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Created by: kayned99 Original Starting post for this thread:
So I'm interested in hearing what your thoughts are on texting and sexting the opposite sex partner of couples. Woman texting another couple's Man and vice versa. I have had real issue with this. It makes me feel pursued and makes me uncomfortable with feeling like a woman is pursuing my man outside of our designated playtime. When we tried texting other couples in the lifestyle they all pretty much told us they have no rules for texting. Anything goes! A woman wanted to text my husband and I said alright. I was secure with our relationship. It backfired on me big time! So I'm curious what you all feel and think about it! Why are you okay with it and have no rules, and why are some people (like myself) not okay with it?

Created by: kayned99
Original Starting post for this thread:

So I'm interested in hearing what your thoughts are on texting and sexting the opposite sex partner of couples. Woman texting another couple's Man and vice versa.  I have had real issue with this.  It makes me feel pursued and makes me uncomfortable with feeling like a woman is pursuing my man outside of our designated playtime. When we tried texting other couples in the lifestyle they all pretty much told us they have no rules for texting.  Anything goes!  A woman wanted to text my husband and I said alright. I was secure with our relationship.  It backfired on me big time! 

So I'm curious what you all feel and think about it! Why are you okay with it and have no rules, and why are some people (like myself) not okay with it?

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User Details are only visible to members.	Wife and I both love texting other couple when we first meet. After awhile it does get old but helps us learn more about them. First and formost its about friendship for us not just sex. we share communications daily about what was said which can pay off in the bedroom later. I have one lady i text good morning to every morning changing it up a little. We never text more than 20 words a day yet she says she looks forward to it and i better not forget her lol. its not for everyone but we enjoy it.
Delta PA			Username hidden (124 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I, personally, find sexting to be very boring. If a couple tried doing that with me, I would lose interest, in them. Carrie
Corpus Christi TX			Username hidden (16506 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Liz and I both enjoy flirty texting with other couples.
Toledo OH			Username hidden (1040 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We have found that texting with the other couple can be really fun. I text the guy and hubby texts the woman and sometimes it can get pretty heated. LOL For us...the texting works best when both couples are all on the same page and know and respect each others boundaries. I hope you guys can work this out. No one should have that weird feeling in the pit of their stomach. Talk it out.
Wailuku HI			Username hidden (440 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Good to know ;^D
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (11415 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	doing housework on a sunday afternoon is so much more fun with some flirty texting going on ;) hubby and i don't mind terms of endearment such as sweetie or the like during texting or during meets. PG
Louisville KY			Username hidden (13970 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Welcome the the forum "Funcouplefor2" I do use some of those terms when texting the female of a couple but once again, I fully expect that the husband is reading every text so I would not do that unless he was ok with it. The flip side also means that you should only use those terms if your spouse is aware and is ok with it. Talk about it BEFORE you do it. lol
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (11415 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We have each done the texting thing with couples that we have talked to. But I have a question about something. I'm good with flirty comments and things to build anticipation, but I agree when texts are being hidden or someone is causing ripples in the relationship then it's just plain trashy. What are your thoughts on using affectionate names like baby, babe, sweetie, beautiful, etc. with others even if you don't with your spouse.
Wisconsin Dells WI			Username hidden (50 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I love texting with a select few. All except one are SM's the the non single male its very occasional specially since we won't get to meet up with them again since we aren't doing Jamaica again this year. It builds the anticipation for meeting or between meets. And not all of them are sexual texts but none about the presidential debate. Hubby can read them all if he wants, but I usually give him the highlights. He is not much of a texter although now that he has his blackberry he is texting me more. He teases me when my phone makes its texting ping "so which of your guys is messaging you now" with a cute smile.
Louisville KY			Username hidden (13970 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I don't get the sexting thing. I suppose just like I never really got the phone sex thing. Banging on a tiny screen, trying not to make spelling errors kind of kills the mood, methink. Having said that, nothing is hidden between us, and we are free to text anyone we want.
Colts Neck NJ			Username hidden (12218 post)

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TOPIC: Texting