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TOPIC: Dealing with an unprofessional person in a professional environment

Created by: frnznluvers2 Original Starting post for this thread:
I have a professional job in a predominantly male industry. I interact with all levels of people daily, from the blue collar hourly workers to upper level management. I have always prided myself on being able to interact professionally, and courteously while dealing with many different personalities over my 18 year career...some more difficult than others, and at times have had to hold my head up despite being on the verge of tears because of my thin skin, but always remaining professional. After 18 years, I feel I have encountered my biggest challenge. A mid-level manager, who so far I have only dealt with via phone/email, has proven to be brash, rude, nasty, demeaning, and I believe may have an issue with females in the industry. To make it worse, in the next months I will be traveling to spend quite a bit of time with him, as it is my job to train him on a new software program. The very last thing I want to do is run to my boss or HR to cry harassment or anything like that (unless it got completely out of hand of course). So, since I tend to be the one to cower down against such people, I would like to know how some of you would handle this. Try to kill him with kindness. Attempt to give it back to him. Just muddle through and attempt to do my job the best I can regardless of how crappy he makes me feel. I would really like to try to deal with this on my own if at all possible.

Created by: frnznluvers2
Original Starting post for this thread:

I have a professional job in a predominantly male industry.  I interact with all levels of people daily, from the blue collar hourly workers to upper level management.  I have always prided myself on being able to interact professionally, and courteously while dealing with many different personalities over my 18 year career...some more difficult than others, and at times have had to hold my head up despite being on the verge of tears because of my thin skin, but always remaining professional.  After 18 years, I feel I have encountered my biggest challenge. A mid-level manager, who so far I have only dealt with via phone/email, has proven to be brash, rude, nasty, demeaning, and I believe may have an issue with females in the industry.  To make it worse, in the next months I will be traveling to spend quite a bit of time with him, as it is my job to train him on a new software program.  The very last thing I want to do is run to my boss or HR to cry harassment or anything like that (unless it got completely out of hand of course). So, since I tend to be the one to cower down against such people, I would like to know how some of you would handle this.  Try to kill him with kindness.  Attempt to give it back to him. Just muddle through and attempt to do my job the best I can regardless of how crappy he makes me feel. I would really like to try to deal with this on my own if at all possible.

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User Details are only visible to members.	Glad to hear it ended well, frnz! It may be that this rude guy will be let go eventually because he has proven himself incapable of adapting to new technology and learning how to use it. His skills are quickly becoming obsolete.
Sheboygan Falls WI			Username hidden (6979 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	FrnzNlvrz - sounds like the plant manager has no balls. But in the end, it was best for you and definitely best for everyone else learning. Sucks that they have to take on extra work cuz the guy was a tool.
Amherst OH			Username hidden (2271 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I forgot to post about it! So, i went into the training session yesterday morning, and the rude guy wasn't there. I proceeded with the class, and it was peaceful, and went very well. Afterwards, the plant manager, the one who apologized to me the day before for his employee's behavior, came up to me to tell me that he decided to let the other people learning the system absorb the rude guys portion of the job that requires the software I am teaching, so he no longer required the training. I disagree with how he handled the situation as this guy's only "repercussion" was to not have to do something he really didn't want to do in the first place. But in the end, I don't have to deal with him anymore, so I'm not complaining! Thanks for asking!
Apollo PA			Username hidden (741 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Wondering how the rest of the week went?
Grafton MA			Username hidden (25 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Certainly no impulses running in that direction. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
New Orleans LA			Username hidden (4162 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	If you had impulse control problems, BT, then you would have to change your second letter to a J.
San Antonio TX			Username hidden (6064 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Gina, at least when you're teaching 7th graders, you know they're dealing with issues of hormone and impulse control. That kind of crap from adults is just plain wrong. Then again, I guess I have impulse control issues and that's why I'm here ;-)
New Orleans LA			Username hidden (4162 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	sounds like the 7th grade kids I used to substitute teach
San Antonio TX			Username hidden (6064 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Thanks all! This is where my "thin skin" hurts me, although I do feel confident I stood my ground pretty well! So right after I typed my post, the plant manager of the facility comes in and apologizes for his supervisor's actions and attitude, and says he will speak with him.. but kind of came across like he is worried to say too much to him cause he is the most experienced supervisor he has and it seems he doesn't want to piss him off! Oh good God...is it Friday yet???
Apollo PA			Username hidden (741 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	When he repeats critisism of the system, remind him that the time to offer his opinion on what system to use has passed and if the company hadn't sought out his expert advice during the evaluation process, they are unlikely to welcome his input now.
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (11414 post)

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