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TOPIC: letting wife play solo; advice
Created by: GypsyAngelEyes
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Well, I don't think you understand what exactly we mean, the others and I.

It's simple. And you admit this in part. Allowing both partners in a couple to play with others separately regularly opens up a whole new world of experiences, both physical and emotional and it makes the physical (sex) oh so much more intense.

That is not the one time or two that you mention. If the male and the female in the couple are free to play with others who from time to time turn them on, well it's simply sexual heaven. And OK, if say I find a guy who turns me on so much and I want to have encounters with him and the sex and the romance are great, then so what... let it be. That's the point of being open to others, to enhance your own experience in ways I could not with my regular partner.

People in the lifestyle who have not reached this level simply don't know what a sublime bliss this is. I feel that most in the lifestyle never reach this level just out of FEAR and I feel sorry for them, but that's the way it is.

Listen, why don't you leave your fears behind and open yourself to others and new and unpredictable experiences which may lead to unknown and unanticipated ends? You have to have the 'courage' or be suficiently uninhibited to let yourself and your partner go and live the lifestyle to its fullest.

Anyone who tries it will experience the highest sexual pleasure plus the most intense feelings. It's all good and great. Nothing to fear or worry about.

But from your posting I don't feel you understand any of this.

Michelle

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Every couple who tries swinging is opening a Pandora's box, no matter how secure they believe their relationship to be. Most couples find it thrilling, exciting and liberating at the outset, but one spouse will invariably enjoy it more and want it more often than the other spouse. Sometimes it can make the other spouse get cool toward swinging, sometimes it can heat things up. It's a crossroads many couples find themselves facing. My 1st wife asked for a hall pass once while I was readying for 5 day business trip. Our daughter was going to be with her grandparents in Florida that same week.She was open and honest in telling me that there were two of our bi mfm partners she wanted to fuck again and it was a perfect time for her to do it. Both were well hung and we'd all had a great time in our 3somes and they both were literally begging her for another meeting, with me or without. Her plan was to invite them both for a 3some with her. Hell I would have enjoyed a mmm 3some with them myself ! I got an instant erection and agreed, with the condition she would video itand watch it with me when I got home. The deal was struck LOL She didn't succeed in getting them both for a 3some, but she did suck and screw them separately in our bed on consecutive nights. The videos were better than any porn videos we'd ever watched together. Our sex life and our swing life continued to be hot and often and she never asked to swing alone again, although I probably wouldn't have said no. Everytime we watched that video, sometimes with male partners, she thanked me for letting her scratch her itch, then commenced sucking and fucking my/our brains out. Bottom line is I trusted her and knew she was not looking for love from other men, just hot sex. If you trust your wife in that way, let her scratch her itch.

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Great, she did it! Yes, now how does she feel about it?

We've heard from the hubby, what about hearing from HER and how good she feels about doing it overnight one-on-one. It would be great to hear from HER, after all she's the one doing it!

Michelle

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Well, I see from the postings that she did it. Great! I'm sure she is feeling good about it and you should too. It's a big jump, from Level 1 to Level 5 which is spending an overnight with a guy.

I wonder what Michelle would have to say now that the overnight did take place. I'm so glad she went for it. From now on she'll probably continue tasting other guys one-on-one overnight and having great fun. Sometime it takes a little encouragement to jump from one level to another and likeURIAH said, it's the woman's decision and nobody else'sin the end. But the encouragement that Michelle provided I'm sure helped both of them free themselves of the usual inhibitions that most swingers carry, that a woman cannot have overnight sex with a guy alone without their regular partner.

Well done. Keep up the great fun!

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There you go Gypsy.....that's the purpose of sharing opinions and information. Read it, use it or ignore it as you will, dowhat feels right for you and your spouse in your personal situation. In the end,the only opinions that matter anyway are yours and your spouse, it's your life.

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When she gets back, she could share her experience with all here at the forums so that the skeptics can hear it from the horses mouth.. lol...lol... Yeah, she could come out and tell us if it was hot fun or not. I'm sure she'll be in seventh heaven!

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Well, yes, now I know that she is having hot fun with the guy and that he turns her on. That's the way to go! Let her be free and have her first hot night with a guy out. From my point of view you should also be out having your fun.

Michelle

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Your post is not clear... is she with the couple (both of them) or just with the guy?

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Well toh as we speak , she is 100 miles away with her knew fwb man, he and I actully talked and he is not looking for commitment, he is in lifestyle and he( i am hubsband of gypsyangeleyes)and I have gotten along. they did send a picture of them out togeter and she called me,so I know where they are staying. She said she was very excited and feeling naughty, and nervous, she has not been with a man alone in 14 years.. so I told her have a great time, do not call and see her tomorrow, yes a different feeling, thanks for all the advice, I believe Michelle has had the best advice.

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thn, that's the way you think and that's fine with me but I'm surely different than you in all aspects.

Well, maybe when I get older, my mind may change but I doubt it. We are both in the "lifestyle" but in different parts of it. I'm at a different level than you and I like that explanation the woman from Hawaii gave in her posting though I don't agree with everything she said, but the levels make a lot of sense.

I plan to stay married to my present hubby for a long time. Now, lets say that tomorrow I meet someone who is 'better' and we fall in love... What then? OK, in that case I'd wait and see how things develop and maybe we'll reach a point when we both want to live with each other. At this point I may have to make a decision to leave my current hubby and go with my new love. That can happen. I would feel comfortable with this decision. But that would be best for everyone, for me, of course, and my current hubby and my lover. So everyone would benefit.

However at this point I have no plans to leave my preent hubby. We are OK. I'm having a fun life and I let him be free when we are not together. He also lets me be free, and play with any others as much as I wish.

So what's so wrong with all that???

I feel it's great. For me it's the best possible life in the lifestyle.

Michelle

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