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TOPIC: Why is it the single males chicken out
Created by: 4playlovers
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It makes no sense to me at all when I read about single men being so mistreated.. even though they really are in the forums. I am really starting to believe there is no such thing as a single male that will meet us! Maybe it is us...

Look, we rarely seek singles in the lifestyle but when we do the females are far more likely to show than the males! Who would have thunk... 4 years in the lifestyle, we may have courted 10 to 12 single males and not one has done what they say they were going to do... SHOW UP FOR THE FIRST DATE! Much less even call to say they were lost or late or something.

Now we have courted two single females and both not only did show up but we hit it off very well.

This is not a desperation plea as we do find a way to meet some great people on the site but we are so darn puzzled by what we expected to be the opposite in this lifestyle!

We welcome your thoughts and tips on what we may be doing wrong...

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I had "Hubby Fear" early on. it just went against years of Vanilla life to have him next to, watching or teaming up on his Wife. Had lots of experience with MFF++, but took awhile for MWH to get OK. Luv it now. Always show. Sometimes it's hard to meet, because I live 100 mi's from most activity. Had to learn "manners" too. First meeting is a great part of the Life and stay in my age range. No Surprises, thanks, LOL.

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IMO...

Because they aren't actually "single".

Chesapeake VA
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It does seem that the vast majority of single guys here flake out and are no shows....odd, we get tons of mail from them but when it comes time to meet they disappear.

We also find that many single men here aren't single.and many single men are not interested in "swinging"..first thing many say is...do you play alone....get lost dirt bags.

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It does seem that the vast majority of single guys here flake out and are no shows....odd, we get tons of mail from them but when it comes time to meet they disappear.

We also find that many single men here aren't single.and many single men are not interested in "swinging"..first thing many say is...do you play alone....get lost dirt bags.

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BLT, it's always been my pleasure to please any lady I'm with. But, all the pleasure is first started with trust and communications. I'm not like most guys, my expectations are to see her satisfied and then I know she will return the pleasure.

Brick NJ
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Rdy: Paragraph two has been my experience most of the time. Perhaps I should put you on retainer.....LOL!

Vero Beach FL
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BLT, even if they did all show up, they most likely couldn't get it up. That's why whenever I host a gang bang I never put out a "Cattle Call" for guys. I have a group of men that I know and can call upon to satisfy any lady. They are experienced, respectful and know the protocol to follow for complete satisfaction.

Just about the worst thing that can happen to a lady is to get high on being pleasured and it doesn't come close to expectations.

Brick NJ
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OMG, Flydoc, who has crowd control duty if they all were to show....LOL

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Having been both a couple and a single, I think the issue is what rdy2play says: inexperience in the lifestyle.

I suspect that these are guys who find the websites/ads, but have never been involved in any group play. The thought of another guy being there freaks them out. From what I've read on here, gangbangs especially suffer from guys flaking out. Theres a rule of thumb to invite like 3-4 times as many guys as you want, just to get enough guys to show.

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As a I tend guy I have never chickened out of meeting anyone. However I am aware that there are a lot of single guys who don't show. Having talked with a lot of different people I think there are a lot of different reasons why they don't show. Sadly there are a lot of guys who simply are not single and only looking for sex on the side and when the time comes they either can't get away or are afraid of being caught. I also think that some guys get some stage fright. It doesn't just happen to couples however. It also happens to us singles as well. I personally tend to find that most folks who have invested in a paid membership tend tend to be more likely to follow though. I have on occasion also found that after an initial contact some people tend to not really be what is actually advertised in a profile and sometimes become just to overly aggressive and I will just simply tell me no thanks.

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