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@kinky:

We have a couple SM we call on occasionally, yet use couples now for achieving what we needed a SM/SF for. So much easier swapping out for ffm, mfm, fmf etc.... and a whole bunch more combos. We are lucky to have a group of LS friends that play well together and do outings outside. Last night at the club, the Mrs found herself in a mfm while I was about 8ft away enjoying a ffm in the same room, which ended up in a mfffm and a M voyuering in the corner.

The Mrs blocked SMs recently due to often flagging and/or rudeness. Seems most don't learn from their mistakes or take the time to read or google.

~Allen

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Wasn't actually seeking advice but thanks.

I see this as 100% their issue not ours.

I just wanted to vent because we had a meet set up for today and suddenly no more communication. I'm not holding my breath.

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kinkykd, welcome to the forums and sorry for your run of bad luck with SMs.

it is unfortunately common not only for SMs but across the board for flake/no shows and dropping all communication fairly close to an actual scheduled meet.

as others have pointed out, there's no sure fire way to determine if a SM, SF, or couple is going to flake or leave (you) hanging, but a few things can help:

*paid membership

*photos (full body clothed and if asked face pics)

*willing to keep communications on the site

*doesn't ask or push for communications off the site

*at least one cert, and, when you check the profile of the person(s) who gave the cert, that profile also looks legit and "normal"

*is willing to either voice verify and/or meet "no expectations" fairly soon

*IF they have to cancel or postpone, does it in such a way to reassure they are sincere

also, as previously pointed out--meet n greets, parties, clubs: get out at least a few times, and even if you don't meet with hubba hubba playfriends, lifestyle non-play friendships can yield great opportunities for referrals.

good luck!

Bridgewater NJ
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I was just about to post a rant about single guys and saw this so I'll throw my thoughts here.

Single guys are pissing me off! We are very open to SMs, in fact, that's 99% of what we are looking for. However, we have not played for months. Why? Because every single guy we have been in contact with recently has either left us hanging at our first meet or simply quit communicating a day or 2 before the planned meet.

The number of "flat tires" and "car problems " leaves us wondering how any guy ever makes it to work! We will rarely give these guys a second chance and only if they let us know ahead of time they are not going to make it. Personally I would rather hear "I'm too nervous" or "I hot a better offer" than nothing.

SMs, if you don't want a bad rap them live up to your plans. We ALWAYS want a first meet to be causal and with no expectations and that is made clear in our in Initial contact. No pressure. If you don't like us no biggie.

Have some respect for the people who you are asking to take the time to meet you.

Monroe WI
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There you go, Sinbach! Easy fix. Problem solved!

BT

New Orleans LA
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What you guys can do is find a girlfriend and be a couple. Easy fix.

Buffalo NY
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No, I tend to disagree, Sinbach. Single guys can screw the pooch for other single guys just as easily and as frequently as married guys can.

New Orleans LA
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Because they have a ,,, something like ,I am really married ,and want to fuck things up for the real single guys .

Bradford Canada
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DP, yes great list and a list that should not only apply to couples but to SF's.

North Port FL
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Firstly, it is not only SM's that chicken out. I not to long ago chickened out of a first meet. I regretted it then and now. However I'm fortunate to have a second chance so I will be meeting him. You can bet this meet will go off.

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