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"I think LW and I need to get together"

NOLA isn't precisely halfway between McAllen and Atlanta, but it's close. Just sayin.

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oh! oh! oh! .....and I think LW and I need to get together and officially kick off the Nic fan club. lol

Actually, if I was still back home, LW and I would just need to get together. {wink!}

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Sav: amen, sister-girl! I now officially have a girl crush, but I swear I'm in to you for your mind! lol

Nic....'spreadsheet', huh? Nice.

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Plain and simple, it is all about the context and the as long as those involved agree, it's all good.

*Updating my spreadsheet to include the last few posters....

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I think the mentality/maturity of people is so poor that they carry their "habits" with them where they go or with whomever they meet. More and more you see this mixed in the work place, people have become so causal that they no longer have the ability to know what is appropriate where and with whom. People no longer get dressed for church or a wedding, "street" speak is common place at the office, cussing like a sailor is an everyday occurrence etc so it makes sense that people "assume" if their partner likes to be called a slut surely all women do....it sure is supported in porn for instance. Talking dirty for some is seen as an elevated sexual openness, a desirable quality and an instant turn on. Unless you "know" me as a women I suggest you keep the garbage can talk for back alley blow jobs. You'll get a lot farther will pillow talk so to speak. There is a time and place for "dirty" talk but for the love of peanut butter stop trying to sound like you just auditioned for a cheap porn flick. I'm not your Old Lady nor your Bitch. I have Breasts not Tits, a Vagina not a Cunt. I may call myself a Slut but don't you dare, I may beg you to Fuck Me but don't ever say "Fuck You" to me. I don't like men that act like boys nor boys that think they're men. The language out of your mouth is far more telling than the suit you might be wearing. I prefer class over trash. I can at times behave like your whore but so help me God if a man ever referred to me as one I'd slap his face.......unless it was in the heat of the moment and was stated with playful loving tenderness. Oh and you're welcome SED, glad I could put a finger on it for you lol.

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I've always had a strong sense of boundaries based on personal connection. For instance, when I was a teenager I didn't like people who were not my friends referring to me by a nickname that my friends and family used. I'm also that way about personal space such as I don't care tol hug complete strangers. In the swinging world I've noticed that some people will believe there is an instant familiarity once they know your name. I met someone at a house party once and barely spoke to him. At the next party we both attended, he kept putting his arm around me. I ended up dodging him all evening but he never got the hint, continually embracing my waist or shoulders. I felt like this was too possessive and familiar. Yes, I could have said something but there were always people around and I didn't want to embarrass him.

I feel this same way about language. My FWB would never call me a bitch, whore, or cunt because he feels those names are degrading but he does like to take "possession" of me by asking questions such as "Who's pussy is this?" If it was anyone else, my answer would be "mine (you weirdo...LOL)" but I indulge him and tell him its "yours."

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You know Mrs. Sav, after reading your post, it finally hit me, after all these years, why I find the word slut funny and never really take it in any meaningful way. It's just juvenile. Kind of like, let me top you with furry handcuffs ;). That's it! after years and years, of not being able to put my finger on it, you helped me figure it out!

Thank you babes!

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Words like that do nothing for me and if one uses such terminology on an unwilling person it says more about YOU than it does me. I do not find those words insulting per say nor do I find them "sexy" . Coming out the the mouths of some men I really find them more "funny" than anything. For instance if Mr Sav decided to call me his little "whore" it would be so out of character for him it would be laughable. I don't like the word "tits" and find it extremely juvenile and an immediate turn off. "You have great titties " would simply make me laugh and shake my head at what as I see as your immaturity. Whereas "You have lovely breasts" is a compliment. Calling me a Cunt would be no different than referring to me as bitch, I simply don't give specific words more power than others. That being said I react harshly to any word that is specifically intended to degrade someone. Tone of voice and context has more power than the word itself. For instance you can say "You're acting like a bitch" and I'd probably agree with you . On the other hand if you say "You're a Bitch" we'd be having a come to Jesus meeting. I do not like name calling, preferring to address the behavior not the person. Rule of thumb? When meeting new people or playing with new partners before using such words I'd make damn sure they were receptive to them before blurting them out.

Mrs Sav

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I would like to get more than yuor imagination going Greeneyes....

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Reading all these made me think of something else. One time my ex said I was a good cocksucker. I hated that. It took something intimate between us and made it demeaning and impersonal. If he had said he loved the way I sucked his cock, it would have made me feel good. Same words, different meaning.

He also told me once that I looked pregnant when I had an orgasm as he was going down on me. I hate my stomach and he took the one thing I'm most self-conscious about and just had to say something hurtful. I never let him go down on me again. These were not the reasons for our divorce, but it wasn't much longer I decided I'd had enough.

Naughty, I agree. I hate that word and it's the worst thing I can think of to call a woman. I lost all respect for him and I'm glad I no longer do business with him.

Nic, I like what you said. It got my imagination going! :)

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