I have taken all comments to heart and thank you all. I have revamped my profile to reflect your suggestions.

Again Thanks

I think you need to update your profile. to read the way you just put it on here. Also repharse it so it doesn't read that you are having an affair. This lifestyle you find couple that will swing together because it should be something that enhances the relationship. People don't want to get invovled with someone who may not being completely honest.

Actually I did not know about the email but seen how other people posted it. I have since removed it. The wife is aware hence the no sex rule on 1st date. She has to approve and she may want to contact them. I want to thank you all for a no bs approach for your reviews. My 1st women was into swings, (it how I got started) and the now Mrs. Dilbertwanted wanted to try it but has since decided it is not for her. I was a pack a day smoker and now down to 5 smokes a day. So I try not to say I am a smoker cause I am more a less a closet smoker at this time. I have tried 4 times to quit but I am finally beating it. I am in no hurry be any means since I want to make sure the wife is confortable as it progress's. I want to make sure I am friends with whoever first so my wife and I am both comfortable. Again thank you.

Told you I was being easy LOL

Read your profile, it's easy to see you are missing the point Timcopter mentioned in other ways, too. 1. You choose not to show the smoking icon, yet you slip in the part about you being a smoker in your profile. 2. You describe wanting a discreet something on the side, without your knowing wife, yet you only allude she is aware of your activities. 3. You've included your yahoo address, and went out of your way to get it through the site's filters shows you are already *very* aware it is against the rules here. Our take from your present profile: you are a just another cheating husband. Think about it. You don't care about being deceitful, hiding things or the site rules -- will you respect the rules and limits in play? Our advice: be upfront and honest, or don't bother being here. Others will see through an act faster than you can cancel your membership.

#1 Drop the e-mail contact it's not allowed to use an outside e-mail on this site and you reference the "y"

# 2 You mention the wife lets you play but isn't interested (more or less) but that's how I read it and you "hid" it on the bottom of your profile. Again that's how I see it. Be upfront about it right from the start as a couple we see that as deceptive and hidden in the fine priint.

Welcome to the forum dilbert. Since you have other guys blocked I couldn't help with your profile but from what I have seen, I might suggest you spend and extra minute or two using spell check and checking your grammar. Intelligence and creativity is what separates the run of the mill single male from those who get contacted by fun couples.

Good luck!

New to this online thing searching for lifestyle friends. Could I please get a honest review of my profile. Before I always personally refereed and not via online. Thank you for any hope