Say "we opened our pics - would love to see yours" or "check out our profile - we opened our pics for you - if you are interested, open your pics to us and send us an email". If people have a hard time showing you pics of themselves, there is a big problem. The purpose here is linking up for sex... We won't waste our time with people who won't share at least a G-rated pic. It's all about attraction - sharing pics is step one when connecting with people online. If they won't share a pic early on, it a BIG red flag.

We eliminated that problem by eliminating all of our private pics and setting them to public. Understandably, not everyone is comfortable in doing that. For those that are, we've found it eliminated the pic tag & game playing associated with "you show yours and we'll show ours". While it's cut down our responses very slightly, it's cut out those that were contacting us only to see pics, or those that would run scared after seeing them,lol. In any case, the responses we get are from those genuinely interested. Of course it's great to leave a little to the imagination, so we're looking forward to the new unmoderated galleries becoming available!

How about closing with "Our pics are open, could you please return the favor?" or "We opened our pics to you and would love to see yours?"
Or something like that if you are really interested in them.

If someone asks to see my pics and their pics are closed, NOT gonna happen. If they don't respond back in a few days then you can always close them. Yes, there are pic collectors here, but the new security program here does help make it more difficult to copy clear pictures off here.

RaveN (:~

There is no one right answer to that one. Ask to early and you sound like a pic collector and ask to late and you might have wasted sometime. Patrick Pattie