to the OP-
I think you might have already changed the wording in your profile..because it seems great to me..BUT again not to beat a dead horse but I probably won't have gotten to the written portion of your profile because the pictures would have told me you are into something I'm not. Just my opinion. Good Luck..and I really think you should get the camera out and have some fun..take some more sexy pictures to add to what you have.
sassy

Thanks to all who offered advice to us. We are endeavoring to take it all in and hopefully produce something better!

C & L

I'll address each of your points individually... "1. BD/SM tie you up and spank you kind of people. BD/SM is only a small “kink” of ours and not a “deal breaker” for us. We understand that a lot of people aren’t into it and if they are, a lot of trust must be in place before it happens. ************************* Yet, your first five public pictures and the second paragraph of text are dominated (pun intended) by this theme. If you do not want to make it a focus of your profile or interests, don't display those pics as a focal point...show different pics that show your sexiness, interests, show the male half and show the two of you together. Move the bdsm portion of text to description of interests (and lightly at that) or to the other experiences area. 2. The “Dick” persona. Too often we get emails that consist of only a few poorly typed words. First, it gives us a feeling that some creepy guy out there is trying to get “spank bank” material for his next session of “choking the chicken”. But, at the same time, we don’t want to come across as being too brash…I.E. a dick. ************************* We all get those emails. So what, it shouldn't ruin your day. Click delete and move on. Crying in a profile makes you seem to be negative types and not someone that seems approachable, nor fun. 3. Our request for private pictures open when emailing us. It’s only to see if the person is truly interested in meeting us and not jerking us around with emails. ************************* It's reasonable enough of a request, many people write the same thing in their profile. We figure it's good etiquette to do so without being asked, and some people will also; the people who don't aren't likely to pay attention to that wording and will likely need to be asked directly anyway. Again to displeell the negative tone, it could be removed and saved for an email from the people you may be interested in that may have not had good etiquette/manners to start with. Then they will have no excuse either for non-compliance as you HAVE asked directly. Again, all constructive comments welcome! C & L ************************* Try and be more positive/not so negative, lists of rules are generally an "ugh, why bother." for us. Especially when most are common sense. If you feel compelled to spell all of that out, try and think of funny ways to do so, we especially enjoy sarcasm. People that 'get it,' will 'get it.' Example in the looking for section alone... no cheaters not ken and barbie (the cliche is tired btw) we are selective be d/d free be clean use spellcheck write more than a few words in email why are you interested in us Then later on you list what you term "the negative stuff." When a whole profile appears to be negative stuff, we click the back button. Your self-description is very light in content, maybe bolster that with your interests in the lifestyle. FWB? If so what do your interests include? Sex only? Then what types of scenarios turn you on? You make the suggestion "We want to get a feel of who you are " the same could be said of a profile for you. WE want to get a sense of who you are above and beyond the negative and the bdsm, unless that is specifically the 'demo' you are targeting. Best of luck! :^)

Thank you in advance for your constructive comments on our profile. There are some things that we are concerned come across too strongly and want an honest opinion. 1. BD/SM tie you up and spank you kind of people. BD/SM is only a small “kink” of ours and not a “deal breaker” for us. We understand that a lot of people aren’t into it and if they are, a lot of trust must be in place before it happens. 2. The “Dick” persona. Too often we get emails that consist of only a few poorly typed words. First, it gives us a feeling that some creepy guy out there is trying to get “spank bank” material for his next session of “choking the chicken”. But, at the same time, we don’t want to come across as being too brash…I.E. a dick. 3. Our request for private pictures open when emailing us. It’s only to see if the person is truly interested in meeting us and not jerking us around with emails. Again, all constructive comments welcome! C & L