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TOPIC: Is our profile the problem
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Goes to show that patience is rewarded. If one bases responses as a measure then that would be inaccurate for again one good one is better than 100 less than desirable ones. We have finally met what works for us as well but it took some weeding and not getting discouraged by those that lacked all of the motor skills that one would expect.

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Hooray for you! If you would want to accept certifications, you could now ask them to write one for you and reciprocate. It wouldn't have to be explicit about what you did, but could verify that you are real and real fun to be with. ;-)

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Hello and Greetings, Based on what is seen now and compared to many profiles Kandy and I have reviewed your seems succinct and to the point, Could it stand a bit more "Tweekage"? Sure all profiles could. One simple point is the tag line should be updated weekly at minimum just to show that you are evolutionary and your profile is not stagnant. The pictures most certainly could use a better approach and so much is to be said for imagery. If you are intent on showing drinks then show a bottle of good wine LOL not Ripple or Old Thunderbird. No need to mention ethnicity for that can be conveyed in any later conversations for this is not a precluder unless someone is wearing a Burka. The more nervous you seem and convey in your profile the less apt someone would be to approach for that would bode a possible less than desirable experience. That does not mean that you should not come across without some reservations of course yet you do not wish to set the perceptions on a negative side up front. More needs to come through that you guys are fun loving and adventuresome for sure. Better to have one good response that has merit than one hundred that are lacking. We since we have been on have had very few responses but then again that does not discourage us whatsoever. The time will be right for some when it is right. Best, Kandy and Will

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Jatins, that is MUCH better! There are a few misplaced commas and a few missing capital letters, but overall it is a pleasant, clear read. One thing I just couldn't let pass without commenting - you wrote

... "a single (preferably Bi) female whom which we may explore certain fantasies with."

It should be ... "a single (preferably bi) female with whom we may explore certain fantasies."

Most people don't do this, but it would be fun for those of us who commented to know whether traffic picked up for you after you made the changes. Would you mind sending an update to this thread in a month or so?

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Jatins01, welcome to the forums. You've come to the right place to get help, and I'll try to give you some advice that will do that. It's just my opinion, so take what you like and leave the rest.

AandK is right - the picture of the two of you with drinks in the foreground is worse than a waste of space. Besides being unattractive, it indicates you are really afraid to be recognized AND you're uncreative. There are many ways to alter digital pics to keep from being recognized - blur, mask, crop, show only shoulders and below, show the back of your heads, photoshop something in front of your faces, etc. The one picture of the woman is just fine, however!

You seem like nice enough people, but the profile needs a LOT of work. The text in your profile is very repetitive. In this case, less is so much more. People don't need to read over and over that you are new, had to think about it for a long time, and have finally decided to take the plunge. It becomes a boring read, quite frankly. Consider rewriting the whole thing while keeping in mind that the sex partners you are looking for are wanting to meet fun people. You can write about your recent decision process history, but keep it light. The same goes with your thought processes re: clubbing. Explaining it excessively is like beating a dead horse - say that you are or aren't ready to try clubs at this time, and move on.

Information you may want to include will cover a bunch of issues, like soft swap vs. full swap, kissing or no kissing, whether you are willing to travel, where to meet, whether you play on the first date, whether you want to meet couples or singles, straight or bi, what you do for fun that isn't sex related, etc.

Take a look at the profiles of people posting in the Open Forum who say something there that you like. Some of them are very successful at swinging and their profiles indicate their wit, sense of humor, intelligence, etc. They may inspire you.

Good luck.

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possibly the comment regarding "just discussing it phase" scares people off, many people have very limited time and when the do get out and meet people they want them to be serious, if we only get out once a month because of work, family, vanilla friends, we want to maximze our chances....

not that you should lie, but you might have better luck meeting people at parties where you can talk to people and there is no pressure for anything else....

also, the pic with the drinks??? doesn't show much....

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