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TOPIC: How do you let couples down nicely

Created by: nymphosx2 Original Starting post for this thread:
Very new to this whole online thing, and wanted to get some advice please. Been messaging back and forth with a few couples we seem to have a lot in common with, well then they opened up their private galleries and unfortunately we are not attracted to a few of them. :( I feel bad but attraction is the first step right?? So my question is, how to proceed from here? They've asked access to our private gallery but we'd rather not share it since we are not interested. It sounds so mean, but my natural reaction is to avoid them so they don't ask us "Why aren't you interested in us anymore?!" HELP!!! :(

Created by: nymphosx2
Original Starting post for this thread:

Very new to this whole online thing, and wanted to get some advice please.

Been messaging back and forth with a few couples we seem to have a lot in common with, well then they opened up their private galleries and unfortunately we are not attracted to a few of them. :(

I feel bad but attraction is the first step right?? So my question is, how to proceed from here? They've asked access to our private gallery but we'd rather not share it since we are not interested. It sounds so mean, but my natural reaction is to avoid them so they don't ask us "Why aren't you interested in us anymore?!" HELP!!! :(

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User Details are only visible to members.	I can absolutely say I agree, I wish everyone would read profiles. We have gotten more than a few that make us wonder if the person paid any intention to what we said or what any of that might mean.
Denham Springs LA			Username hidden (62 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	newtothescene, and that is absolutely fine. You read people's profiles, and you do not feel the compatibility based on what you see, so you don't reach out, and no one's feelings are hurt as a result. If only everyone read the profiles like you do. :)
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User Details are only visible to members.	Totalbabe, I can respect that you have requested face pics up front. It's your right to want what works for you and to expect others to understand that when you make it clear. I do read profiles myself and I do pay attention to whether or not they require those open pictures. I would likely pass on you as well, out of respect for your wishes and also because to me this speaks of having different mind sets on some things. The Wife
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User Details are only visible to members.	Livewire, If they respond to my first e-mail with interest in conversation then I open our face pics.
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User Details are only visible to members.	I can say only one thing to it - initial emails without face pictures available for me to look at, get the "No, thanks" response. Yes, I can see myself making the exception, if the email is absolutely intriguing, but when a person takes the time to write something really interesting and genuine, they usually take the time to read my profile and they respect my wish for seeing face pictures as well. So far, I am recalling only one time, when I received this beautiful email from a couple, expressing interest, and they even opened all their galleries for me, EXCEPT face pictures, citing the usual lame privacy due to job excuse. Well, I responded in the same fashion. Based on what I read and saw, I was interested in meeting, but felt that they should open face pictures first. Their answer? BLOCK. That was weird. So, if there are no face pictures with FIRST email, the answer will be "NO". If I reach out to someone, I open my face pictures. I feel that one just cannot determine attraction without looking at the person in his/her entirety, and by that I don't mean butt naked bodies. I mean, bodies in general, clothed or not, but with face. I expect the same, especially since I do spell it out clearly in my profile.
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User Details are only visible to members.	Newtothescene - Do you open your face pics after the initial email or do you wait for a few exchanges before opening them?
Alpharetta GA			Username hidden (929 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I have taken to not responding to e-mails that have just and only "how's it going?" in the message. If they took the time to write at least a few sentences and say something about themselves, their interests, whatever then I will check the profile and send an e-mail, even if it is to politely say no thank you. My husband is less likely to respond unless he is motivated enough to. When we send out the first e-mail; we see it as a feeler. It's left with a note about dropping us a line if they are interested. There are no hard feelings on our end if they aren't. I will honestly say that I am hesitant to open face pics on that feeler e-mail. I'd rather wait until there is some response of entering farther communication before I do. If our info doesn't intrigue them then why share more?
Denham Springs LA			Username hidden (62 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	spanish_duo, I don't have an answer for you, unfortunately. I would like to see what others suggest because we have a similar situation with a SM who attends the same hotel takeover parties we do.
Sheboygan Falls WI			Username hidden (6985 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	A different twist on this problem is what do you do after you have hung out with a couple a few times and enjoyed their company, in the bedroom as well, but now they seem to expect to hook up everytime the 4 of you are a the same place? Don't get us wrong, we aren't bedpost notchers, but when we are going to a club or event, unless we have made specific plans with someone, we like to just go with the flow. We have done the "say hello if you see us at the club" thing but it doesn't quite sink in. They tend to be clingy but they are nice and we don't want to hurt their feelings. Any advice?
New Castle PA			Username hidden (19 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I always respond to someone's emails. Yes, I know that "no response IS a response", but I feel it's only fair and proper. If we get approached by someone we have no interest in, I just write a short, polite email stating something like..."Thank you very much for contacting us, but we are not interested. Best of luck to you here on SLS." No explanation of why, etc.
Wailuku HI			Username hidden (443 post)

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