the couple for couple search is definitely a tough one. our profile has a section where we explain who we are NOT looking for. we try to do it with a little humor, but it's purpose is to get the dealbreakers out on the table in order to save everyone a little time. we just have to be careful because our playtime is limited.

i'm sure it has cost us some cool couples, but if you know something doesn't work, why set yourself up for failure? i understand however, that it may come across as a list of demands. i should probably consider doing something different.

I'm not really sure what the complaint is, or more importantly, how it's appropriate for this particular section of the forums. Are you suggesting that people who describe themselves as "relaxed and easy going" shouldn't have any preferences in what they are/are not looking for in prospective playmates? I'm relaxed and easy going and so is my partner, but we aren't going to fuck just anyone. Everyone has preferences when it comes to this lifestyle....perhaps some more than others, but everyone has them. I will say (and maybe this is what you're complaining about) that when I read someone's profile and it's just a laundry list of nitpicking - "be this and be that, don't be this, don't be that" then yes, it's a bit of a turn off. But that just tells me that we probably wouldn't jive together anyway and so I move on to the next profile. No harm, no foul.

I do try to see things from other peoples perspective most times. Riddle me this though. How is a person "easy going and relaxed",when they have a list of demands a mile long. I understand tastes and being clear.We have had experiences that did not work out. It is not going to put me in a position where I will prejudge "bi-females"or"bi-males" even though its not for me. I dont mind that others are shallow , that's cool. I will pass them up. It is a REAL PITA though when consistently running into a very negative mindset. Sometimes I just stop ,it is so boring and mind Numbing seeing the SAME thing over and over again.Negativity. Bahh go play by yourself if all you want is someone to kiss your ass and tell you how great you are. I love my woman and she loves me.. Who needs more drama.