As the female half involved, I get frustrated that there are usually multiple sexy photos of the woman and very limited (if any photos at all) of the man! We are a swinging couple, therefore I need to see body shots of the men (not entirely in cloths) in the profile photos too so I can get an idea if he is my type physically. It's not all about enticing the men, and we shouldn't have to ask to open private photos just to see a couple photos of the male (this is just my opinion). I like to save my private photos for face shots or more revealing shots. I am more particular about physical attraction then my honey, so he lets me make all our contacts with other members LOL! Therefore, I don't make contact with any couples who don't have multiple photos of the male in their profile regardless of how attractive she may be. I am sure we are missing out on meeting many wonderful couples! I do mention my request in our profile, but I still get invitations from couples without male photos in their profile for me to view :( Maybe we can lead by example, and make sure we have given equal photo time to our male half in an attempt to discourage "women only photos" in the future!

Sweet: I've wondered how true that is. So after viewing the profiles of people who have given certs, it certainly seems that there is a pattern: young attractive couples have lots of certs from similar young attractive couples, and older average-looking couples have certs from...older average looking couples. I am sure there are lots of exceptions, but what you describe seems to be the trend.

It might sound funny, but even I (the male half) want to see pic's of the male half of a couple before we consider meeting. I want to see how I stack up. If he looks like he just step off the stage at a body building contest or could pose for the cover of GQ, I'm not going to waste my time trying to turn his wife on. birds of a feather really do flock together...

I meant to also say those pics can be fully clothed, G-rated, but we have to see their faces. It makes it much easier to locate them in restaurants for the initial meeting.

SportnBerr, I agree. In fact, we routinely don't arrange to meet with people unless they have shown us pictures of both of them. One "couple" who wrote only provided pictures of her even after we asked for some of him. We immediately removed their access to our galleries because we didn't trust they were the people they pretended to be, and never regretted it.

Because of my husband's job we don't have his photo in our profile, but do have it in the private galleries to show people we anticipate meeting. No doubt we've been immediately rejected by some potential playmates because of this, but we also are enjoying great sex with others who understand and were willing to wait for the gallery to be opened to them.

@nyc -- (m) (m) Ha! I notice the same, even from couples with whom we're already partners, that the guy in his pictures almost always has this 'tough guy' look. Not all of them, of course, but sometimes it's more like what Dave Barry, the humor columnist says about GQ models, that the guys in the ads have a pout on them that makes it look like they're experiencing the worst intestinal distress of their young lives. Smile! If you're not smiling at the thought of humping my wife AND seeing yours pleasured, you shouldn't be here! -- if you're not smiling because you don't have any teeth left, well...that's a different issue!

It amazes us that most profiles do not include a picture of the "male half." ALSO, the men have frowns on their faces, strike a pose that would turn off Ugly Betty, and don't smile. WHY? Is it only about attractive women. How 'bout a guy taking a GQ photo for once. Looking great is not only for the ladies...hey guys, get with it!

Welcome to the Forums 2niceppl,

Definitely sounds like a strategy of some sorts. I think that is why people sometimes like to meet at a club, because if the attraction isn't there, if the people do not show up, and a plethora of other reasons... your nice isn't a total loss. I hope you both had a good time without them!

Mr. OA!

We were recently stood up by a couple that wanted to meet us. They sent pics of body and back, but not face and we said we'd meet at a swing club party/M&G.

Well, we certainly showed up, but we sat there trying to guess who was our "blind date" lol.

I think they did it on purpose- to be able to check us out, and if they didn't like what they saw, then they could ignore us safely.

I wasn't too bent out of shape about it- we went for the party, and not to meet them. But from now on, if we don't see full face and body pictures (isn't that what the *private* galleries are for?!?!) of both the man and woman it's a definite no-go.