yeah, they can be a little scary, tis true! But they can be fun and interesting too. glad to hear that you lurk and are interested, lol. Don't sell yourself short. I'll bet you can handle it!

I would join in, Rdy, but its kind of a scary place over there! I do love popping in for a lurk every now and then, though! Baby steps...

Jands you are just what we need-- a fresh outlook with a positive attitude! Cmon over to the General Discussions forums and join in. We need some unjaded opinions! lol

Thanks everyone (even, you stgala!). I'm putting up more pics of J as soon as I upload them.

I'm confident now that the profile is a good reflection of who we are but I do appreciate the feedback and stgala encouraged me to take another look from someone else's viewpoint- not my strongest point as a writer!

It was tons of fun! Thanks!

I think the witten profile is pretty good. Her pics are nice, but the biggest ding is the lack of pictures of him. Remember, this is primarily a couple's sport and many people will pass you by for not having pics of him. Also, try to get a certification as soon as you can so you can get some credibility. You'll quickly find out how many fakes are online and certs help weed out the junk profiles.

Good luck!

I usually like stgala's advice and straightforward, no-nonsense style, but I also have to disagree AND take him to task for his "garden party" comment. I believe that the VERY things you are criticizing in the profile are the things that would make me think: "great! A couple that I can relate to and who get's it and who is down to earth.".
'bland'. Pfffffftttt!

As Mrs. Sav Said... You won't be able to please everyone.

So just be yourselves and you will be more likely to attract people to whom you relate!

You can't please everyone. As a women I get what you're saying about the car line, grocery store or farmers market. If we as women can't communicate about general interests we surely will never get so far as discussing sex. I have to like you outside of the bedroom before I consider the option of taking you into my bedroom.

No matter how you are, how you look or what you offer the fact is that only a small percentage will truly be interested in you sexually on this site. You've tailored your profile to YOUR preferences , stick with it. Those who get it and like it will be more apt to be a sexual match.

Mrs Sav

Stgala I would have to disagree. I reread the lines you are talking about, I see nothing wrong with what they are saying, what it sounds like to me is that they are both very verbal people, they enjoy conversation first, and intellectually if they hit it off with you then your chances are good it will go further. She is describing him, I see nothing wrong with her calling him charming and funny, couples describe each other in their profiles all the time, are they bias, of course they are, they married to each other. Personally, I do not look at people’s profiles, read what they wrote and think the opposite, if that is the case and thought the way you do, then I would look at your own profile and where it says, “We're very sexual people” would have to think your not, because people who write that generally aren’t.

I hate to be the one to spoil the garden party, but there were several things in your profile that I didn't think reflected on you well at all. I didn't care for the car line, shoe store, and farmer's market. Do you really discuss serious topics at any of those places? And if so, why? What I thought to myself was, "Fall is really here now isn't it? Aren't these shoes really nice for the price? Doesn't the corn look great? Let's fuck." And the politician working the room -- if you really listen, what he/she says is bland and inoffensive. "Great to see you, mom and apple pie, hope I can count on your support." If you were to say "No, I don't like your position on the new freeway." the response would be "Great meeting you, glad you could be here." as he/she moves on to the next voter. And charming and funny. My experience is that people who tell me that they are generally aren't. Now, you and he may be the exception, striking up conversations about Plato's Cave in the grocery store, telling the voters what you really think, and charming and amusing all from the very young to the very old. But I thought it was over the top, and I'd cut most of it.

Jand D, Welcome to the lifestyle. I enjoyed your profile and found the photo of you lovely. I look forward to you adding to them. As a couple new to the Lifestyle I think you've articulated very well what you're currently looking for in possible playmates. As you grow together in the lifestyle you can update you're profile as you see fit. I suggest seeking out some of the social gatherings or clubs in your area; it's a good way to get your feet wet so to speak. It will also help you meet like minded people in your area. Not all will be playmates but there's a good chance many will become friends. May all your fantasies come true. Mrs Sav