but if it goes well, full swap is a real possibility when we get past the first few encounters. 

Check out our profile and tell us what we could do better. Thanks!

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User Details are only visible to members.	Post public pictures that look like your both not holding the house up ;)
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (2092 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Wow! I think your profile, newbeginnings, is one of the best I've ever read. Your fun personality comes out very clearly, along with your wishes and interests. I also like the fact that you have pictures of each of you in your public gallery. One suggestion: if you don't want a lot of single men contacting you, there are ways to block them electronically. To make sure it registers, set the preference in your profile and in the Tools section. If you change your mind and decide you want to contact single men, you still can. By emailing them, they will be able to see your profile, but not until that time. Otherwise, have lots of fun!
Sheboygan Falls WI			Username hidden (7066 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Much better!!! Haha, now, after writing all this about the positive tone in a profile, I went and reworded a few sentences in mine :)
Panama City Beach FL			Username hidden (1975 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Thank you so much!!! We didn't read it that way. Having new eyes on it is a big help. Ok folks, first round of rough revisions are made. Anyone else want to take a crack at it we would appreciate it greatly. Going to bed now. More changes tomorrow...
Chicago Heights IL			Username hidden (12 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	newbeginnings76, welcome to the forums! Your profile is a nice read, mostly positive. However, the "too intimate" remarks immediately screamed "insecurity issues", maybe even jealousy, either of which tells me you are not all that ready for lifestyle, and I would think at least twice before engaging in something that MIGHT end badly. On the other hand, how are you going to know, if you don't try, right? The experience is invaluable, and needs to be discussed and cleared between the two of you in private, NOT in your profile. And this sentence, "Sex between us was ELECTRIC (with or without the 3rd) I appreciated her more. She loved the extra attention from me.", sounds like you were in some kind of a bedroom rut and want to swing to keep things interesting? Sure, swinging is a hell of a fun way to keep things interesting, however the sex between you two is the main fun outlet. Again, maybe you don't mean it this way, just the wording sounds off to me, and I would remove this remark, as well as any "too intimate" things. You mention that "The first meeting or two won't end in naked happy fun time." That also is a big factor in not having much luck. While not playing on the first date is fairly common, not playing on the second date would be a no-go for me. Again, just my opinion, but most people know on the first date, whether or not they will want to progress into the bedroom. Again, that remark might sound to some, as you are not quite sure of yourselves, your preferences and limits (and you do mention that at one point things got a little out of hand...), and that might be the indication of possible trouble, that most people do not want to deal with. I liked the part about having only G rated pictures, lol. Actually, that could be the reason for the disappearing people. However, no one has to have explicit pictures. If you see someone break off the contact, after they realize that you really do not have sex pictures... You are better off not meeting them anyway. I, myself, have quite a few explicit pictures, but do not ask for any from others. I want body and face pictures, but G rated, clothed, whatever, are fine with me. After all, if I like what I see, I will get the explicit part in person, and that is way better than any picture :) This is what I want to see in a profile: unique personality, happiness and positive tone throughout (which actually sometimes takes using words such as "however" instead of "but", and trying to avoid the dreaded "no" and "do not", "will not", "cannot" and such... Of course, sometimes the sentence will need to be composed with those, and that is fine, HOWEVER I like to feel a good vibe, while reading... Haha, my customer service training is coming out now, lol). Hope that helps a little, wish you lots of good advice from others :) Good luck and have fun!
Panama City Beach FL			Username hidden (1975 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I've read plenty of discouraging information about how hard it can be to find a "real" couple on SLS. All we get are pic hunters that quit writing when they find out we only have PG face pics and photos (done intentionally) We get folks who are nothing like what we are looking for. (didn't read the bio) And silence from the folks we like and decide to write to. ARGH!!!!! I'm beginning to wonder if we aren't also shooting ourselves in the foot with our profile. We want our bio to be exciting and interesting without being misleading. We want to start with soft swing, but if it goes well, full swap is a real possibility when we get past the first few encounters. Check out our profile and tell us what we could do better. Thanks!
Chicago Heights IL			Username hidden (12 post)

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