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TOPIC: letting wife play solo; advice
Created by: GypsyAngelEyes
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we are secure couple getting back into lifestyle.I do enjoy watching my spouse with a nother man and we have done mfm many times and we do.enjoy couples. She has asked me about her having a fwb male. She has been talking to a grat looking guy from site and now has askwd if he can take her on a date overnight and a night of safe solo hot sex. I do feel my ego hurt a little; but rather her be open than cheat and not tell. She says its a fantasy thing:sexual.thing. a boy toy thing. Do any of you do this allow her to play solo? How do I accept it a little better? Some one I read said she texts him telling her spouse whats going on and OMG and keeps spousw in tuned. I just want others to share what they do; away its wxciting for all want to get

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i cant imagine what you are feeling but im sure its not good. If it helps, GF was on top of me one time and we were going at it hard. she tilted her head down at the same time i was picking mine up. Dont know how it didnt break my nose

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According to her, the accident was him smashing his head into her nose while fucking.

I'm trying to envision how this happens without negligent wild behavior, and I can't.

I also am rational, yet irrational enough to recognize the problem I have with this, which, Nic, in all fairness, you can't properly judge, from your perspective, being a single.

Bottom line is I ALLOWED my wife to go out and fuck another man, and he injured her, and I wasn't there. I see this as much MY failure as his. My only moral consolation is that I've never done anything similar to any other woman. And it will take me a long fucking time to get over this.

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Something tells me you aren't getting the whole story. If the dood hurt her why is she defending him? Is this "freak accident" her face smashing into the headboard while he was fucking her or did she fall out of a swing or was there some rape fantasy role play going on?

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I've never injured anyone either. I've cracked skulls, and in a freak occurrence, broke my nose, but barely so, and with nary a black eye.

The Dood should have done the right thing and insisted that your wife let him call you on the phone, either that night or the following day.

It's unconscionable to send someone's SO home in that condition without a word.

BT

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My rules for Robin playing alone with single men have changed. It won't happen anymore. I will be present or it ain't gonna happen.

A local club is open on Wednesday nights, and Robin frequently went there alone to play with single men. Nothing bad had ever happened. Then last week she went out as usual, but came home with a broken nose and a concussion. She swears it was a freak accident, and that the douchebag in question feels terrible about it. I don't give a shit.

I've played with dozens of women since we've been swinging and have never injured any of them.

The nose breaking asswipe was on the TO DO list of two hot unicorns who are friends of mine. But no longer. And I took great pleasure in destroying his chances with them. Given the high schoolish nature of the swinger lifestyle, the story will be spread farther than them.

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I would have been ok with one single guy at one time , but the wife would not do it but since the single guy has kinda turned into some what of a mess . And now we stay away from him . My wife won't do it but gets excited talking about it so we are going to leave it that way and work on the fantasy of it . We will continue same room both partners present so the safety of mainly my wife .

Had a single guy try to slip and go in the wrong hole and my wife kicked him . So she wants me there .

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This is the Husband writing, - our number one rule is we discuss everything. We have agreed that our marriage is the most important thing to us and what ever we do in this lifestyle we both have to agree to it or we will not do it. I can not tell you how to handle your situation, but for me I have only met one single male out of many that I will allow my wife to play solo with. When I say play solo I mean without me in the room or home. It can be an outing, at his apartment. Our situation is not the normal on this site and my wife's happiness is very important to me.

My questions to you are;

1. Have you met with this guy as a couple. 2. Have you discussed what is and what is not expected. 3. Are you and your wife on the same page in this lifestyle?

In my case any male playing with my wife has to show respect for both of us, and be mindful that when my wife plays it is with both our approval. My wife and myself have rules we play by, and with mutual agreement this swinging thing is working out for us. We insist on first and second no play meeting to see if there is a connection. If your wife is playing on a different page then you are, then I may have to suggest you re-evaluate you two playing in this lifestyle.

From the Husbands point of view.

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FunLoversMP is off-the-charts self centered and selfish, demanding her cake and eating it too. Why does she even bother to be married? She wants to live the life of a single woman while having the benefits of marriage without any of the responsibilities. Perhaps she needs the financial support while she plays. And she is already laying out her plan of how she'll dump her current husband as she did the previous one, should a man she likes better comes along. That shouldn't take long for someone unable to commit to a marriage beyond the formality of saying "I do".

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Spot on s _ couple (8 posts down)! Bull's-eye!

As for me...I now have my "write in" vote for President. ..it's YOU!

And I don't wven care what your politics are, your "swing-a-nomics" are right on.

Mr dances

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"When a guy is that insecure, I stay far FAR away."

Ditto that.

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TOPIC: letting wife play solo; advice