My Gender is listed wrong, how do I fix that?
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Thanks for all the info and help folks I will be rewriting it tonight (31AUG2011) and would love more input afterwards. Thanks again.

You're a sweetheart, JK....scoot over - that hot tub looks very inviting!

Kat

Will you are SOOO lucky. How often would you find a lady like "starry" taking the time to lend advice to an average joe? Not knocking you bro, just saying.

Hi Will and welcome to the forums : ) I read your profile and overall it seems fine, you just need to inject a little bit more of your personality into it, make it fun. Your photo is very nice, but I always tell people that if you're going to post face pics, try to have one of you smiling in addition to a serious pic. Also, a full length (G-rated) pic is great to have, especially as you're HWP...show that off : ) I read in your profile that you've started attending a local meet and greet -- that's great! For single males, this is one of the easiest, no-pressure ways of meeting couples and single females, so glad to see you're getting yourself out there! Make sure your profile doesn't read like you're on a dating site, and I would take out the sentence about being available for weekend getaways. Your profile is a little vague as to your experience - I can't tell if you've had experience or what you're hoping for (under Fantasies/Expeience). It's always helpful to look at other single male profiles (ones that have a lot of certs) for ideas - not to copy, but to get a better feeling for what people are looking for while still being yourself. Best wishes and have fun, Kat

Stgal, you may be right, but I have to say, I could grow that on a three day pass and often did just because it was my only chance to do it.

One thing people look for in a profile is an obvious misrepresentation (a falsehood), and if they find one, you have no chance. We're not talking a few years or a few pounds here. We're talking major things. You make a big point of being active duty military and being stationed at Ft. Campbell. But here's the thing. If you're in the military, and especially the 101st, you do not have a beard. So at best your photo isn't current. At worst, you're not now in the military. Also, while I'm sure you're sincere in your desire to find people to hang out with, most of the people here aren't looking for that, particularly a single guy. You mention that twice in your profile, and I think that will likely lose you a lot more interest than it gains.

Will, i don't typically pay much attention to single guys here, but as a brother, and former member of the 101st airborne, ('85-'89), i'll just mention a couple of things. first, think about what gets attention FIRST, on a profile. the opening pic right? get creative bro. and you can go casual if you like, but if you're looking to spend time with classy couples, you might want to dress up a little for a few pics and get them on the site. you don't need a tux, but you know, a decent long sleeved shirt and dockers maybe. if you can help it, avoid the mirror pic. get a friend to help you out and get a few shots you can use, nothing crazy or weird though. remember there's a time and place for everything. and don't listen to the "hey man, just be who you are" assholes. if you're looking to pick up some skank from the 7-eleven, then you listen to those guys. don't be afraid to mention a few things about how you like to please women, nothing too graphc though, that makes a lot of women feel you're not respectful if you haven't met them yet. women in this lifestyle are interested in guys who take a little pride in themselves. how you treat yourself says something about how you treat others. before you know it, you'll open that email inviting you to a private "by invitation only" party. when that happens, relax and enjoy.

I've messaged lots of people in the area to try and make some friends in the lifestyle. I know its hard to think a single guy wants more than a quick hook up but truly I would like to hang out at BBQ's or go to a bar to watch the game or whatever. Being in the Army I spend a lot of time around the same people everyday. I would like to just chill with some new people and if we click well who knows what will happen.