wow... you just got me wanting to be one of the guys in that room and im not even a guy!!! ;) lol... hmm... i agree this is not a tit for tat thing, those seem to be his boundaries for now... but it is unfortunate that only one of you is really getting what they desire. ....not sure if this is anything helpful, but i always had realllllllly tight boundaries, and it wasnt until my husband started sharing his fantasy's with me, especially during sex, that i really started loosening up. It was always about a fmf, and he got me thinking and wanting that like crazy. ....he was also always reluctant towards a mfm, which was fine by me, one new sex was good enough. lol, but lately.... he is rethinking this and getting very turned on by it.... and too, sharing these new fantasys with me... and now i freakin want that too! so for whatever reasons, his turn ons have turned me on. (...and now i am very busy thinking of more of my own btw) so I'm wondering if that could work in reverse for you. (or him) ....are you sharing enough of your fantasys with him? ....and is he 'reluctant' or 'dead against it'? gee... you sound very passionate about this!! i hope it can be something you both can come to terms with and get to experience. :)

Having posted my feelings in writing, I now understand my own question. There really is not a question, only a statement. My husband and I communicate well, but he just can't wrap his head around me getting pleasure from another man. I must accept this, for now, I can not force someone to do something they are not ready for. Tit for tat does not apply in this situation... Why do women want two men? For me... when I am sucking a cock(worshiping a cock... using my tongue, my lips, my mind... it is the most important thing in the world) To get fucked while worshiping a cock with my mouth would be fantastic.... as long as it was about ME. No gang fuck, just NICE, SENSUAL sex. Now I am just being descriptive... I never knew why i liked having my face fucked... but I think of my mouth being my pussy with eyes.. I love it. With two cocks I could get fucked and have the visual. Just sayin. Anyone else? Love to read comments. I show my hubby too. Thanks.

From the tagline, your husband is more than willing to do fmf, but not mfm. Everyone has their own preferences; however, they need to be your preferences also. If not, your really not swinging, he's just got his cake and eating it too. Let him know that you did not get into this only to make him happy, but yourself as well. If he still won't go for you being with another man, get out. This lifestyle can hurt a couple if your not on the same page.

the only thing I can suggest is that you sit down with your bf and have an honest conversation about the fact that you crave having sex with other men as well as other women. I cannot really suggest anything other than that, sitting with him and having a good talk.

oh, welcome to the forums! :)

i'm not sure i understand the question...

Fun with females is fun but I get off getting men off. I never climax with people, but alone with fantasies... is incredible. I don't necessarily want two men .... but i want the strange ( one-night-stand) I could get off for months with the memory, it's not the sex or the size... it's the memory. I can't climax with a man or a women but I can do it all on my own.... It's worth it. I need the fantasies... boyfriend won't be with a women without me and other men are not in the subject... as of now... any suggestions? Sex chat is boring... done that.