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User Details are only visible to members.	Something that Struck me as odd about the Poster I just replied to was How your insinuate you are basically staying becasue you pity your spouse, not because you love them.....
Burlingham NY			Username hidden (9213 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	imisgoodluvin *To you Looking ;* since you addressed me directly I will go through this one point at a time. * My wife does not know of me looking for pleasure with others, nor would she condone it. I will even admit, in a moral since that it is wrong what i am doing. And if you wanted to go deeper then that, any couple in this lifestyle could be looked at as doing something wrong, if a couple is so happy, why are they boning other people??* Our life is not boring , More to the point it is exciting so much so that we include others who are like minded to enjoy it with us. Further nor Do I have issues about lurking around behind my spouses back Looking for illicit sexual release, What we do is as a couple. So please cast your delusional Jealous aspersions elsewhere. *I seriously don't want to debate this at all, there are allot of ways to look at this, it just depends on who to are and how you think.* why do you not want to debate this issue??? You stated already you are lurking around seeking sex with others behind your spouses back without thier knowledge.... but do you think about what repercussions sexual activity may also bring with it the chance of exposing yourself to many different sexual diseases, that you may as well expose to your spouse unknowingly to her? Let alone you are also listed as a Bi male so your chances my be increased statistically to expose her as well? ( I am not bi Bashing but Bringing up a point of statistics) *I will not justify my actions with any excuses, bottom line is this: I can go on living life with out sex... I can masturbate to porn like I have been doing for over a year, and I can say that not to exciting anymore... or i can find another that I can share the pleasures of sex with. What do you think is best ???* you leave your spouse if it is So desperate as you make it out, I tire of hearing about all the excuses about how much it would cost, the bottom line if it is soo bad why stay at any cost? since You asked my opinion directly i will gladly offer it Stay out of this foray until you free your spouse from your cheating ways you are including others unwittingly into your tangled web of deciet. *Do I not have the right to be with someone else for sexual pleasure ??* Of course did you not marry this person? *My wife is older then I by 9 years and is aging badly. So should i leave her because of this??* If you are unhappy then yes? Is it right to cheat on her for your selfish pleasures alone? Do you stay because you pity her? *Would any of you just heartlessly walk out on your spouse that you raised a family with because of health issues ??* Firstly if my spouse did not want to swing I would walk away in a heartbeat. secondly since we have vows in which I hold true I would stand by her and Would not seek another for such Relief. Secondly Heartless- is to seek another for sexual pleasure instead of your spouse, Heartless- is also to state they Are Aging badly and use it as a reason to cheat. Heartless- is to Stay becasue you Pity someone, not becasue you love them. *I don't want to offend or argue with anyone on this, I'm here to make friends, so whats a guy in my situation to do ??* If you are so unhappy leave , How do you think she would feel when she finds Out you are doing this behind her back, let alone your reasons for doing this.... *Please no bashing here, i'm just a man in need of the simple pleasure in life.* No you are a selfish man without any regard for anothers feelings, be it your own spouse, I pity not you but those entwined in your life. you asked me For my Opinion and there you have it , May you reap the Crop you are sewing.
Burlingham NY			Username hidden (9213 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	if a couple is so happy, why are they boning other people??" Spoken like a true monogamist lol. I do not "bone" other people, I occasionally fuck them. That fact has nothing to do with the love within my marriage. For myself, I enjoy the variety non-monogamy brings. I am not monogamous. Not every person is a monogamous person just like not everyone is heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual. I am just me.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23645 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	You are so correct
Burlingham NY			Username hidden (9213 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Looking: Notice I said "What attracts me to this lifestyle (ok, aside from the hot kinky sex!) is the honesty and communication that it requires to be successful." Please note last word :) I don't think anyone in this life is SUCCESSFUL long term unless you have that communication. But that's just my opinion.....
Floral Park NY			Username hidden (55 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	lol Well don't go thinking there is all that open communication with all swingers.... There are plenty of people swinging who have issues as well, just as in the vanilla world. In our case we were pretty open in regards to comunication prior to starting to swing, and it is easier to comunicate ( for us)since. I understand what you are saying about people not believing you may have had the "ok" to seek others. we have Friends who at one point or another who went through it. But there are too many who are basically players or habitual cheaters who think this is another venue to score some strange on the side. This is not what "we " are here for .
Burlingham NY			Username hidden (9213 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I really think all this is not as 'pat' as it's made out to be. I stayed (twice) to see my kids grown. It was the best decision I ever made because it helped them immensely. During that time I was told by her "go find your own playmate" OK, so it's more communication then most of these guys are willing to muster...because I was the one that needed to muster it! For years I was that guy. It mattered not that I had 'permission'...no one wanted to believe-and in truth, I WAS living a lie-but at least I had my eyes open (mostly). Funny thing was?...When I finally put a period on the relationship SHE was the one that came moping around wanting to get back together... What attracts me to this lifestyle (ok, aside from the hot kinky sex!) is the honesty and communication that it requires to be successful. I don't think it's anywhere as prevalent in the vanilla world... Just my opinion.
Floral Park NY			Username hidden (55 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I concur Lost, My question is to those who always use the Standard , we have Drifted apart, or the sex is lacking , or whatever the reason why someone needs to seek another for what they are lacking. ( and I do not mean this to be directed at just men alone) I know She What is at stake when talk about seperating, but in reality it is just Stuff you mention , ie.-support etc. but If one is truly that u happy what price does one put on happiness? Logic dictates that if the price one must pay to if they are to leave thier spouse is not worth Leaving them for .Then by that logic that same person should not be seeking relief anywhere else. It is a Very selfish act
Burlingham NY			Username hidden (9213 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Honestly if the relationship is so lacking that The Cheater is seeking it elsewhere For any reason,Why stay?" I think She covered them well. Should they stay? No. I think if a marriage is that decayed they should sit and have the talk. But thats just me.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23645 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I can name you 3 things :)
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