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Bio identical hormones have helped me as I go thru peri menopause. Found a great Dr in my area. Feeling great, lost weight, sleep better!

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Southern, A woman's choice to have a hysterectomy is very personal and she usually received lots of information. What is not freely given, are the many side effects from having one.

TAH-BSO which is what you will be having is basically the same as a man having his testicles and prostate removed. So you can imagine the symptoms of no estrogen and testosterone.

You will be slammed into surgical menopause pretty much immediately. I agree, get on the patch or some kind of hormone quickly. However, remember that estrogen does not work alone. We need Testosterone to be in balance with estrogen.

Imagine a car with the oil but no gas. No matter how long, how hard you push on the gas pedal (clit) or how much you wish the car would go, it won't. It has no gas (testosterone).

Please do NOT let your doctor try to convince you that you do not need testosterone. It's simply not true. So, I recommend getting Estrogen and Testosterone in the form of creams, gels, troches, sublinguals or pellets as soon as you are healed and are able.

Please email me if you want more information or want to join my bioidentical hormone yahoo group or FB group. You will find wonderful support from many women.

Good luck. Take care of yourself, let your family and friends pamper you and do for you. You are having major surgery that will take time to heal and you need plenty of rest and support.

Just remember, sex can be better than ever and you can feel better than ever after hysterectomy as long let yourself heal properly, take care of yourself and you give your body the hormones it needs.

Again, please don't hesitate to email me for information or support.

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Well I got to choose my partial hysterectomy years ago because of another physical problem in that area... It was the BEST thing I ever did... Not sure how things would be different if I had ovaries removed but I luved not having the PMS anymore... Not sure on the sex cuz did not have a good marriage then....

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Some of your posts made me have tears (no Akron, not Hump's) in my eyes.

I'm also stealing the quote.

This is a good subject and a good way to weed out about love/sex/times of abstainance and times of reconnection. Thanks. i understand now why sometimes my husband is very gentle with his approaches; it's out of respect for whatever weird thing I'm going through, or have been through, not out of lack of desire for me. We talked about this extensively after my mom and one of my best friend's died. I kind of pulled away a bit, as he did also when his mom died. It's self protection: you don't want to think about also losing the very person who means the most to you, so you pull away a bit. We understood that with each other. The strange thing about that is that that's when I need sex/touch/desire the most but didn't, at the time, know how to express that. Now I do. And now I'm not afraid to.

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CHI...I'm glad the hyst was a positive experience for you. Leaving your ovaries allowed you to continue to enjoy the many benefits of estrogen and testosterone. It sounds like you had a great doctor that was experienced in sparing the nerves. Many times, even though the ovaries are left in, there is nerve damage and they don't function well and quit producing E and T. You are one of the lucky ones.

I'm glad I had the hyst too. I just wish doctors were better about recognizing the need for Testosterone as well as Estrogen. I might have avoided a 16 year period of of getting old and not caring about sex. Thank goodness that time is over!

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Well Hump, I must share this with you. Many years ago my brother-in-law's (then) wife died of MS. As the story came out to Bacchus and I while helping the immediate and long term grief, he hadn't touched her in several years. Not her wiliness, his was the issue. However, the last couple years of her life, he touched someone else. She died, he did really love her, poof!!! he spent the next few years impotent. Funny how life works.

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I had a partial hysterectomy to get back to the subject. It did not change my sex drive, did not change sex with my husband (or others). Every now and then, since I kept the ovaries, there is a small and I mean small amount of discomfort. The size of a pin head tiny. I asked the hubby after the first time if it felt any different to him, he said no. I believe some women get it in there head they are no longer a woman. I am a better woman. I can fuck ANYTIME I want. I can travel anytime I want. I can sleep through the night. I don't need to pass on a good date night. It is the best thing I ever did for myself. I am still horny all the fucking time. What it didn't do was get rid of that little poof of a stomach from when I was pregnant. PBLTH. Again, no regrets at all, best thing I ever did. Best of luck with it!

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Greeneyes- Your husband handled his life and relationship with his wife as he should have. I can't Fathom the lack of respect, blatantly at that. As I have read somewhere before - Karma is a Bitch.

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Looking.....you hit the nail on the head.

My husband was married to a woman he loved dearly for 32 years. For 11 years she fought a battle with breast and ovarian cancer until she passed away in 2005.

After she was diagnosed, life became about HER, not him and certainly not his sex drive. Especially the last couple years when every month they did something special if she was able. Friends came to visit. If she was feeling ok, they took trips. Life was about her and making the last years of her life the best they could be. (Now you might have an idea why I love him so much).

I have absolutely no respect for any human that treats with such selfish regard, the person they supposedly love and made vows to. If one needs a release, masturbate.

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SB, I agree with you to a degree. My hyst was in 1987 at the age of 34. I was on oral estrogen but no testosterone. I completely lost my sex drive. I had sex with my husband because I felt like should. I absolutely never had any desire to masturbate, watch any kind of porn, use a toy, do oral sex. I didn't hate it because I remember that at one time I liked it. I just couldn't feel anything physically and there was no desire. I got so old.

Fast forward to getting pellets. About 48 hours after my first insert, I woke at 2am and felt like my clit took over my body. I had to get up and for the first time in years, masturbated. It was incredible.

I would say that if 0 is no interest and 10 is orgasm, I spent most days about a 5-7. I actually had an orgasm riding in a Suburban down a mountain highway just sitting and not even doing anything. Surprised the heck out of me!

My libido soared through the roof. I wanted sex all day, everyday. I couldn't get enough. I searched online for "sex after 50" and was amazed at what I found. I discovered a site called bettersex dot com. I had never even heard of a rabbit before. Between 2005 and 2007 I bought so much stuff, I got a handsigned Christmas card from the customer service dept there!

I also started watching porn, particulary FF porn. That fueled my desire to be with a woman. I kept that to myself as my husband at the time wasn't open to the idea.

I also started getting younger looking. I thought younger, felt younger and was basically a whole new person.

Testosterone not only changed my body, it changed my personality (for the better), I got more confident. It was truly amazing.

I know hundreds of women in various menopause/hysterectomies groups that had testosterone/estrogen affect their sex drive like me.

Here is a list of symptoms for Low E and Low T.

Symptoms of Low/No Estrogen: • Anxiety (inner restlessness, feeling panicky) • Bladder problems (difficulty in urinating, increased need to urinate, bladder incontinence) • Bone loss • Depressive mood (feeling down, sad, on the verge of tears, lack of drive, mood swings.) • Dry Skin • Dryness of vagina (sensation of dryness or burning in the vagina, difficulty with sexual intercourse • Foggy thinking • Headaches / migraines • Heart discomfort (unusual awareness of heart beat, heart skipping, heart racing, tightness) • Hot flashes, sweating (episodes of sweating) • Irritability (feeling nervous, inner tension, feeling aggressive, I want to slap my husband silly) • Joint and muscular discomfort (pain in the joints, rheumatoid complaints) • Night Sweats • Physical and mental exhaustion (general decrease in performance, impaired memory, decrease in concentration, forgetfulness) • Sexual problems (change in sexual desire, in sexual activity and satisfaction) • Sleep problems (difficulty in falling asleep, difficulty in sleeping through the night, waking up early

Symptoms of Low/No Testosterone include: • Blunted motivation • Bone loss • Decreased libido • Decreased orgasmic response • Decreased sensitivity of breast and genital tissues • Depression • Diminished feeling of well being • Diminished sexual pleasure • Fatigue, prolonged • Fibromyalgia • General aches/pains • Heart palpitations • Incontinence • Loss or thinning of pubic hair • Low energy • Memory problems • Mental fuzziness • Muscle weakness • Thinning skin • Vaginal dryness

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