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As a generation of men are growing up with virtual sex lives, their real-life partners are becoming increasingly unhappy, a new study finds. Specifically, young women with porn-loving partners feel they just can't measure up to Jenna Jameson—or whoever happens to tickle their man's fancy. Destin Stewart is a clinical psychology intern at the University of Florida. After her clients began complaining about pornography use in their relationships, Stewart decided to study exactly how porn use is affecting those relationships. She surveyed 308 college women (ages 18 to 29) and asked them about their current partner's pornography habits. She also wanted the women's perspectives on their relationship quality, sexual satisfaction and self-esteem. Stewart found that the ladies who reported their partners looked at porn more frequently were not only less happy with their relationships, they also had less self-esteem and were less satisfied with their sex lives. Stewart told LiveScience that when some women discovered pornographic material on their partner's computer, it made them "feel like they were not good enough, like they could not measure up." While one might argue that the men weren't there to confirm their habits in the study, it's apparent that pornography is negatively affecting an increasing number of relationships. Psychiatrist Norman Doidge studied the effects of porn use in his patients and then reported the findings in his book, The Brain Changes Itself: "They reported increasing difficulty in being turned on by their actual sexual partners, spouses or girlfriends, though they still considered them objectively attractive." Doidge wrote about his patients. "When I asked if this phenomenon had any relationship to viewing pornography, they answered that it initially helped them get more excited during sex, but over time had the opposite effect." Stewart says that when porn becomes a problem in relationships, she advises women not to compare themselves to porn stars. She also urges couples to communicate and compromise. "It's just about trying to do some education about what is realistic and unrealistic and trying to get couples to be honest about what their wants and needs and desires are," Stewart said. As much as we women would love our men to only have eyes for us, let's face it. As long as there are women willing to do anything, everything and put it out there for the world to see, men are going to look. But Aristotle said to seek moderation in all things, and while I don’t think he was referring to watching online porn, it's not bad advice.

Created by: Nkenswing
Original Starting post for this thread:

As a generation of men are growing up with virtual sex lives, their real-life partners are becoming increasingly unhappy, a new study finds. Specifically, young women with porn-loving partners feel they just can't measure up to Jenna Jameson—or whoever happens to tickle their man's fancy.
 
Destin Stewart is a clinical psychology intern at the University of Florida. After her clients began complaining about pornography use in their relationships, Stewart decided to study exactly how porn use is affecting those relationships.
 
She surveyed 308 college women (ages 18 to 29) and asked them about their current partner's pornography habits. She also wanted the women's perspectives on their relationship quality, sexual satisfaction and self-esteem. Stewart found that the ladies who reported their partners looked at porn more frequently were not only less happy with their relationships, they also had less self-esteem and were less satisfied with their sex lives.
 
Stewart told LiveScience that when some women discovered pornographic material on their partner's computer, it made them "feel like they were not good enough, like they could not measure up."
 
While one might argue that the men weren't there to confirm their habits in the study, it's apparent that pornography is negatively affecting an increasing number of relationships. Psychiatrist Norman Doidge studied the effects of porn use in his patients and then reported the findings in his book, The Brain Changes Itself:
 
"They reported increasing difficulty in being turned on by their actual sexual partners, spouses or girlfriends, though they still considered them objectively attractive." Doidge wrote about his patients. "When I asked if this phenomenon had any relationship to viewing pornography, they answered that it initially helped them get more excited during sex, but over time had the opposite effect."
 
Stewart says that when porn becomes a problem in relationships, she advises women not to compare themselves to porn stars. She also urges couples to communicate and compromise.
 
"It's just about trying to do some education about what is realistic and unrealistic and trying to get couples to be honest about what their wants and needs and desires are," Stewart said.
 
As much as we women would love our men to only have eyes for us, let's face it. As long as there are women willing to do anything, everything and put it out there for the world to see, men are going to look. But Aristotle said to seek moderation in all things, and while I don’t think he was referring to watching online porn, it's not bad advice.

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User Details are only visible to members.	ROFLMAO @ Lost! Girl, you are so damn funny! I/we enjoy watching porn but haven't seen the fem produced stuff yet. I'll have to give it a try. ;-D
Sheboygan Falls WI			Username hidden (7067 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	the femme based porn does make more sense and at least attempts a plot line.......i just dont like the view from behind balls slapping hard core porn haahahaha. I did get femme porn and it was nice...but at some point i was like OMG ENOUGH MAKING LOVE FUCK THE BITCH OMG OMG THIS IS TAKING FOREVER!!!! and....why do the women smile so much in femme porn, am I the only one that notices this shit LOL?? If I were fucking a woman and she kept smiling at me like that id be like ummm do i have a boog or something you are freaking me the fuck out here.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23750 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	neither of us are porn watchers. Porn is a great way to get me out of the mood. Hubby would prefer to watch what we have recorded of me with others on the rare occasion he feels like watching any of it.
Louisville KY			Username hidden (14163 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	@Mario... i knew that. lol! ...so is that a good Hmmmmm or a not sure Hmmmmm ?
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2999 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	LOL! ...so sorry to hear that Fun. :(
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2999 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Whenever I let a couple use me to make amateur porn, the next morning I feel so . . . used.
Belle Chasse LA			Username hidden (8678 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	When we were younger we would watch a lot of porn,not so much anymore,(once you have seen an asshole big enough to drive a mac truck into that's about all you need) now if we watch any kind of porn it soft porn or female produced,The action just seems a little more real.
Dallas TX			Username hidden (2225 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	the only time porn, or the watching of it, bothers me is if i am not being fucked. because if you aren't fucking me and you are watching people fuck on tv you really want to own a broken ass dvd. The cats dont even fuck in this house if I am not getting laid lol. That must be why they have been going outside alot lately.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23750 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I could not imagine having ass implants. Having so much body weight sitting on an implant seems disturbingly uncomfortable to me and I would be scared to death to fall on my ass. I wonder how odd they must feel. Thank goodness my husband is an ass man. I have no shortage of ass! :-0 But I understand how it might feel not to have enough ass (in a woman's own opinion).
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2999 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	The grass is greener on the other side eh? I hate my ass. I'm not one of those women that takes a bite out of a burger then pinches her mid section and says, hey, look, it's right there. I'm brutally honest and highly critical about my body. Ass is not one of my best features, never has been. Thankfully, I married a man who prefers a smaller ass.
Colts Neck NJ			Username hidden (12717 post)

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