Like I keep saying on here. Honesty goes a long way. We've been at this long enough that we see right through the excuses. Having to drive grandma to the hospital worked on us the first time. Years later and 10 guys later using that same one....Now we laugh at it "Getting called into work" Worked the first time. Getting that line for 80% of our planned meetings.....It doesnt work anymore.. If youre an emergency room doctor, we'd believe you. But a cashier at Sears getting called in at 10pm on a sunday? Nah Now.....If you call us to cancel and say "Hey guys, now that the day is here, Im having second thoughts, Im not so sure Im ready to go through with this" NO PROBLEM.....Thats honest!!! We would not be mad. And we would gladly spend extra time with you online and not turn down meeting when you felt more comfortable. You would not be added to our "BS Single guy list" Thats all most ask for.

The way i see it, should a single recieve an invite to meet a couple or another single ,m&g or play. then not show, i am very sure the word will get around ,the no show not worth there time ,he will pay very hard for the no show.
Should you recieve a invite and cannot make it for a just reason,,, then tell your inviter the reason you cannot show.
My loonies worth,,, lol.

I think its just that in real life people are a lot more shy than they think when it comes to stuff like this.

Any random person could come up to me and be like "Hey, can I see your dick?"
Id pull it out before giving a second thought to if they were serious. Im just that comfortable. I dont give a moments thought about getting naked in front of other people.

Others however, getting naked and showing your "private parts" to strangers is a BIG thing. So its understandable when its an hour from showtime and they start having second thoughts.

I understand Memphis crew what you all are saying. However, even some of the real single males on here have lives and priorities. Much as I love pussy and enjoy fucking, if I have to work, I go to work. If I have my son for the weekend, I'm not leaving him hanging, when he is expecting to roll with Dad for the weekend. Pussy for some of us we can get with and without SLS. So yes, I may decline attending a gangbang if I know I have sexy Cindy coming over tonite, and I don't have to wait in line like I'm at a deli counter with dick in hand. Yes it can be hard to get guys together sometimes for a gangbang, but it doesn't mean those who don't attend are flakes.

Just because a man is listed as single looking for couples does not mean that he will do anything warm! Nor should it. I did not read anywhere that to be a single male on this site you had to forfeit your right to choose! As a couple open to single men I can say that we have been very fortunate in finding quality amazing guys here. It might change in time but right now there are more good than bad experiences. There have been some flakes but we really saw that from the get go and just played along for fun. For the record and for his reputation CJF is an incredible person all around and maintains a standard that is admirable. Maybe if he does not want to be with you it is because you are not his thing not because he is anything less than what he says. It would be different if he had lurked or inquired or anything like that but again I do not think that he forfeited his right to say no by listing himself here as a single male.

Uriah, none taken, but you must understand that I have to vehemently protect my status as a single male. The main thing that I have learned on this site, in this lifestyle, is that everyone is here for precisely what they want. I may not agree with it, but it is their choice. And they can find it on this site. My experience as to date has only been with couples, which I am enjoying immensely. Maybe it will change, maybe it won't.

Sinbach, yours is truly a regrettable situation. Good luck.

Uriah . What are these guys afraid of. i am willing to drop my shorts in a heart beat, one on one or a couple, or group sex. the other post of mine, re las vegas event, the problems where crated by a single male with a date, whom turned the other couples against me, re telling me to fo, and not to host and remain in canada or else. As it turned out other couples now have amited that is what had happened. The damage is done and the reason my certs have been removed. I have done well on another site ,a life time member. But here on sls it sucks. I am one of them guys who will tell it like it is NO B.S. Read my profile. no bull all facts. Simon.

Cjf- No hard feelings. I am just trying to get some guys together to fuck a horny lady friend. There are at least 10 other SMs in our area who are on this site every day who have declined my specific invitation to fuck a sexy woman. I got started in the LS 10 years ago when I was invited to a gang bang in Nashville, and the organizer told me the hardest thing to do (even harder than a good couple swap), was getting a group of men together to fuck a woman. I could not believe it then, but I have learned from experience that it is true. My experience and sense is that the subject matter of this thread (i.e., the 95%) are on swing sites with the naive belief that it is a good place to find a sexy woman for cozy littlle 1-on-1 sex, and cozy little 1-on-1 sex only. Personally, I think these types should stay off the swing sites and stick to the vanilla dating sites.

Uriah, there a handful of people that I follow their post. They are enlightening, funny, helpful...too many good things to say about them. You are one that I have enjoyed reading. It's painfully and regrettably obvious who you are referring to. I respectfully declined your invitation once through email. I read the group page and many of your post and came to the conclusion that I am not what you are looking for. This is a public forum. Reputations that go towards character can be made though this. I hope that your "dare" has not affected mine. I never accepted your invitation or dare; therefore it cannot be said that I chickened out. This thread is about single males getting scared. I hope no one infers that about me.

I do not know what to believe,many includeing myself saying i am available. I will show for an event, or meet a single woman or couple, but to this day never recieved an invite to meet. I for one cohosted an event, in las vegas dec 09-10/2011. was told 6 days after to fuck off, never to host or else. At the event no one want to have anything to do with me, only one couple said thanks. All i get is hate mail from some ppl whom attented, telling me to stay where i am and not return, to the usa. The funny thing is it was a free event, paid for by me and my cohost who is well known. The other funny thing that happened was all i said to anyone was hello i am simon your cohost. Never ask by anyone to join them, in the fun there where haveing, now i read complains that singles do not show ,HELLO , have you ever ask me?. I am available ,ready, and willing. I may be in vegas this dec again, will i host again, not likely. To much b.s, from ppl whom want the world ,give no respect in return. Hello my name is simon and i am available. Sinbach1