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TOPIC: Why is it the single males chicken out
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DaveL33: Don't knock yourself. I am sure you're really fun and not like some who think they are so fucking hot and cute and can't even make a girl cum! Welcome to the Forums!....LOL

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Welcome to the fora Central MA Dood!

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I would not back out! There are a lot of people not looking for single males and a lot of parties that do not include single males. I might not be the best looking guy in the world but I'm fun!! I would never not show up. I won't 'chicken out'! I haven't had the pleasure of trying to meet couples or singles on here. Say hi to me! :)

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Well, never having set up a date with a single guy, I can't speak about other single guys from experience. *chuckle*

I have had a fair amount of flaking by couples, and a lot of flaking from single ladies. It surely is annoying when that happens, but thankfully many haven't flaked.

I have always shown up as planned. I had one occasion where it was kind of nip and tuck for a bit. I was traveling two hours from home and a couple midway on the trip wanted to meet for a get-acquainted coffee date. Neither of us knew each other and they were unwilling to exchange phone numbers, which was of course their privilege. Since I have an air card for my laptop, the plan was that I would chat with them on SLS once I got to their area. Well guess what, I get there (an hour away from home) and realize I'd left my air card at home! I quickly went looking for a wireless connection, found one at a coffee shop and got on-line. Though this delayed things, we did indeed have our coffee date. That's the closest I ever came to missing a date.

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WOW all kinds of new people posting. One of you I will personally say yes he always shows up and can deliver.

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I have no idea why other single males chicken out. I feel if I'm given a chance to meet a great couple I'm going to show. I know that couples sometimes have to get sitters or just make the time available in order to keep the date with the single male and out of respect for the couple the single male should show. If he can't make it he should at least have the common courtesy to call at least a day a head of the day they're supposed to meet so the couple can make other plans.

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After reading some of the posts (granted not all of them) I haven't seen yet where someone has suggested being more diligent in the art of reading the kinds of words, phrases and placement of words used in a profile and whether the person has more than one cert. Anyone can sign up for a second membership and give themselves a cert.

If you take the time to do that I can guarantee you will start to have more success in choosing those real males over the fake ones.

If you host a party and want 20 people to show up would you only invite 20? No, because there will be no shows. further just like the other gentleman said, it comes down to a numbers game with all of us. If there are more single men the single women on the site you really have to pay attention to the type of profile you are reading and not the fake pics.

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GREETINGS from surprise! I don't think you're doing anything wrong at all! As for myself, if I make a date I keep it. It's just the person not you. I'm still pretty new to all this but just keep this in mind. The 80/ 20 rule is alive and well every where. Just take a look sometime where you work. 20% of people work the other 80% sluff off. I've had some no shows but it happens just like some of the other folks have said. With that said, I'd go out with you! Grrrrrrrr! Lol!

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I think BT has covered most if not all of the bases. Being overly anxious is a real fucking turn off, at least for me, which is why I had SM blocked for a while. I prefer quality rather than numerous hook-ups which mean nothing but a notch on one's belt. Just breathe.....it will all come together.

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The TriFecta! Triple newbie Fora posters! Welcome one and all!!

As I see it, guys who know what they want and don't want out of these experiences tend to look at potential encounters from the standpoint of abundance versus scarcity. If you know what you're seeking, and you're patient and mature enough to look for, and wait for what you seek, you will never cancel, unless life throws you a curveball. In those cases, if you do the right thing, most of the time people will understand and you'll reschedule.

In my opinion, the problems start when SMs rush into things, thinking its now or never. (Scarcity vs Abundance). They approach, or are approached by a SF or Couple, connect via email, get a green light, and then get for lack of better words, so boned-up about the potential encounter that they can't see straight, and haven't thought through 1) if they're truly attracted to the other party, or 2) if they can actually go through with turning what had been up until this point a fantasy into reality. Of course, there's always 3) they've misrepresented themselves, and in meeting, they'd obviously be coming clean.

Any way you look at it, the situation sucks for the SFs and Couples...and the SMs who actually walk the walk.

Again, welcome gents.

BT

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