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I think this can happen to anyone in the lifestyle regardless of gender or commitment level. What gets the juices going at 1 AM with a Cap'n and Coke in hand may not seem so appealing come date night. I have personally never backed out on a date but have had some buyer's remorse when the pics looked better than what was in front of me. Either way, I always make the best out of the bad situation as you can never have too many friends in the lifestyle.

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Of course you've fortunate meeting people, your a TOTALBABE! ;)


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Being a single guy, make that a busy single guy, who never really had time to explore the Forum, when I saw the heading, “Why is it the single males chicken out,” I decided to read it. During my spare time over the course of two days, I read all the posts, from the first to the last.

To my surprise it wasn’t all single male bashing, but quite a few people mentioned that females and couples also “chicken out” in one fashion or another.

Being straight, I’ve never set up a date with a single male, so I can’t speak knowledgeably about that. But I’ve experienced it with single ladies, and with couples. It’s been the full range of experiences. Some were very interested to meet then suddenly lost interest. Perhaps they later realized we weren’t a match, but didn’t have the fortitude to communicate that. Others would set up an initial get-acquainted meeting without expectations to play, but would call to cancel. I understand something can come up last minute, and I appreciate them letting me know, but when they then disappear off the radar it makes me wonder. Lastly were those who scheduled the get-acquainted meeting, but never called to cancel and never showed up. Like everyone else who experiences this, I find it quite frustrating.

Thankfully, I have met some very nice people, too. The first couple I ever played with was very kind and patient with me, and I really appreciated it. I’ve had the privilege of doing something similar when I helped a new couple feel comfortable playing. I’ve also met other interesting people, single ladies and couples. Yet, unfortunately in my experience, these quality single ladies and couples have been outnumbered by the flakes and no-shows. And yes, count me as one of the single males who has always shown up.

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Kinky

I agree 100%.

As a guy. There are not many things that I wouldn't drop in a heartbeat to have sex. Ill call in sick to work. Ill cancel other plans. Ill reschedule dinner with grandma. Hell, Ill tell friends from out of town that I havent seen in years, that "Im going to have to be late"

Thats me

The notion that guys are horny dogs and always want to screw anything anytime couldnt be further from the reality.

Our experience is exactly the same as yours. Profiles on 2 sites with more incoming email than we can read. A craigslist ad that got 200 responses.

And out of the tons and tons of people we responded back to that we would have met.......Nothing....

We literally manage to play maybe a few times a year. And that usually ends up being chance encounters that just sort of happen.

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It is funny, reading through this thread that started more than 4 years ago and things don't seem to have changed at all. We decided to do the almost unheard of as a couple and post that we ONLY want single men. We figured we would be bombarded with emails and we were right - but - not ONE of those men have been able to even commit to a meet date, let alone to go so far as to stand us up for one. It has been crazy. We thought for sure we would at least have met with one of them by now and they have responded in droves. But, it is still the same thing as I have read throughout all of these posts, they want to talk dirty and exchange emails - mainly they want to treat us as an interactive porn site. Being webcam models ourselves, we already do this and get paid for it so we aren't interested in doing it on this site. We have both been in this lifestyle for years despite the newness of our profile and really thought this would go differently as we HAVE had fairly decent luck with couples. Guess we will see if anything changes in the months to come. Oh, one other thing to mention, we also have on our profile that we are interested in Bi men as well as straight - guess how many "straight" men have come out of the closet to us? lol

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I also have never chicken out or not show up to get together with couples that do enjoy the pleasures of a single male which finding out now being in the lifestyle for about 7yrs now before as a couple but now single im finding out alot more couples don't even want anything to do with us, Cause it takes one bad single guy to act like a ass to give us goodones a bad name.

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While there are more single men who some make it worse than others, the numbers are even across the board. There are single women who back out as well, even couples, who have 2nd thoughts when comes to meeting, especially newbies. For the couples it's considered cold feet, the women is protecting herself, and for single guys, it's posers. It's unfortunate it happens to anybody. But ask any experienced swinger, there has probably been a time they have been stood up or somebody backed out (ie. car problems, had to work, no babysitter, etc.). Sometimes you never hear from these people again for whatever reason. It's something that in the lifestyle you have to deal with especially in meeting someone in a personal (1-1, 2-1, 2-1) setting.

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All I can say is WOW!!

I hear this read this post from a lot of couples and I can not for the life of me understand why single men do not show up or at the very least call.

It is such a PITA (pain in the ass), for the sincere one's to prove that we are different from the one's that have ruined it for the single guy.

Hang in there and if you ever come to the Chicago area, I promise to show up if contacted!!!

Pete

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Old thread I see but it hasnt changed. We have been away from this for about a year and a half and are just getting back into it.

We're on 2 sites, have tried multiple times with multiple people to set something up and so far every single one has been a no-show or last minute cancel.

With that said, in the past we did have successful meets. So its not every single guy out there.

I think a lot of our problem is the age range we like. I think young guys without previous experience tend to get cold feet when they go to leave the computer screen.

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ive never chickened out on a meeting or play. i consider it an honor that a couple would like to invite me into their lives. To me its all about having fun and leaving the drama out.

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