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User Details are only visible to members.	"I am never purposefully hurtful but you never know what will stick with a child. Ugh, parenting is so fraught with things like this.... " ==== omg, so true! :(
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2999 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I run my mouth a lot more than I should and I have this nagging fear that I will say something silly to my girls and that it will stick with them like PD's name story or being told one was an accident. My dad once said I couldn't carry a tune if I had a bucket, and while it is absolutely true, it sucked the joy of singing right out of me.... I am never purposefully hurtful but you never know what will stick with a child. Ugh, parenting is so fraught with things like this....
Cincinnati OH			Username hidden (3365 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I am a twin, but I was supposed to be a triplet, and my Mom was never told. She miscarried in her fourth month, and figured she was just having one child after that, and four minutes late, there I was. My Mom used to tell the story, and say my name was picked out of thin air. I got the better name, but the way she said it always cut me.
Quakertown PA			Username hidden (1831 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	PS I was 22 and 26 when I had my children. So it's not always about age.
San Antonio TX			Username hidden (6114 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I've always wanted to be a mom. I think a lot of that comes from being given up for adoption, then having a mom who just wasn't a good one. I instinctively, somehow, knew how to be a good mom, and my two sons are the results. Did I make mistakes? Oh yes. But I always loved them, from conception on. Sometimes they drove me crazy, of course, but somehow I just had that mom thing. Maybe being rejected before I was even born, and then just neglected or "made" to feel worthless helped me to know how NOT to be a mom, and I went the other direction. PG, there are children everywhere who need "moms" in their lives, and you do not have to be a biological one to be motherly and show love to someone who needs it. I'm not even talking about adoption; I'm talking about people who just need someone in their lives to show them unconditional love. That will feel any sort of emptiness you may have, or at least it will help a bit. Hugs, Gina
San Antonio TX			Username hidden (6114 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	his father was an abusive alchoholic so i can understand her leaving, but i will never understand her leaving her 2 sons. she was going with another man who didnt want her to bring the boys i guess. she had another son with him.
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (1485 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I do not believe a strong, healthy loving mom 'can' do that. Women who can do that can be very very weak and/or sick. I am so sorry your that happened to your husband.
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2999 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	hubby's mother put him and his brother in a cab and sent them to his grandfathers house when he was 5. he only recently had contact with her right before she died. i could never understand how any mother could do that. when i was divorcing my 1st husband i lost custody of my 1st son for 9 months and it just about killed me. i would have fought for the rest of my life to get him back.
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (1485 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I'm sorry for those who have wanted to have children, but cannot. But I also applaud those who have chosen not to. Years ago, families were much bigger, (my dad is one of 15 children, and yes, they were all fucked up in some sort of way!!) but women were home more, and had family and neighbors and much larger support systems, so it all 'seemed' easier.... Now, women are working just as hard or as much as men, and how they raise families too ....is a miracle to me. It is so stressful, emotionally, physically and financially, I don't know how it can all be done. It is not joy after joy, day after day.... that's for sure. I love my kids more than MY LIFE and could not imagine it without them... but let me tell you.... the 'worry alone' has sucked the life right out of me! ....their safety, the food we feed them, the air they breathe, the cribs we lie them in, the position we lie them in, the places we take them, the schools we send them too, the friends they choose, the cars they drive, what we allow them to do, what we dont allow them to do....................it never freakin ends. (and that paragraph alone could go on forever) ...and that doesnt even begin the discussion of all the things we need to teach them.... from day 1 until we die. I do believe children are gifts, but I dont believe everyone deserves this gift either or do i believe that anyone can fulfill the resposibilities of this gift... it is not something that should be decided on a whim, or by nagging family members or for any other reason other than you are willing to sacrifice your life for this gift. forever. eesh...
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2999 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Good question... But the answer proves elusive. It could be the pressure from the family to be grandparents. Society plays a role too. Yes, people do talk about happy aspects of being a parent. But you don't see commercials advertising how miserable you might feel while pregnant. You don't see how young parents struggle to raise a child. No one really tells you how expensive it will be. Having a child on a whim? That is beyond immature and selfish to me... Do these young women think it is the same as having a toy? Well, I guess I will never comprehend that fully since I don't have children myself. But it really makes me think why I need a license to fish, hunt or drive but I don't need a license to bring a new life into this world. Of course many women get pregnant as a result of birth control failure... Or lack thereof. Hell, my own mother told me that both me and my sister were accidents lol. And then she went to say that if she were smarter, she WOULD NOT HAVE EITHER OF US. I remember being 15 at that time. See, 16 years later I still remember how she hurt me with these words. That's when I knew I would never have any children. I saw how my mother fought to raise my sister, and my sister was no angel. I remember helping my mom with my sister and I hated it, especially in the perspective of what she told me. I just could not see myself having children and possibly feel the way my mother felt about us back then. Now I know that she said these words in a moment of depression and desperation, but I never forgot. Anyway, I am proud of my decision of not having any children and being true to myself. I still encounter people who look at me like I am some kind of freak when I tell them I don't have children. Maybe that is why some women choose to have children - to avoid being singled out? I even heard someone say that a woman without children must be really unattractive, no guy wants to fuck her... All I can say to that is that I can't complain about the lack of attention ;)
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