Welcome to the forums panjcpl! :)

It's actually really encouraging to see the happy couples on here who are so comitted to each other --- we know so many who are not at all happy, but who are staying together either b/c they have young kids and want to keep the family together or with the bad economy and people out of work that they just can't afford to get a divorce. Very much understand not wanting to be lied to and being concerned of an angry spouse - but agree that happens pretty rarely unless you are in the movies!

It's not a matter of morality. If someone is willing to do that to the person who is supposed to be the most important one in their life, then that tells me they're a bad person. I do not want a bad person mixed up in my life.

You can pick and choose who you want. I will never knowingly play with a married woman cheating. I'm not going to lecture her or bother her, but I am not going to help them.

Zounds! Is this the Moral Majority here? The moralising that goes on in these forums is simply absurd. It is none of my business as to whether a woman is cheating or not. If you are honestly that concerned about a husband gunning you down, you need to stay in your rabbithole and never peek out. Do you dare to eat a peach? I would suggest you look up risk profiles and get a realistic figure for the comparative risks of death by jealous husband versus driving your car down the road. I have had coitus interruptus by unexpected husbands on several occasions. Not once has any animosity been directed toward me. The problem with the Unicorn profiles is that they to have more fakes (by design) and flakes then even the supposed single men. Many, yes, are married and so have the same issues on trying to actually meet as the married "single" men as expressed everywhere. They can meet only during the day while hubby is at work and the kids in school. I don't really have any issue with those at all. Many others; however, are not swingers at all but trying to enter a relationship by posing as an oversexed nympho when in reality sex is not going to happen until the same prolonged bullshit dating as though they were on a vanilla site. But overwhelmingly the issue is on other sites - this one does a remarkable job on not promoting fake profiles - nearly every single woman is a fake profile created by the owners of the site to lure in more paying consumers. This is the true scourge of the single women profiles, in my opinion. I prefer well married over single but cheating is not an aspect that enters into the equation.

Separation is understandable, I respect that you don't put all of your business on front street, and state so to the person when the time is right. However there are single women on here that do, and state up front they need to be discrete, because they are married and hubby doesn't know. I don't care how hot the woman is. I'm not trying to be there 3rd wheel when the Cheaters cam shows up. Or better yet, when the hubby suspects something and he goes out and follows her where she is going. I value my life over the lifestyle.

Angelina could cheat with me, but I'd rather have Jennifer.

It's not my responsibility, but if I know or strongly suspect it, no way.

Found myself with a single female at a party last Saturday. Found out the next day she's not single at all and is sneaking around on her husband. Not looking forward to seeing her at a future party.

Once I start communicating with someone, I am very up front and honest about my circumstances. I am married but we have been seperated for almost 4 years. We live on opposite sides of the state and dont even talk every month. We are still friends and have our reasons for not pursuing a divorce yet. If this means someone doesn't want to meet me, I respect that decision. Do I put all of that in my profile? No. I suppose I consider it too personal and complicated for just a blanket sentence there. However, I always disclose it before ever meeting someone in person. I suggest that if this is an issue for you , that you ask the lady before meeting her in person. I know that I always ask Single Men...

I agree Sav its a double standard. The reprecussions of being caught is the same however.
I can't put myself in harm's way in having lifestyle fun. Nobody should. There's married but cheating personals sites for that. It shouldn't be condoned here.