scrnsex, (This is the male half of our team) You don't need to get into great detail about fantasies, just throw a few ideas out there that would spark someone's curiosity and make them want to know more about it. And as a single guy who is looking to swing with couples, it would definitely help if you made yourself a little more appealing to them or to their fantasies. What I mean is something like this, for example: "I'd love to find a couple that's willing to let me help them fulfill some of their fantasies. Perhaps the lady would like to experience a mfm 3-some or maybe the man would like to just sit back and watch. I'm open to suggestions and would feel comfortable in most situations" It's a pretty short statement that isn't too descriptive so it should appeal to a wide audience. Not to mention that now you're putting the focus on the couple rather than yourself. That's our biggest turn on/turn off when it comes to looking at single guys. If the guy's profile (or email) is him just talking about how he'd love to give it to my g/f and would make her scream, blah blah blah....that's a big no-no for us because it sounds like the guy is selfish and just looking to get laid. We either skip that profile or delete the email immediately because anyone who sounds selfish probably isn't going to bring much to the table to begin with, not to mention that he's less likely to respect any boundaries that we might have. Most couples want to be sure that you are there to help enhance their sex lives, not just show up for a booty call. But on the other hand, when a guy presents himself in a manner that makes us think that he can legitimately contribute to our bedroom enjoyment, then watch out. Not only will he help us live out some of our fantasies but in turn, we will help him with some of his.

Cple, thanks for the tip. Truthfully I never really thought about the "intimate" word in that light. I changed it to "sexy". Still fits nicely.
I'll have to ponder on the fantasies. Being relatively open minded, it's hard to pin down specific fantasies. Does that sound strange? lol.
I'm not intentionally sending out bi subliminal messages, but I also will not turn away a bi couple based on their orientation. I base things more on my "gut" feeling I get from communicating with a couple, than what they list themselves as.
Thanks for your input, it is really appreciated.

This line... "I'm a nice, fun guy that likes to share intimate times with like minded couples and women. " Might want to sub in another word for intimate since you are interested in couples along with single women. This may sound strange, but if a guy tells me (the male half of the couple) that he'd like the fuck my g/f, I would be totally ok with that (I might not let him actually fuck her, but I'd take it as a compliment and wouldn't get defensive). But if he said he wanted to get intimate with her, I would have a problem with that because intimacy is the one sacred thing that we have between each other and we don't share that with anyone else. Another thing is that by saying that you want to get intimate with a couple could be interpreted to mean that you want to actually be intimate with both of them. Since your profile says you're straight, I assume you only really want to engage in physical contact with the female. But some couples might wonder if you aren't "secretly" bi. They might not even consciously think about it, but that's the subliminal message that you might be sending out there. Finally, you may want to include some of your own personal fantasies or go into a little more detail about the style of play you enjoy because a couple or single lady just might stumble on your profile and see that you have a common fantasy or enjoy the same style of play. Try not to focus on what you don't do, but focus on what you do do. Give a positive message instead of a negative one. It'll work wonders. And on a positive note, your pics are great and your the wording in your profile is clean and has a decent "flow" to it. A few more tweaks here and there and you should be well on your way. Hope that helps.

BRNEYEDBBW, thanks for the input. I will think about what I want to convey and change that.

It's fair to ask people to open pics if they are contacting me. My pics are open, so they would know if they already know me from somewhere. Most people go as far as stating not to contact them if they don't open pics. I haven't gone that far. Truth is, there is a certain amount of physical attraction that has to be there. Personality is important, but so is attraction. Just my general feeling on the situation.

As a couple who actually plays with single males, your statement about opening pics would keep us from contacting you. We chat first to get a feel for personality and like-mindedness. Pic collectors are rampant on adult sites. It's also a security thing for her safety - she doesn't need someone who saw her face pic to find her at the grocery.

From looking at the comments, I'm assuming that you made some edits to your profile already. I think it looks great. It's clear who you are and what youare looking for.

One *teeny* thing. Every person is Height to Weight proportionate, we all have proportions. I'm not a huge fan of working too hard to be nice which is what I think happens when people say HWP instead of "Prefer slender to athletic builds" or something along those ines.

But like I said, overall I think it looks great. Good luck, I hope it works well for you :)

I tend to be a bit over-cautious when it comes to seeming vain, just my upbringing, so in retrospect, it may be just fine. Though, your pictures speak for themselves, so try not to over-sell. Other than that, I'm glad I could help!

Thanks for the input. You touched on some areas I was concerned about. The area I live in causes a bit of a guarded approach. I'm sure it's not just unique to this area alone.
LOL, I can see where I come off a bit stand-offish. Guess I have always been a bit too blunt.
I am curious, do you really see describing oneself "handsome" as coming off a bit vain? I wouldn't put myself in that category at all, but I am not sure how else to sell myself up a bit without getting too wordy.
Thanks for all your input, it is very appreciated.

Well, you're certainly not hideous, but I do have a few critiques. Upon reading your profile, I feel that it is a bit standoffish. You start with your APB " Please open your pics, to include face, before you contact me. I appreciate knowing who I am chatting with. Too much false advertising going on ;-)". I COMPLETELY get where you are coming from with this, but I'm not sure it should be the first thing, maybe work it in as a regular sentence later in that paragraph. Try something like "I would love to hear from interested parties, and try to put a face to a name when chatting, so open up those lovely smile pics, please!" Instead of being mildly confrontational, you would be posing the statement as a friendly gesture. Also, I know that HWP is your preference, but I think a simple statement would do more justice than " I prefer people who take care of themselves and am not really interested in couples where the woman weighs as much as me and is NOT HWP. I'm sorry if that sounds callous, but I just want to be upfront". Being up front is crucial, but rest assured, a BBW like myself would never contact someone that said, "HWP Preferred" in their profile. Adding the additional details can make you seem picky and standoffish, which could be a turn off to HWP people. Women can be -very- sensitive sometimes, and you may not get mail from women that are in your weight range but are tall, athletically built, etc, because of your "as much as me" statement. Next, you may want to consider expanding your description part. Are you academic or blue collar, into opera or jazz. Those small details can help make a lasting connection with a potential FWB. Finally, I know for me, it can be a turn off if a guy comes across as 'too into himself'. Saying that you are an attractive guy can come across that way. I hope I didn't tear things apart too much, and I hope I was helpful! Good luck and take care!