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I posted this several days ago in another forum and it went nearly un noticed. So I thought I'd post it here and see what replies come of it.

Ok, Here's my Bitch of the day or many days……

I'm not complaining, however I will say my success on this site is nearly zero, compared to other sites. And believe it or not, this is the only site I have paid for. All the other sites I'm listed on I'm a free member, and have had much better results.

I can certainly understand how most folks here are getting so frustrated with this site and the people on it. And I don't really think its all the single males fault either. I can understand the frustrations the single male goes through, as it seems couples toss them off without any respect, ( as not answering e-mail etc. etc.) In addition, I have been reading about the male that doesn't show up. Well, I can attest to many couples and females that don't show up either. So maybe bashing the single male isn't really a good idea. And I'm sure I'm not alone in being the only single male that was ever stood up. Oh, I understand there may be a few things that would prevent a meet from time to time. But at the last minute, and when its too late to turn back, isn't the way to go about it.

Seems everybody "claims" they want to meet", they say no limits, and also brag about how ready and horny they are, and will meet anybody anywhere anytime, and do anything. BUT, when it actually comes down to real meeting they nearly ALL have some last minute stoppage. Like, “Oh, I got called in to work,…. Or… the kids got sick,…. or relatives came to visit, or….. something so far out, that when one thinks about it, it can be seen right through to be a fake excuse. Why do they let things go so far, then just quit and cop out.? If they are really interested in meeting, wouldn't it be so much more polite to say in the beginning the truth and get on with it, instead of the lame excuses. Or even early on in the chat or e-mail, say, “Sorry, thanks but no thanks. When if they ever do answer mail. And that's another thing, here on this site. I'm on several other sites and they have a set percentage of your incoming mail they require you to answer, even if its a, “Sorry, thanks, but no thanks.”. And if you are getting rude and or send repeated harassment mail. They will boot you off the site permanently. And to report it to the site admin, all ya gotta do, is tell the admin and that offending member is either blocked or cut off the site entirely. No hassles.

5 and a half years member. I sent more than 290 emails out. Only 11 return mails. 4 actual face to face meets. 2 play dates. Both were fantastic too. I've been stood up no less than 22 times. 3 from one individual 5 from one other.

Now I know, I'm not a looker like a movie star, but not ugly neither. And each of the email I sent out, I met all of the qualification requirements listed on the profiles. i.e. age, distance, single, male, pic included, interests listed, etc. etc. I also never sent out any rude, harassing nor nasty emails. I always explained the shared interests listed, and never did a one liner or smug email.

I know there will certainly be some smart ass on here that will answer “Aww , don't get your panties in an uproar, and don't get like a crybaby, and quit your wining, or go to those other sites.” But, in closing, I will ask all of you this. WTF are you all doing here any way.? isn't this a site to meet and play.?

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Yes, we have fun at meet and greets. Honestly for us its usually a way to hang out with friends in a more laid back atmosphere. Not all are open to single men but we have been to a few that are!!


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I'd say there are two things:

1. Many single males aren't really swingers. They just say they are and try their best to fit in... but when it comes to it, they're scared for some reason or another. You know, "talk the talk, but can't walk the walk".

2. They're only after the pictures and if lucky, the videos too. Many of these "collectors" don't care for meeting and will play along until they have what they want.

There are single women like that too. I've heard many stories.

Me, I used to chicken out a lot, so I know. Back in the 90's when I started using AOL, I'd talk with the very few who would accept me and I'd ruin it by not meeting them. I wanted to be a part of it, but I had so many worries. I found out that it took me a long time to get comfortable enough with the couple and most couples, while not being pushy, weren't wanting to waste their time with me.

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With us, we don't have issues with the men not showing up...our issue is the fact that WE have such busy lives and cannot drop everything at a minute's notice, THEY usually get impatient lol. SNAP! Excuse me for being busy heehee.


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Sometime this past summer we came up with a new policy of not considering any profile that did not have at least one believable certification. Since then we have not been stood up even once. Not to say that no one is any good unless they have certs, just that if someone has certs, the odds are greatly improved that they are genuine.

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Yes it can definately be a challenge and I do agree....its a shame that the fakers, usually married cheaters might I add who are not single in the first place, give the "single" a bad name.


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Nice, glad you had fun Florida!


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Welcome Gator, and hang in there...you'll be an old pro in no time! :)

Lawrenceville GA
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LOL ....Phil I would love to here your noise......hehe

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Well yes, Dallas isn't that far away from Austin.


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