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Jatins01, welcome to the forums. You've come to the right place to get help, and I'll try to give you some advice that will do that. It's just my opinion, so take what you like and leave the rest.

AandK is right - the picture of the two of you with drinks in the foreground is worse than a waste of space. Besides being unattractive, it indicates you are really afraid to be recognized AND you're uncreative. There are many ways to alter digital pics to keep from being recognized - blur, mask, crop, show only shoulders and below, show the back of your heads, photoshop something in front of your faces, etc. The one picture of the woman is just fine, however!

You seem like nice enough people, but the profile needs a LOT of work. The text in your profile is very repetitive. In this case, less is so much more. People don't need to read over and over that you are new, had to think about it for a long time, and have finally decided to take the plunge. It becomes a boring read, quite frankly. Consider rewriting the whole thing while keeping in mind that the sex partners you are looking for are wanting to meet fun people. You can write about your recent decision process history, but keep it light. The same goes with your thought processes re: clubbing. Explaining it excessively is like beating a dead horse - say that you are or aren't ready to try clubs at this time, and move on.

Information you may want to include will cover a bunch of issues, like soft swap vs. full swap, kissing or no kissing, whether you are willing to travel, where to meet, whether you play on the first date, whether you want to meet couples or singles, straight or bi, what you do for fun that isn't sex related, etc.

Take a look at the profiles of people posting in the Open Forum who say something there that you like. Some of them are very successful at swinging and their profiles indicate their wit, sense of humor, intelligence, etc. They may inspire you.

Good luck.

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possibly the comment regarding "just discussing it phase" scares people off, many people have very limited time and when the do get out and meet people they want them to be serious, if we only get out once a month because of work, family, vanilla friends, we want to maximze our chances....

not that you should lie, but you might have better luck meeting people at parties where you can talk to people and there is no pressure for anything else....

also, the pic with the drinks??? doesn't show much....

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We've been on the site for quite some time and have had very little luck. When we first came on we kept attracting couples we definitely were not interested in so over time we've added more and more but now we're generating little interest with the exception of stalkers who don't seem to take "we're not interested " for what it means.

Please help. We want to have our first experience sometime this century. :p

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