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I agree with all, things happen. I have come to terms with the fact that not all people are as blunt as I am, so I expect nothing. Thats the easiest thing I have found to do, is to expect absolutely nothing. There is just too much frustration when you do. Still though, its just plain ass rude.

No excuse, there is a decorum amongst adults.

Shelly

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It's not just couples that have this problem. TT is right on when he suggests experienced single males are impossible to find. Unicorns I can get. It is pressure to have sex with couples. I'm constantly aware of what is going on. It's only with regulars that I let my guard down.

Example. I have a new male friend. He is vanilla. Meaning despite his extensive experience he's a newbie at the games I like to play. He's got all the right credentials. Intelligent, street smart, successful at work, a good father, priorities in order. etc. He's even dominant. I started thinking....WOW, it's only taken me a year to find a replacement for my now distant gentleman-dogs.

I really have very simple needs. I merely want a man to grab me by the hair and take what I'm very willing to give. No strings other than the common courtesies expected amongst friends.

Well it's not that simple. He may actually want to just be friends. I have different levels of male friends. He will well fit into my life. But I'll be damned What's a picky, party grrl to do. I have no problem waiting for the right gentleman to come along. But, Damn they are rare.

4play...don't give up. They are out there. hugs.

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Don't get me wrong, Shelly. I can only imagine how frustrating and dissappointing is can be. But such is life. I am just saying that in this lifestyle, one plus one does not always add up to two. Just because one guy does one thing is no solid reason to believe that all guys will do that. Really now, the shy, less than confident guy who stands up a couple on a first date could turn out to be THE GUY; while the eager guy who arrives on time could have stank breath and horse fly BO.

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I understand, but its very dissapointing and frustrating. Shelly

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Wow, I am sorry that I missed this topic when it was going hot and heavy. I hope my opinion doesn't put anyone off. Not to be too simplistic, but single guys trying to connect run into the same problems, obstacles and trepidation as do couples. When a single guy stands you up, (to paraphrase the fictional owner of the Cleveland Indians in Major League), CROSS HIM OFF THEN! Move on. When the guy stood you up on that first date, were you going to play on the first date? Probably not. Did you just go home? Again probably not. You and your partner made the best of a bad situation - had a little dinner, a little drink, a little dancing and a liot of you know... Life is full of disappointments, don't let it color your thinking. If you are looking for single guys, keep on looking. The guys who disappoint you probably would not have been your cup of tea anyway. But consider this, what are you looking for? That guy who fulfils a need. You might have to weed through a rough patch to find him. You might have to suffer some boors to connect with him. You might have to walk two miles further than you intended to discover that he was walking behind you all the time. I am a single guy who has been a member of this site for some time. I have answer more than 20 couple's ads (I like couples). Of all those ads, I can count the number of replies I have received on one hand. Of those five replies, two have politely told me no, thanks and the other three answered but nothing ever came of the contact after telephone chats. One memorable couple's (no names) reply took the form of a block. For whatever reason, there was no connection made with the others. I am not discouraged or angry. I persevere.

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As a single male playing in the lifestyle it's my observation that "patience" is the key word. Lets face it there are a lot of single guys trrying to make a connection...couples can pick and chose. I like to play with couples and once you (the single guy) gets established as serious about playing, invitations are not hard to come by. The best way to get established? SHOW UP!

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single no show... A friend,Uriah, had a gang bang planned and we4ll worked out, we thought. The only men who showed after accepting were the married men... Go figure...

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TT is right. In our area, there are a ton of single male profiles. Out of those, only about 20% are serious. We tend to meet them through other couples now. One thing we've found, by past experience, is that the serious ones aren't rude and obnoxious, and they'll definitely show up if invited. S

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I, being a single male, haven't been the one to chicken out. Though i can see where ya'll are coming from. I was invited to meet this one couple and then last minute they pulled out saying they were just gong to go out to a club instead. I tried calling them back the next day like we agreed to set up another possible day we could get together, but they never answered theri phone and haven't responded to my email. I'm hoping to have a littel better luck in the future, but i just hate being jerked around.

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single woman here never had a problem... guess i have been lucky :)

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