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SB, I agree with you to a degree. My hyst was in 1987 at the age of 34. I was on oral estrogen but no testosterone. I completely lost my sex drive. I had sex with my husband because I felt like should. I absolutely never had any desire to masturbate, watch any kind of porn, use a toy, do oral sex. I didn't hate it because I remember that at one time I liked it. I just couldn't feel anything physically and there was no desire. I got so old.

Fast forward to getting pellets. About 48 hours after my first insert, I woke at 2am and felt like my clit took over my body. I had to get up and for the first time in years, masturbated. It was incredible.

I would say that if 0 is no interest and 10 is orgasm, I spent most days about a 5-7. I actually had an orgasm riding in a Suburban down a mountain highway just sitting and not even doing anything. Surprised the heck out of me!

My libido soared through the roof. I wanted sex all day, everyday. I couldn't get enough. I searched online for "sex after 50" and was amazed at what I found. I discovered a site called bettersex dot com. I had never even heard of a rabbit before. Between 2005 and 2007 I bought so much stuff, I got a handsigned Christmas card from the customer service dept there!

I also started watching porn, particulary FF porn. That fueled my desire to be with a woman. I kept that to myself as my husband at the time wasn't open to the idea.

I also started getting younger looking. I thought younger, felt younger and was basically a whole new person.

Testosterone not only changed my body, it changed my personality (for the better), I got more confident. It was truly amazing.

I know hundreds of women in various menopause/hysterectomies groups that had testosterone/estrogen affect their sex drive like me.

Here is a list of symptoms for Low E and Low T.

Symptoms of Low/No Estrogen: • Anxiety (inner restlessness, feeling panicky) • Bladder problems (difficulty in urinating, increased need to urinate, bladder incontinence) • Bone loss • Depressive mood (feeling down, sad, on the verge of tears, lack of drive, mood swings.) • Dry Skin • Dryness of vagina (sensation of dryness or burning in the vagina, difficulty with sexual intercourse • Foggy thinking • Headaches / migraines • Heart discomfort (unusual awareness of heart beat, heart skipping, heart racing, tightness) • Hot flashes, sweating (episodes of sweating) • Irritability (feeling nervous, inner tension, feeling aggressive, I want to slap my husband silly) • Joint and muscular discomfort (pain in the joints, rheumatoid complaints) • Night Sweats • Physical and mental exhaustion (general decrease in performance, impaired memory, decrease in concentration, forgetfulness) • Sexual problems (change in sexual desire, in sexual activity and satisfaction) • Sleep problems (difficulty in falling asleep, difficulty in sleeping through the night, waking up early

Symptoms of Low/No Testosterone include: • Blunted motivation • Bone loss • Decreased libido • Decreased orgasmic response • Decreased sensitivity of breast and genital tissues • Depression • Diminished feeling of well being • Diminished sexual pleasure • Fatigue, prolonged • Fibromyalgia • General aches/pains • Heart palpitations • Incontinence • Loss or thinning of pubic hair • Low energy • Memory problems • Mental fuzziness • Muscle weakness • Thinning skin • Vaginal dryness

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Who's ass smells like a dog?

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Unless she had to have her pussy replaced after the accident, I can't fathom why you've avoided your wife for over 3 years. Sad, really, but then you eat pussy like no one else. You've. Been. Told.

Any chance your wife's ass smells like a dog's? Amazing.

I think this dood is the typical SM who everyone complains about.

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Green, Thank you and you may "steal" it if thats stealing. People are always looking for a quick fix, a pill and exercise, anything . If they invested as much time searching their their hearts and minds as they did looking for a quick cure all they'd be far more content, happier and sexually active. Pills, exercise, diet changes are all needed I understand that but they aren't going to FIX YOU or as you said your relationship. After a certain age sex starts in the mind, desire at any age always starts in the mind and all the Physical stimulation in the world is not going to help if your heart/mind isn't into it or open to receiving it. Mrs Sav

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Some people are as caring and nurturing as wallpaper.

I find reading some of this disturbing. We have had our trails and tribulations over the past 2 years from a few major events, to my wife having Major surgery on her neck. That being Said there was a point where her drive was lacking... That being said I respected her mood, and change in her drive, during the time we spent working on returning everything to normal I never thought about MY Sex life. I knew in time things would progress to where we were. It drives me nuts to see people ( most times men ) who blame it on thier partner, What about the vows you took presumably when you were married? were they just words?

If it is a lacking relationship why cheat? Why not get a divorce? Don't tell me you love your partner,because if you did, you wouldn't cheat on them!!!

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oh by the way my wife will have sex if i ask for it.but i have not made a move on her in over 3 years

so your wife will have sex with you but you would rather cheat on her and have it with someone else. ok, got it.

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hump wrote: my wife will have sex if i ask for it.but i have not made a move on her in over 3 years and nothing has happened.

So what are you waiting for? Your wife is recovering from major surgery on limbs injured during an accident, you say. Are you waiting for her to make the moves on you? Just because she was insatiable in the past doesn't mean that she or anyone else could maintain that level of horniness after major trauma, and maybe she needs you to let her know you are attracted to her. Give a lot of compassion, give more of yourself to her than you ever thought you would have to since she may honestly need it right now, and your marriage just might be happier.

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oh by the way my wife will have sex if i ask for it.but i have not made a move on her in over 3 years and nothing has happened. two knee replacements and 1 hip replacement is why she is disabled due to accident

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Sav, "A body not functioning correctly is more easily fix than a heart that no longer cares to."

EXCELLENT! May I steal that quote?

When I work with women and hormones and they still have issues, I try to figure out what else is wrong and tell them that no amount of testosterone/estrogen is going to fix a bad marriage. They give our bodies the ability to become aroused and orgasm and yes, even want sex. But it doesn't fix the emotional feelings of love and trust.

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Hump,

I assure you there is more going on here than a hysterectomy that is causing lack of desire. Perhaps the fact you are here looking for playmates might have something to do with it. A body not functioning correctly is more easily fix than a heart that no longer cares to. Before you blame the surgery some deep looking onto your relationship is in order.

Mrs Sav

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