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TOPIC: Why is it the single males chicken out
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I agree. You cannot define all single men as assholes. My current pet peeve are couples actually....the single men have been tons more respectful and sexually a turn on than my married brothers have. Hell, the married men I have encountered act like they can't piss a drop unless their wife is there to hold it. Man, I'm glad Jay is independent and doesn't need my permission to breathe. Shelly


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This is a double sided issue. I can tell you of several occassions where I had a meeting set up with a couple and they were either no-shows, or canceled at the very last minute with no real reason. The problem isn't with guys, girls, or couples...it's with people who aren't serious about meeting others and are all about talking about what they want to do.

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I don't have any respect for people...single or couples , who set something up and then don't show. If you make a firm date you should show up...or have a very good reason why you can't and at the very least notify the other party in advance as to why. Just common courtesy in my book. Jay :

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Ditto here as well!

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TT good post!

I will say that we have worked this lifestyle to our advantage most of the time but the last two single males we approached and sought after like a fisherman seeks a bass. We did not have the "Catch and release" policy in mind and we did speak on the phone.

I took some great points out of Triples post, good advice and thank you!

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That's happened to us, too! Either they don't make themselves available for a call, OR its only the hubby and "the wife is visiting her mother".

We only look for a single male to join us about once a year or so, and I find it amazing that I can spend a couple of months working on it! S

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Excellent point, WM. Because there are no clubs or meet & greets here, we start out with messages, then always ask for a phone conversation before meeting. We try for a photo, too. Many "interested couples" evaporate when it comes down to that phone call to make certain that there are two of them! LOL

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Sadly what Uriah and Triple said about wannebees is so true. With the free membership singles guys (some posing as single females) fly thru sites like this in waves. They normaly think if they post a profile all the horny people should come running to them. Then when they do finally get someone to take interest they are rude and can't keep a commitment to save their life. To them the chase and fantasy are more important then actually meeting and having some fun.

When ever I make a date I will give out my cell number. If the person(s) I'm meeting are respectful they will call to cancel. So far I have never had to call to cancel from myside.

Couple or single at some point you will find someone that talks the talk, but has no respect for your time when you are ready to meet. The best way to help weed them out is to talk on the phone and/or meet in a short order. That way if they stand you up or refuse to talk on the phone you know to move on and stop wasting time on them.

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JuliaRebecca-

LOL! Frankly, I attend a birthday gang bang for a lady in a neighboring state who maintains a very large swing group, and she asked me to write a primer. I started it; there is a draft on my computer; I got distracted and had to put it down, and it fell off of my To Do List. Your comment has caused me to put it back on. Thanks for reminding me.

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Seems like the people who want to play (couples and singles) always hook up with the people who are fakes. No slam at singles here; we have had more couples turn out to be *flakes* than we have singles.

Uriah and Triple: I don't think either of you come off as arrogant. Your advice always seems to be thought-out, meant to enlighten, and based on experience ... You are two I have learned from since taking up this pastime.

Ever thought of collaborating on a book? "Swinging Sex and the Single Male"? :-)

Julia

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