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TOPIC: Why is it the single males chicken out
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Wow, I am sorry that I missed this topic when it was going hot and heavy. I hope my opinion doesn't put anyone off. Not to be too simplistic, but single guys trying to connect run into the same problems, obstacles and trepidation as do couples. When a single guy stands you up, (to paraphrase the fictional owner of the Cleveland Indians in Major League), CROSS HIM OFF THEN! Move on. When the guy stood you up on that first date, were you going to play on the first date? Probably not. Did you just go home? Again probably not. You and your partner made the best of a bad situation - had a little dinner, a little drink, a little dancing and a liot of you know... Life is full of disappointments, don't let it color your thinking. If you are looking for single guys, keep on looking. The guys who disappoint you probably would not have been your cup of tea anyway. But consider this, what are you looking for? That guy who fulfils a need. You might have to weed through a rough patch to find him. You might have to suffer some boors to connect with him. You might have to walk two miles further than you intended to discover that he was walking behind you all the time. I am a single guy who has been a member of this site for some time. I have answer more than 20 couple's ads (I like couples). Of all those ads, I can count the number of replies I have received on one hand. Of those five replies, two have politely told me no, thanks and the other three answered but nothing ever came of the contact after telephone chats. One memorable couple's (no names) reply took the form of a block. For whatever reason, there was no connection made with the others. I am not discouraged or angry. I persevere.

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As a single male playing in the lifestyle it's my observation that "patience" is the key word. Lets face it there are a lot of single guys trrying to make a connection...couples can pick and chose. I like to play with couples and once you (the single guy) gets established as serious about playing, invitations are not hard to come by. The best way to get established? SHOW UP!

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single no show... A friend,Uriah, had a gang bang planned and we4ll worked out, we thought. The only men who showed after accepting were the married men... Go figure...

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TT is right. In our area, there are a ton of single male profiles. Out of those, only about 20% are serious. We tend to meet them through other couples now. One thing we've found, by past experience, is that the serious ones aren't rude and obnoxious, and they'll definitely show up if invited. S

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I, being a single male, haven't been the one to chicken out. Though i can see where ya'll are coming from. I was invited to meet this one couple and then last minute they pulled out saying they were just gong to go out to a club instead. I tried calling them back the next day like we agreed to set up another possible day we could get together, but they never answered theri phone and haven't responded to my email. I'm hoping to have a littel better luck in the future, but i just hate being jerked around.

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single woman here never had a problem... guess i have been lucky :)

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We haven't done many threesomes with single men, but roughly 50% of them do show up, are what they represented themselves to be, and can perform capably and comfortably in a threesome.

We've had only 1 or 2 couples in 10 years who failed to show or cancelled out.

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Shelly, you took words right out of my mouth! My major bitch about most couples is that the man is SO non-assertive that he looks to his wife for permission. With both of us, we're free thinkers and do what we feel is right at the time. Ditto on the couples up here. Although we've found some "special" people, we've met a lot of them where the men were lapdogs (sorry guys, this doesn't apply to everyone, but I'm sure you all have met someone like that). S

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I agree. You cannot define all single men as assholes. My current pet peeve are couples actually....the single men have been tons more respectful and sexually a turn on than my married brothers have. Hell, the married men I have encountered act like they can't piss a drop unless their wife is there to hold it. Man, I'm glad Jay is independent and doesn't need my permission to breathe. Shelly


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This is a double sided issue. I can tell you of several occassions where I had a meeting set up with a couple and they were either no-shows, or canceled at the very last minute with no real reason. The problem isn't with guys, girls, or couples...it's with people who aren't serious about meeting others and are all about talking about what they want to do.

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