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Many couples and SF's are interested only in straight males. Some of their profiles say outright that they have no interest in bi men. If they view a profile and see that a SM is indicating even a small bar on the profile for SM's, they might conclude that he isn't really straight, perhaps a closeted bi. At least, that could be the thinking of the SM, whether accurate or not. Perception is everything to people. So some straight males, in fact probably most, block other males. That was my thinking when I first started, aside from not wanting to receive mail from other guys hitting on me. But then I sought help creating a good profile. One SM offered help but pointed out that he couldn't see my profile, so I unblocked it. Since then I've not changed the setting back, partly because I remain in contact with that SM, and partly because, well, you can never have too many friends whatever their gender. If any couples or SF's see my profile and think I'm a closet bi, I can't do anything about that.

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I think it's a homophobia type thing..... This week a single male hit me up for some one on one (which I don't mind). Except he had his profile set to block single males!!! What's up with that??? If I'm not interested I just say so or delete the message/and or block the individual. I think that if someone blocks ALL single males then they should not be allowed to view other single male profiles..... But that's just my opinion.

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Instead of blocking them, you could use the NOTES section and leave yourself a reminder. You never know when someone could change their mind.

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Only ones I'm blocking are those that either don't respond or have indicated zero interest. And this is just so I don't inadvertently send them another email request. I simply don't want to become one of those pestering types inadvertently. Everyone else is absolutely able to view my profile.


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currentrider, I posted about it in the website area a couple of months ago "when is a block not a block"

received no reply from the sls powers that be.

right now we would love to show no interest in anyone, but if we do, we block everyone.

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Asplendid,

The answer is what PG said.

I'm seriously considering following Hikerdancer's approach. I still think it's goofy that SLS equates no interest to "please block". I don't see anyone explaining or supporting this practice. I should probably take this beef to the forum thread regarding the SLS site.

Wenatchee WA
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Shelly now you also have to show interest in them. When I took my interest levels to 0 for everyone no one could see our profile.

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I am not sure since the system upgrades, but in olden days in order to "HIDE" your profile from a group of people, (I think it's still in use also)

HOME PAGE -- select TOOLS ----select PRIVACY OPTIONS

and you should see a section that will allow you to HIDE your profile from males, females or couples. If you are a paid or lifetime profile, you can even HIDE your profile from FREE MEMBERS.

Previously, by doing that process... those groups could not see you, but you were able to view their profile.

On a side note, when MR. U was a SM and he was contacted by a couple that had SM's blocked in general (therefore HE could not see the profile contacting him) he would block that particular couple from the block option in the email.

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I am genuinely confused. There is clearly a choice between 'Block' and 'No' in the 'Who are you looking for?' Single Males category. Yes, SLS says SMs can't IM you (I've gotten several IMs over the years from 'straight' guys who see my profile and want to play away from their wives!), but SMs should be able to see the profile and see the 'meter' for SMs is zero and get the hint that they are not potential playmates. I have run across several profiles like this (I'm looking at one right now), and the site will let me send them mail, though I would not attempt to propose a tryst with them as they are clear about their preferences. However, currentrider, when I attempt to see your profile, I am blocked, what gives?

I agree that it seems really dumb of SLS to equate zero interest with "I want them blocked". And that changing the interest level to "a little" in order to solve this problem can only lead to confusion.

So why can I see some profiles with zero interest in SMs but not others?

Maybe it just works with couples? Maybe single guys have to have one segment on the bar section for single males, so other guys can contact them for non-sexual purposes.

SLS admins, can you shed some light on this?

Phoenix AZ
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I have several of the quick replies set up for the inevitable messages that you end up getting from people who aren't compatible for one reason or another.

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