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TOPIC: Too much emphasis on certs yes or no

Created by: DucatiRider Original Starting post for this thread:
OK.....just an observation (our opinion) regarding the over emphasis on being certified in some shape or form here...... We likely will never embrace it...... why? having others post about experiences we may or may not have shared, really doesn't matter nor does it truly validate who we are or not.......and we have been offered - it simply doesn't add credence for us or how we wish to roll overall.......we get enough of a vibe through dialogue with the other parties, if indeed they are for us or not......certainly we know how good we are and if we click with someone, we don't need to see or hear the reviews - we already know beforehand how good we are :) lol It also does not minimize the flake factor, or the willingness of people to meet each other.....certified people are just as flaky as the next group......we have not seen any difference...... I'm sure this position will upset those who live for certs - :) that's ok, it works for you and you believe in it....... We do not see having many certs as being an attribute for us or actually what we look for in our search - but it works more as a negative in most cases, but again that's our opinion..... :)

Created by: DucatiRider
Original Starting post for this thread:

OK.....just an observation (our opinion) regarding the over emphasis on being certified in some shape or form here......

We likely will never embrace it...... why?  having others post about experiences we may or may not have shared, really doesn't matter nor does it truly validate who we are or not.......and we have been offered - it simply doesn't add credence for us or how we wish to roll overall.......we get enough of a vibe through dialogue with the other parties, if indeed they are for us or not......certainly we know how good we are and if we click with someone, we don't need to see or hear the reviews - we already know beforehand how good we are :)   lol

It also does not minimize the flake factor, or the willingness of people to meet each other.....certified people are just as flaky as the next group......we have not seen any difference......

I'm sure this position will upset those who live for certs -  :)   that's ok, it works for you and you believe in it.......

We do not see having many certs as being an attribute for us or actually what we look for in our search - but it works more as a negative in most cases, but again that's our opinion..... :)

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User Details are only visible to members.	I have met ppl without any certs received or given.. they are somewhat misleading (lack thereof I mean).
Dardenne Prairie MO			Username hidden (2 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	And I would never attempt to tell you otherwise, I speak for myself and my experiences. Nothing more, nothing less.
Colts Neck NJ			Username hidden (12722 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Seduction, You make my very argument. Sex between Janie and I is intimate. Sex with the rest of the world is pure sport, fun, and sometimes funny. Your sex is not for the rest of the globe. We like sex on the pool table for everyone to see, and even to participate in to a limited extent. Enjoy the Difference
Pasadena CA			Username hidden (175 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	This discussion has become very legalistic in two very different and very narrow ways. It's almost painful to read. The more intense it has become the more freedom you forfeit. In the lifestyle we are a part of it is the difference between people that keeps our hearts pounding. There is ONLY ONE OPINION THAT COUNTS. Our opinion. We don't submit our opinion to anyone for approval or disapproval. Likewise our respect for your opinion is unchallengeable. We will never tamper with your opinion. apprécier la différence
Pasadena CA			Username hidden (175 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Certs for couples and single females represent, in my opinion, a notch on the bedpost. It's a journal entry into the couple's or single female's diary of promiscuity. They leave a trail a mile long and there's never the right number of them - too many and you're labeled a slut; too few and people question whether you're good in the sack. We got tired of being asked about our certs, we had plenty. People for some reason feel that, certs is a cookie trail to your shagadalic extra curriculum activities. It didn't matter that we didn't shag 99% of those who certed us. We were the sluts that fucked around indiscriminately, when nothing could be further from the truth. So we deleted them. Deleted all of the ones that we gave, and deleted the ones that we received. But we also deleted them, because with time we changed our outlook on the topic. And we find it genuinely distasteful, just as we do about braggers who pronounce in every other word that leaves their mouth that they boinked, licked and/or sucked 3 times a day. Sex for us is intimate, it's an activity reserved for those who are involved, and not the rest of the globe. So we don't really focus on certs (come to think of it, never did). And we don't need to justify ourselves to anyone, there are plenty fish in the swing ocean. We don't have a problem meeting people, certs or otherwise.
Colts Neck NJ			Username hidden (12722 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I'm not questioning the usefulness of certs, CT... I'm questioning your right to demand justification. I don't need to justify anything to you. We don't have certs, if that bothers you then move on. No justification needed, and no loss on our end.
Modesto CA			Username hidden (133 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"I read and place value on certs and have given certs, but honestly do not want any...perhaps I am a hypocrite...but as stated earlier...its just a notch on the bed post and regardless of where you are, the old standard still applies...I feel its nobodies business whose in my bed or whose bed I am in. " So if you don't accept certs but give them to others you are in fact sharing your business of whose bed you've been in....the Cert carries your name and if they think like you do that a cert implies you've head sex with them I'd say you're defeating your purpose to remain "private" . I myself enjoy following the "trail" of the cert I am reading, who else has certed them and who certs the certs....makes for a mighty interesting circle lol That being said just because I've certed someone doesn't mean we engaged in sex and I don't think many people would be able to tell based on our certs who we are intimate with and who we are just great friends with.....and THAT is how we like it. Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4446 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"We need to justify not broadcasting who we've played with? Says who? I must have missed that rule." Certs will reveal who you've played with. No doubt about it. Are you ashamed of them? If you don't accept certs, no one will know. No rule about it. But there's no rule that we have to take serious people who don't have any references (certs). What's the goal here; meeting people you can connect with and having some private fun together. Anything you can do to improve your "odds" will allow for more encounters. For those that don't know squat about you and all your wonderful qualities and won't get to meet you any other way, certs play a part. So do pictures and some well written words. If you skip profiles altogether and just meet people at parties or events, who cares? I look at it like looking for a job. You have to get the interview face to face and then each party can "sell" themselves. If we were betting people, those that have certs compared to those without any are probably "real" and more likely people we can trust to meet.
Southington CT			Username hidden (325 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	To us it isn't of how many certs unless they (sm/cpl) have NO certs. It may not be terminal, but NO certs means to me that no one felt like this member was special. Especially in the case of single guys. No certs is a strike in our 5 strikes and you're out policy. We ran across a profile the other day with 43 certs. That says something as well. Curt n Jane
Pasadena CA			Username hidden (175 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We need to justify not broadcasting who we've played with? Says who? I must have missed that rule.
Modesto CA			Username hidden (133 post)

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