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Having been both a couple and a single, I think the issue is what rdy2play says: inexperience in the lifestyle.

I suspect that these are guys who find the websites/ads, but have never been involved in any group play. The thought of another guy being there freaks them out. From what I've read on here, gangbangs especially suffer from guys flaking out. Theres a rule of thumb to invite like 3-4 times as many guys as you want, just to get enough guys to show.

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As a I tend guy I have never chickened out of meeting anyone. However I am aware that there are a lot of single guys who don't show. Having talked with a lot of different people I think there are a lot of different reasons why they don't show. Sadly there are a lot of guys who simply are not single and only looking for sex on the side and when the time comes they either can't get away or are afraid of being caught. I also think that some guys get some stage fright. It doesn't just happen to couples however. It also happens to us singles as well. I personally tend to find that most folks who have invested in a paid membership tend tend to be more likely to follow though. I have on occasion also found that after an initial contact some people tend to not really be what is actually advertised in a profile and sometimes become just to overly aggressive and I will just simply tell me no thanks.

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Do not know what the problem would be, but I find that it is the single ladies and couples, also some pertenders whom chicken out. All I know this single guy does show even at events that single's pay to get in, but also know that many wish that I was not there, ha ha each to there own .

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I have had the most success when I set up a Meet & Greet for selected couples and SFs and Single guys. These M&Gs are strictly a social event and if someone wants to meet at a later time for whatever they can do it privately.

Yes, most single guys who are inexperienced in the lifestyle just don't know how to go about it. It's a shame because it generates comments from couples that SMs are the low life's of this site and others. But, let me speak from experience there are lots of couples that act the same way.

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I think the reason they back out is after talking a lot of shit, they know they (a) can't live up to the hype or (b) the dick is whacked. That's why I try not to talk sex because people build up all these expectations and when it goes down and it doesn't jump off then someone is disappointed. Just meet and let it happen. If it doesn't work out, worse case you've made a new friend and move on to the next encounter. This is supposed to be fun!

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Most of the losers who back out never had intentions of meeting in the first place. There are allot of fakes flakes and jerk offs on this site. We have had best luck at house parties and club events. Sometimes I see new people who look scared and out of place. I remember we were like that before. Talking to them dont seem to help. Think maybe it just takes time.

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Being stood-up is never fun no matter when or where or which gender. If you're say to anyone I'll belly up, then commit. If you don't want to belly up, then don't commit.

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I've seen single females not show. Same for couples. People are people regardless of their living situation. Motivations for not showing will run the gambit. However, I've rarely felt as uncomfortable as being on a first meet date with someone that I have NO interest in. Buck up and get through it with kindness and class is the only respectable thing to do. I can see how folks wouldn't want to experience that. Truthfully though, whether it is swinging or vanilla life experiences, it is when we are uncomfortable that we are actually growing, learning and living. Every man dies. Not every man truly lives.

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DaveL33: Don't knock yourself. I am sure you're really fun and not like some who think they are so fucking hot and cute and can't even make a girl cum! Welcome to the Forums!....LOL

Vero Beach FL
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Welcome to the fora Central MA Dood!

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