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TOPIC: Be gentle with me
Created by: itsbeen20yrs
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I want to be as honest and genuine and still be successful here. Any CONSTRUCTIVE comments and suggestions would be appreciated.

Can't change the face and I'm working on the body...

Thanks in advance for your kind and thoughtful consideration.

Itsbeen

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@total - BTW, love this line.... "my main fantasy has been for everyone to read my profile before e-mailing me"

It's amazing how such a simple concept that brings such joy is so often overlooked! LOL

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Wanna, Bridge, Total

Thanks for the input and kind comments. Duly noted and will be considered with the greatest of care and respect.

Play well my friends Danny

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Itsbeen,

Can't see your profile in order to comment on it, but kudos for putting it out there for feedback. That's what I did a while ago, and received, and put to use some great feedback.

My two cents, for what that's worth, read as many SM profiles as you can. You'll find that a number of the more successful ones will be open to view. Some of the truly lousy ones will be open too. This might help with the readability comment that was made earlier.

Have fun.

BT

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@ it'sbeen - I think your profile is nicely written. :) My only comment on it is that I feel you should not use pix with your female friend in your public gallery. Your profile is "single male" and your public gallery should put that image forward.

You could put your pix with you *and* her in a private gallery stating she's your friend/gf/playmate/whatever. But to have her prominently featured in your public gallery (however blurred her face is) is .... confusing.

JMHO. Best of luck to you!

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LOL - she's cool with them, do you recognize her? LOL

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"is the female in your profile pic the female you're talking about?"

Yesh! Used with her permission with face blurred.

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Thanks! I was wondering if and how to present her. It's not intended to be bait and switch, but the real possibility is there, just don't know when.

I'll get on it, thanks.

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itsbeen20yrs,

Generally speaking, your profile has plenty of good info, but could use a little reorganization to make it a smoother read. However, some red flags stood out on my first reading:

First and foremost, delete that bogus warning at the end of your profile. It is pointless, unenforceable, and makes you sound like paranoid drama waiting to happen. HUGE red flag.

Second, don't brag about the escapades with your new lady friend. Kiss and tell is a red flag. To say you have a female friend that introduced you to the lifestyle, and you've been exploring since, is great. To tell us about having threesomes together, going to clubs with her, etc., is too much. Strongly consider deleting the entire "Since my divorce I have only..." paragraph and rewrite it about you, not the two of you.

Third, remove the sentences "She's Bi and my adventures could lead to a exciting couple night too. She's HAWT!)" and "and also what to expect as a man in a lifestyle couple (she's Bi)." from your profile. You are here as a single male, she is not part of the package...as I see it, you are dangling her as bait to get responses. Bait and switch is a red flag.

Give these items your corrective attention. I'll post feedback on readability shortly.

Mrs TF3

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I want to be as honest and genuine and still be successful here. Any CONSTRUCTIVE comments and suggestions would be appreciated.

Can't change the face and I'm working on the body...

Thanks in advance for your kind and thoughtful consideration.

Itsbeen

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