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Panhandling in the swing community doesn't work?

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A Single male initiating contact with a couple and basically pleading to get laid, might as well go somewhere else.

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Littleone. There is nothing from your profile, age, or body pic that strikes me that you would strike out 100% of the time.

Its something in your approach. Youre doing it. If in 2 months you sent out 100 emails. Either you spend a huge amount of time on here, or you are just mass mailing.

When couples write profiles, and they put things specific in them. MOST are not kidding.

Did you overlook that they said "face pic in first email?" And not send one? You got deleted

You can tell right from a profile usually, whether or not you will get a response.

I guarantee that you are emailing people that have already told you in their profile they are not interested.

Slow down. Read more. Find people that you fit their criteria. Follow their profile directions. And you will get action on here.

Plenty of examples of single men 40+ on the forums right here who have a lot of success.

Tim

Youre not out of the game yourself. Get some better pics. And do the same thing. Yes, to be blunt. A heavyset older gentleman is going to appeal to a smaller group. So look for that group.

If the couple youre emailing shows a man with a gym body. Youre wasting your time.

But there are plenty of couples who arent gym perfect. And dont require that either. Spend your time on them.

Ive lost 20 lbs since my pic on here. Im now considered a "skinny guy" but honestly I would avoid couples myself who were gym bodied since Im not. Because I know they are getting flooded with emails from guys who are.

I would seek out a few couples who are similar in body to me. And put on my best pitch and Ill get in someones bedroom in a couple days.

Ive done it before. Its worked.

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LittleOne350,

I agree with an earlier poster: having "Little One" in your handle does not advance your brand. I would also avoid variations that include the words "Limpy" or "Venereal".

=== I am really beginning to wonder if this is all for real

Yes, this scene is for real. It is not here to serve any one person, though. Like life, it's got nothing to do with "deservin'". Someone told me once that our success in this world is driven to a large degree by how small we can keep the difference between how we view the world and how the world really is. It's going to be what you make it.

=== I would sure love the opportunity to meet them and prove them wrong

Going into anything around here with an end game of "I told you so" is not going to attract inquiries. Get togethers are more about collaboration, fellowship, and friendliness (how can we be good for each other?) than confrontation and making someone else feel "wrong".

Don't be angry, bitter, or tired. Instead, think of how you can advance your interests by default when advancing those of others.

Hope that this helps. There is no playbook for being the best you can be around here, but there is a lot of good counsel in these forums.

K

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I agree with Akron on that one. I'm pretty sure you meant it because of your height. But that it not what it brings to mind as being little.

I would re-do your profile making it interesting and what your honestly looking for. Try for no negativity.

PG

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Little one was probably not the smartest choice for a profile name as a single male on a swing site.

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These are 2 very successful Single Men... look at their profiles and forum messages. That might help some too.

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Well said cjf....

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Littleone, just relax. It is a longer process for us single males, but just sit back and let them come to you. The majority of people that are interested in us want to contact rather than the other way around. The forums are a good way to enjoy the lifestyle before you really get to enjoy it. There are a lot of good people in here, and you can make a name for yourself. However, people in the lifestyle are here for fun. They don't like whiners and single males who express their concern about not getting to play are definitely seen as whiners. I'm just telling you like it is, I am in no way disrespecting you. You have to understand that syupply and demand is in full force in the lifestyle and there is a huge supply of us. Jump in the other threads and have a good time. Sit back and wait for that first play date, after that, things will change. It took a few months for anyone to give me a chance. And when they did and gave me a cert everything changed. Again no disrespect, but your profile sounds like your trying to hard. Almost like your apologizing for being a single male right off the get go. It sounds a little desperate. I would take some of that out and see if it doesn't help. Just don't expected too much too soon.


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If you are planning a meet with a couple, yes, it can take time. You say in your profile that you work in the evenings... that makes it tough in this lifestyle... and if they have kids, that's another hurdle to schedule around. If they are anything like me, I want to get to know someone as a person first. That means chatting for a while to see if there's any chemistry. If I were to chat with you and pick up on that negative vibe... sorry, but we wouldn't even be having coffee.

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