Looks like it's really starting to come together. 2 quick thoughts: 1. You mention 2x that you are looking for people to hang out with....bbq, dancing, etc. No need to repeat yourself.....the words aren't going anywhere so you can probably do away with the 2nd mention. 2. "Play toy" is probably a good word to describe what you are looking for in terms of the BDSM part of your life, but since you mention that prospective partners don't have to be into that, it still sends a message to more "vanilla" swingers that you guys are going to own them the minute they walk through your front door and that might scare some people away (it would for us.....well, for me anyway but my g/f would probably love it. lol) My suggestion would be to describe the type of people you are looking for for BDSM (aka: play toy) and then have a separate description of the type of people you are looking for for non-BDSM play. Overall though, your profile reads much, much better than it did before. It's getting a nice flow to it.

We have made many changes to our profile. I was trying to move pictures around to private viewing and public viewing. GRRRR! Now we have ZERO pictures up. We are working on it but any new insights to the changes would be greatly appreciated.

Naughty

I guess the OP made some changes already so I don't know what the original profile looked like, but there should definitely be some mention of BDSM in it....maybe even put it in your headline. That will instantly attract others looking for BDSM who might otherwise skip you. And with that, there are many levels of BDSM so you should probably go into a little more detail about where you guys stand. By the looks of that one pic, I'd say that the female is most definitely into pain and that you guys are a little more hardcore. Someone just browsing through profiles right now might see it and wonder if that's from sex play or if your body is permanently scarred from an accident or something. Best to clarify that for anyone looking at your profile.

Naughty- No problem. We'd expect likewise from another member seeing something "not wuite right" in our profile. Swinging is a team effort, LOL. Sorry to see you took out all references of your BDSM activities. Just a thought, but you might want to leave some interest indication in your profile, at least to give the related pictures a reason for being on your profile. Besides, we've found quite a number of profiles that mention it, so you are far from alone being interested in both lifestyles ;) On the SLS netiquette side, @names are not popular (this isn't twitter), members usually do a shortened or initialed name in the reply post to direct a comment to another member. Not a biggy. Or is it? Hahahaha <cue maniacal laughter soundtrack here> Seriously, though, you've already hit on the secret to a successful profile: it is a work in progress, never stagnant. Naughty, welcome to SLS :) Mr TF3

@Tablefor3...

Didn't even THINK of that! Thank you, thank you, thank you for bringing it up. I've removed that little piece.

Again, thanks to all for your advice.

Take another look at your third section, could use a thorough rewrite... You don't mention anything about BDSM before your "mentioned before" comment. Watch your wording. "He loves to spoil her with pretty little girls for her to feast on." -- unless you are a pedophile (leave your name and address in your reply post, the authorities will stop by shortly...) change it, fast! Pretty little girls conjures up the notion you are looking for a seven year old female :( Put politely, that is VERY, VERY, VERY NOT GOOD. "Ownership" under BDSM may be quite foreign to folks in swinging. That idea might scare otherwise compatible people away. Remember, you are writing your profile for an audience of swingers.

Thanks for all of your suggestions! We will begin editing our profile soon!

and again. as i mentioned to another couple as well, you do realize that once you email a pic to someone via "regular email" that you no longer have any control over where it goes or how it is used, right? in our opinion, your face pics are safer here in a private folder only opened once you feel comfortable with another member.

this doesn't mean that someone couldn't hack your photo from this site. but seriously, how many members would be capable of that?

Welcome to the forums. Your first section is confusing. You are describing yourself, then others, then your BDSM, and so on. For the first section, clean out the stuff about you, (move it to the second section,) and focus on what you seek in others. Be very clear about what you seek in swinging partners. Are you after a single female for a playtoy? A couple to be BBQ cookout friends? Both? Prefer others interested in BDSM and swinging? It is hard to tell if you being are here for BDSM or swinging. Keep in mind this is a swinging site, swinging ought be your primary focus, with BDSM as the secondary interest focus. BDSM seems to be the primary interest within your relationship, why is it not included in the "about you" section? Make your intentions clear if you are, or are not, wanting (expecting?) to include BDSM as a part of your swinging lifestyle. That "like minded" comment is too vague -- someone could take it to mean both you and they like downloading geriatric porn and electrocuting small animals for pleasure...no details leaves it up to them to decide, usually not in your favor :( Easier, and often better, to just remove "like minded" entirely. Good luck. With the right balance in your profile content, I don't think you'll have any problems finding others that share your interest in both swinging and BDSM :) Mr. TF3

Your default picture... looks like scratches on her chest and mid-section. Are you looking to advertise the marks? I'd look to swap out that pic for one a bit cleaner looking.

I'd suggest removing the first note about not having 1-on-1 play since you have it repeated at the bottom.